After 11 weeks, I got married - to a narcissist. I didn’t recognize the signs: I was his third wife, younger than him, and he isolated me from family and friends. Marrying him was an impulsive choice accelerated by trauma bonds left unhealed. As I dive into this episode, I ponder what led me to marry him and why I keep repeating the same choices. 

 

Key Takeaways: 

[4:37] Starting to date Graham and alcohol in our relationship

[7:01] Working at a summer camp and immersing myself in the faith 

[8:49] Meeting Eric, my first husband 

[11:02] Getting married after 11 weeks 

[12:51] Regretting getting married so quick and breaking up with my ex

[14:46] Eric wanted me to quit coaching and clean the house

[15:47] Going on a trip to Israel where Eric tagged along 

[17:47] Starting a youth group and working at the summer camp 

[20:01] I was Eric’s third wife and younger than him 

[21:54] I stopped talking to my friends from Concord 

[24:07] I repeat patterns again and again 

[27:12] Becoming a really good coach

[29:29] I hate the term adulting and not feeling like one 

[31:06] There are two sides to me 

[32:17] Eric made me thrown out my love letters, but not his own 

[33:11] I worry about boring people 

 

Resources

• The Body Keeps the Score 

 

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