I Don't Know If This Counts: Asexuality 201

We do a deep dive into Someone You Can Build a Nest In, Wearing the Lion, and a sneak peak at what’s coming next! (And yes, I have finished Wearing the Lion!)

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

John Wiswell!, Someone You Can Build a Nest In, Wearing the Lion

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I absolutely adored talking to John about his media recommendations and the way he writes his fiction. Wearing the Lion comes out today!

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

Things to read:

Darcy Little Badger, author: Bookshop, Elatsoe

John Wiswell!, Someone You Can Build a Nest In, Wearing the Lion

Things to play:

The Outer Worlds, by Obsidian Entertainment: Steam

Things to watch:

Code Geass, especially for the character Lloyd Asplund

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Now we have fun with the greatest question of all. Is Tony Stark asexual? Is Batman aro?

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

Stuff to read:

Gwenpool

Nadia Van Dyne, The Unstoppable Wasp (said as Unbelievable in episode)

Stuff to see:

Dear Luke, Love Me, on MUBI

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Here we talk about the long journey to realizing you are both asexual and aromantic, as well as tons of recommendations for other ace activists!

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

People to follow:

Cody Daigle-Orians: YouTube, Insta, Substack, website, TikTok

Elle Rose: Insta, Medium, Substack

Yasmin Benoit: Insta, website, YouTube, TikTok

Angsty Ace: TIkTok, Linktree, Insta

Yagirllici: Instagram and TikTok

GentleGiantAce: Insta, YouTube, TikTok

Asexual Goddess: YouTube, Insta

Tyger Songbird: Insta, Substack, Medium, Linktree

AdhdAroaceActor: TikTok

Books to Read:

 Limitless: Poetry of an Aromantic and Asexual Journey by Patrick Bex: Bookshop

Refusing Compulsory Sexuality by Sherronda J Brown: Bookshop

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Here we get into the nitty gritty of which characters are secretly aromantic? What great books should you be reading?

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

Stuff to watch:

Big Mouth, season 6, animation

Heartstopper, Netflix

Books to read:

Looking for Love in All the Haunted Places, by Clair Kann: Bookshop.org

Ace and Aro Relationship Guide by Cody Daigle Orians: Bookshop.org

Comics to read:

Heartstopper, webtoon

Sabine: An Asexual Coming-of-Age Story, webtoon

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It was such a delight to talk to YaGirlLici about demiromanticism, intersectionality, and Sinners, the movie!

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

Media to watch:

Sinners, the movie

People to follow:

Bmud Angel: YouTube, Insta

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Here we talk about Cody Daigle-Orian’s new book, navigating the allo world in 2025, and how to deal with internal and external pressures of feeling accepted in the queer community. It was such a fun chat!

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

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Cody Daigle-Orians, The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide

Yasmin Benoit: Twitter, Instagram, Bluesky

The Trevor Project

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I am so excited for this! On the final episode of the season, I got to talk with Cody Daigle-Orians about life, asexuality, and relationships.

This chat was so fun, I divided it over 2 weeks! Stay tuned next week for the conclusion.

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

Tumblr!

Books:

Julie Sondra Decker, The Invisible Orientation

Alice Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

Kayla Kaszyca and Sarah Costello, Sounds Fake But OK, also their podcast

The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project, Ace and Aro Journeys

Samantha Rendle, Hopeless Aromantic

Online:

Fluently Aspec: YouTube and Instagram

Lynn Saga: YouTube

Ace in Grace: Instagram

Yagirllici: Instagram and TikTok

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I’ve found fantastic acceptance in the ace community, both locally and online. But I sometimes still hesitate to join the wider queer community, especially locally in my red state. But we are here, and we deserve a place. Listen for tips and tricks for defeating the internal and external demons that keep us from enjoying our best lives.

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

None, actually. Look up your local Pride and Go!

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Once we accept that we are ace, a lot of times the world makes a lot more sense. But, just like a neurospicy person will still stumble with a neurotypical person, we still have questions. And we get questions. Sometimes it feels like we must be a walking, talking textbook for asexuality. Listen for advice on dealing with the allo world.

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Resources Mentioned in Episode:

I Don't Know If This Counts: Asexual Hate Crime Study

King's College Asexual Study

Click Bait Missed the Point on the Asexual Study

Cody Daigle-Oriens: I am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life.

Michele Kirichanskaya: Ace Notes: Tips and Tricks on Existing in an Allo World

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