Pastor Alan McGrath begins a series on complaining. Come by the church and grab a bracelet. Philippians 2:14-16.
Live Complaint Free – Phil 2:14-16
Introduction (map out next three weeks)Today - Umbrella Sermon (what falls under the umbrella of complaining we tend to stop)Introduce Main challenge for seriesWeek 2 - Complaining and RelationshipsEffects on Others/ How to say “no”Week 3 – Gratitude and Leading from VisionFirst – Claim that words matter.James 3:2-5 (READ IT)tongue is the bridle and the rudder.Proverbs 15:2 (NIV)“The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.”Ephesians 4:29“Don’t let any foul words come out of your mouth. Only say what is helpful when it is needed for building up the community so that it benefits those who hear what you say.”Will Bowen – “Our thoughts create our lives and our words indicate what we are thinking.”Goal – become more aware of our words. More Christ focused, Kingdom focused, better mirror the love of God.Definition: Complain = to express grief, pain, or discontent.When appropriate, when not. Begin to become aware of the times we complain throughout the day.“Complaining can be likened to bad breath. We notice it when it comes out of someone else’s mouth, but not when it comes from our own.”Complaining under our umbrella…#1 – Whining – every little thing. Things that don’t matter.#2 – Bragging –I can’t tell you how busy I’ve been. So many customers and I can’t keep up with them.So busy.#3 – Discriminatingcomplain about food so that others will think you are higher class/distinguished.#4 – Self-DefiningBlind man healed – had been blind his whole life. It was his identity. We don’t want to change because it is who we are.#5 – Nothing - It’s safe – weather, traffic, (doesn’t really hurt anyone, but starts conversation – first impression)All of these – energy of internal dissatisfactionnot content with what we have.Outside of the umbrella#1 – Rare events of “grief, pain, or discontent.”death in family, serious illnessdo occur – but not many times a day.#2 – Injustice and abuseSpeaking up for change (week 3)#3 – Venting to the right audience.Assertive word to those who can make change.Mailman was putting my mail in the wrong slot.who is the right audience?Friends on Facebook? Person making my coffee?venting – you have healthy way to unload, it’s gone, it’s not coming out again.Challenge21 Day No Complaint Challengeverbal complaintyou will begin to see when, where, why you complain.typed into a computer (facebook, email, text)you can catch someone else complaining, but you have to switch your bracelet too.Average 4 to 8 months. First bracelet is free, then $1 (for your or friends)other options – button in your pocket.Phil 2:14 = “Do everything without complaining” (NLT)Plant 200 seeds in the community. Lives changing away from complaining and moving towards living in gratitude, gentleness, love, and forgiveness.