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Joy Mamey is an actor, writer, comedian, cancer survivor, and improviser currently performing with Sunday Company at The Groundlings who grew up in Los Angeles where her sex ed teacher wouldn't answer her questions so she thought sex was basically naked kissing and that penises had bones.

In this episode we talk about the surprising overlap between improv and intimacy, why "yes and" can become a people-pleasing trap, and what happens when we're taught to ignore our instincts to make other people comfortable. Joy shares the sex education she never got, the question her sex ed teacher refused to answer, and why she genuinely thought penises had bones.

We also get into body autonomy, consent, patriarchy, impact versus intention, learning to say no, and the importance of listening when your body is trying to tell you something.

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Instagram: @joymamey

Website: https://www.joymamey.com/

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• STORY 1: AITAH for ending a 4 year serious relationship without even a huge fight?
• STORY 2: My [M27] wife [F28] showed her friends our sex tapes
• STORY 3: AIO because my husband 'forgot' to tell me we'd be sharing a condo with his ex-wife during a family beach vacation?

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Episode Cheat Sheet

01:20 Meet Joy Mamey

02:45 The Groundlings, Second City & Improv Comedy

03:50 Why "Yes And" Can Become Toxic

06:50 Consent, Boundaries & Learning To Say No

08:00 What Improv Taught Us About Intimacy

12:45 Why Impact Matters More Than Intentions

18:00 Can Bad People Actually Change?

20:50 Psychopaths vs Sociopaths Explained

25:30 Power Dynamics, Comedy & Punching Down

30:15 Why Speaking Up During Sex Is So Hard

32:45 The Problem With People Pleasing In Bed

37:30 The Church Hug Joy Never Forgot

41:00 Why Patriarchy Hurts Men Too

45:45 Growing Up Without Sex Education

48:15 My Sex Ed Teacher Ignored My Question

49:45 "I Thought Penises Had Bones"

52:45 Why Porn Became Sex Education

55:00 Being Called "Exotic" As A Child

58:00 The Kinky Mind Meld Game

59:30 Why Improv Feels Like Great Sex

1:02:30 Patreon Reddit Story Preview