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In today's episode we talk about dissatisfaction. What causes low or high level frustration in your relationship? Do you often think that your partner does not quite offer you what you want? Chronic dissatisfaction that does not get addressed can lead to resentment, constant bickering and possibly to the end of the relationship.

We discuss where the dissatisfaction comes from. Causes can be manifold and are not often pinpointed. It's helpful to identify whether this feeling is something that originates in us, our partners or in the dynamic of the relationship.

Dissatisfaction can be a manifestation of an insecure attachment style; we discuss how either an avoidant-dismissive or anxious-preoccupied can lead to dissatisfaction in the relationship. There is an underlying anxiety that your partner is not quite giving you what you need or that your partner is not trustworthy.

When both partners are frequently dissatisfied they might have got into a particular pattern and cycle together. This is true especially if one partner is anxious and the other avoidant.

Often dissatisfaction does not get addressed appropriately. One or both partners blame each other rather than looking at the underlying issues and at the relational patterns that have been established together. We discuss what action needs to be taken to voice your frustrations in a way that your partner can engage and hear what you have to say.

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Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively and addressing common relationship problems in our Stop Arguing, Start Loving mini course.

Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining loving relationships in our comprehensive course The Relationship Maze, starting with understanding yourself in relationships to understanding your partner and understanding what makes for a successful relationship. We look at common causes of relationship problems and offer solutions. Learn how to address relationship problems and questions without breaking up.