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In this follow-up to my episode on the dangers of attaching our identity to political figures and rigid ideologies, I explore the other side of the conversation: the healthy, intentional way identity can transform our lives.

Drawing from Atomic Habits and other habit-building frameworks, this episode breaks down how aligning your identity with your values, not with personalities, can create lasting behavioral change. When you shift from “I’m trying to” to “I am someone who,” habits stop feeling forced and start feeling aligned.

We’ll talk about the difference between external identity attachment and internal identity formation, why one takes your agency and the other restores it, and how choosing who you’re becoming can stabilize your life, especially if you grew up in chaos or survival mode.

This is not about perfection. It’s about alignment.

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If today’s episode hit you in the chest the way it hit me, don’t just walk away—walk toward something that reflects you.

Subscribe to the podcast, hit that YouTube channel for the behind-the-scenes, and if you’re ready to read a story about what it really means to come home to yourself then orderThe Ordinary Bruja.

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It’s about a Dominican-American bruja who’s been running from herself her whole life until ancestral magic, generational wounds, and a haunted-ass hill force her to face the truth.

If you’ve ever felt “too much,” “not enough,” or like you don’t fit anywhere, you’re exactly who this story was written for.

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Because becoming who you are is the bravest kind of magic.