Cosmo & Suzi are taking a little summer sabbatical from the “I Feel Loved When…” podcast. But we'll be back in the fall! Listen to our announcement to hear what we'll be working on during this time...

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What do men want? What do women need? And are these unsolvable riddles?

Turns out, peace and safety aren’t just buzzwords—they’re the heartbeat of healthy Christian relationships. In this episode, we dig into a surprising insight: husbands often crave peace, and wives deeply need safety—but both needs grow from the same root… trust. We explore what this looks like practically and spiritually, for people who interact with people—whether single, dating, engaged, or married.

Join us as we unpack a powerful reflection that stirred up some serious head-nodding. We talk about how unmet needs can lead to disconnection, drama, or even destructive patterns—but also how flipping the script and doubling down on your side of the relationship can lead to deeper intimacy, healing, and restoration. It’s not about finger-pointing. It’s about humility, teamwork, and tuning into the Holy Spirit to become a safe and peaceful place for each other.

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “If only they would change… then I could love better,” this episode invites you into a better way—one that honors Christ, builds trust, and offers hope. Whether you're navigating newlywed bumps, deepening your dating connection, or learning how to prepare well in singleness, this episode offers practical wisdom rooted in Scripture and compassion. Let’s become people of peace, by walking in the peace of Christ.

Romans 12:18...If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

Ever find yourself stuck on the question, “But why did they do that?!”

Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, we’ve all been there—baffled, hurt, or just plain annoyed by the things people do. This week, we’re unpacking a powerful truth: your healing isn’t tied to getting an answer to “why.” In fact, as much as we want closure or explanations, sometimes the “why” is overrated (and, let’s be honest, probably not as satisfying as we hope).

Join Cosmo and Suzi as they draw from wise words by Matthias Barker (@matthiasbarker), personal experience, and biblical encouragement to reveal what real healing actually looks like. Spoiler alert: it’s found in loving, safe relationships—first with God, then with others who truly see you, hear you, and walk with you. We’ll talk about faith, forgiveness, how to process pain, and why sometimes God invites us to focus on what He wants to do IN us—not on unraveling someone else’s motives.

If you’ve ever wrestled with questions that don’t have neat answers or felt stuck waiting for someone to make things right, this episode is your invitation to experience God’s love in a whole new way. Let’s discover how Christian relationships, spiritual growth, and trusting God can move us from wounded to whole—no “why” required.

James 1:12..."Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him."

Ever feel like you’ve done all the right things in your relationship—read the books, learned the skills, aced the communication—but something’s still off? Like, you’ve got the conflict resolution part down pat… but it still feels like something’s missing? Maybe it’s not the mechanics—it’s the heart behind them. This episode dives into a powerful clip from a conversation between Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) and Jay Shetty (@jayshetty) that got us fired up (in the best way!) about the deeper skill set we don’t always talk about: the skill set of love.

Join Cosmo and Suzi as they unpack what it means to not just solve problems in your relationships, but to love each other through them. From married life to dating dynamics, and everything in between, we talk real talk about how to uncover your “I feel loved when…” moments—and how showing love in ways that feel like love can be the difference between surviving a storm and being anchored through it. With Scripture, personal stories, and some good ol’ baklava metaphors (yes, really), we laugh, reflect, and pray our way into deeper connection.

Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode is for anyone wanting to build a Christ-centered relationship that lasts through tsunamis, not just tiffs. We’ll help you see why knowing what makes you (and your person) feel genuinely loved is vital spiritual work—and how trusting God in that process makes all the difference. Let’s go beyond checklists and lean into love that’s layered, lasting, and full of grace.

Ephesians 4:2...With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love...

Original Reel found here.

In your relationships, do you create chaos or confusion?

In this episode, we dive into a much-needed conversation about real masculinity. Spoiler alert: it’s not about bravado, control, or having something to prove. It's about stability, consistency, and being a safe place—not just physically, but emotionally, relationally, and spiritually.

Inspired by a thought-provoking reel from mindfulness educator Case Kenny (@case.kenny), we explore what it really means for a man to be anchored in Christ and how that inner stability flows into every relationship—whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married. We share some personal stories (including Cosmo’s youth group wake-up call and an always-welcome Gandalf reference 😄) that highlight how God can transform even our toughest moments into opportunities for growth and grace.

If you're navigating the journey of Christian relationships or wondering how faith, emotional safety, and spiritual growth intersect with masculinity, this episode is for you. Trust us—it’s deep, it’s real, and it just might change the way you think about what strength really looks like.

Original reel can be found here. 

Is your 5-year plan causing a full-blown panic attack… today?

In this episode, we dive into the sneaky ways fear of the future (and regret from the past) can steal your peace, your presence, and your trust in God. We'll listen to @julienhimself and why we shouldn't fear the future simply because you've already got a 100% success rate of surviving the present!

