In this episode, Loraine describes her experience of post-separation abuse by her former partner in Spain. She details the legal battles she endured, including accusations of defamation and the "precarious" eviction process she faced. Loraine highlights the emotional toll of the abuse, emphasizing the manipulative tactics used by her former partner, including emotional devaluation and financial control. She shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, offering support and resources for others experiencing similar situations.

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Key Takeaways

● Post-separation abuse is a serious issue. The story illustrates the different forms this abuse can take, including legal threats, financial manipulation, and emotional abuse.

● The legal system doesn't always protect victims. Despite clear evidence of abuse, Loraine was forced to fight a lengthy legal battle and was advised to file a gender violence complaint, which she was reluctant to do.

● Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Loraine describes the "emotional devaluation" she experienced, highlighting the insidious nature of this type of abuse.

● Forgiveness can be exploited by abusers. Loraine's attempt to forgive her partner was met with continued manipulation and control.

● Recovery and empowerment are possible. This journey demonstrates the importance of speaking out, seeking support, and reclaiming one's identity after experiencing abuse.

Best Moments

● The moment Loraine learns the criminal case against her was dismissed. A powerful moment to emphasize relief and vindication.

● The revelation of the partner's confession and his ongoing affair. This moment highlights the emotional abuse and manipulation experienced.

● The description of the partner's angry outburst during their recorded meeting. Sharing the audio clip in the podcast makes this moment even more impactful, illustrating the intimidation and threats Loraine faced.

● The decision to publish the recording on YouTube and include the transcript in her book. This showcases her courage and determination to expose the abuse and empower other victims.

● The book's success, written under the pen name Loren Keeling, reached Number 1 on Amazon UK in the "Self Help for Abuse" category. This is a triumphant moment, signifying her resilience and the positive impact she's making.

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