We take his thoughts and interpret them for ourselves, investigating what it means to live in the moment with Christ and let Him be the one in charge of both your calendar and your character.

We explore how our imaginations—though creative and powerful—can quickly lead us into fear, fantasy, or even apathy when left unchecked by faith. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, you’ve likely faced moments where trusting God for what’s next felt impossible.

If you’ve ever wrestled with anxiety about the future, regret over a decision, or paralysis over making the “right” choice, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about walking with God one day at a time, learning from the past, preparing for the future, and embracing the present with the Holy Spirit’s guidance. Because in Christian relationships—and in life—spiritual growth doesn’t come from control, but from trust.

Isaiah 41:10...So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Watch original Instagram reel here. 

Are you asking God for transformation, but hoping it doesn't require your participation? 

Have you ever prayed for healing while still clinging to the very thing that's hurting you? It’s like asking God to fix your burnt hand while keeping it in the flame! In this episode, Cosmo and Suzi unpack a powerful quote from Breaking the Patterns That Break You by Tori Hope Petersen: “We cannot beg God to heal us while staying loyal to the patterns that hurt us.” You’ll laugh, reflect, and maybe squirm a little as they dig into how our habits can block the very healing we’re asking for.

Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode invites you to look honestly at the spiritual, emotional, and relational patterns you’re holding onto. Through relatable stories and solid biblical truth, Suzi and Cosmo connect the dots between spiritual disciplines, renewing your mind, and trusting God in the middle of the storm—not just for the outcome, but for transformation along the way.

This conversation will challenge you to go deeper in your faith walk, stop self-protecting, and start asking God not just for change—but for your part in it. From forgiveness to community, from busyness to brokenness, this one is for anyone ready to move from hurting to healing in Christian relationships.

Romans 12:2…Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Are You Being Manipulated by Guilt? How to Recognize and Resist It

Ever had someone try to guilt you into doing something? Maybe it’s the friend who sighs dramatically when you can’t drop everything for them, or the family member who reminds you—again—how much they sacrificed for you. Guilt can be a powerful tool of manipulation, and as Christians, we can be especially vulnerable to it because we want to do the right thing. But here’s the truth: God never manipulates us through guilt. So why do we allow others to?

In this episode, we dive into how guilt-based manipulation sneaks into relationships—whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married—and how to recognize it before it takes root. We unpack practical ways to set healthy boundaries, communicate with love, and stand firm in our God-given identity. Plus, we share a simple but powerful question you can use to call out guilt tactics when they show up: "Are you trying to make me feel guilty?" Trust us, this one can change everything!

Join us as we explore what it means to build relationships on truth, love, and mutual respect—without guilt trips or manipulation. Whether it’s family, friends, or even your own thought life trying to keep you stuck in guilt, we’ll help you shift from unhealthy patterns to freedom in Christ. Ready to break free? Tune in!

Romans 16:18...Such people are not serving Christ our Lord; they are serving their own personal interests. By smooth talk and glowing words, they deceive innocent people.

Original Reel can be found here.

Why do we think boundaries are about making others behave when they’re actually about our choices?

Ever set a boundary only to feel like it didn’t work? Maybe you told someone not to do something, and they did it anyway—so much for boundaries, right? Turns out, a lot of us have been thinking about boundaries all wrong! In this episode, we break down a powerful yet simple truth: a real boundary is something you will do, and it doesn’t require the other person to do anything. 🤯

Join us as we unpack what healthy, biblical boundaries actually look like in friendships, dating, marriage, and even work relationships. We’ll share real-life stories, Scripture-based wisdom, and practical ways to set boundaries that strengthen relationships rather than create unnecessary conflict.

Plus, if you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overextending yourself, or feeling guilty for saying no, this episode is for you! Boundaries can bring freedom, peace, and deeper connections with the people we love.

Hebrews 12:11...No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.

Original reel can be found here. 

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Ever felt like it’s your full-time job to keep your partner happy? Guess what—it’s not even in your job description!

In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When…" Podcast, we break down an Instagram reel from @buildthepositivity w/ Jef DeWitt that challenges the idea that a healthy relationship is all about happiness. Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or even just navigating friendships and family relationships, we dive into what it actually means to love and support others without carrying the weight of their emotions. 

Join us as we unpack practical ways to cultivate trust, stability, and genuine connection—without slipping into people-pleasing. We’ll also tackle the difference between happiness and holiness (hint: one is the goal, the other is a byproduct) and how pursuing godliness strengthens every relationship in your life. With real-life examples, biblical insight, and a few laughs along the way, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking Christ-centered relationships.

So, what does it really mean to love well? And how do we set an atmosphere that fosters both joy and holiness? Tune in as we explore these questions, share personal stories, and offer encouragement for singles, couples, and everyone in between. Let’s grow in faith and love—together.

Listen to original reel here.