“Do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings.”

―Proverbs 31:3

In some cultures, what is tolerated is considered sexual harassment in the US. Therefore immigrants must be warned to make sure that they do not violate the law

and get into trouble. It is not uncommon in some cultures to touch the buttocks of women or touch and fondle a woman’s breast without her consent and get away with it. This is not something that is sanctioned by the society, but it is not frowned upon either. Those involved say they are joking and laugh at it.

In the United States of America, such an action will land you into deep trouble. You will be charged with sexual harassment, and the repercussion is huge.

The American public does not condone sexual misconduct, and for those who have engaged in it, when caught or when their victims expose them, the fallout is usually swift and devastating.

Sexual harassment is not only physical, but it can also be

verbal, so give compliments carefully.

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“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives

favor from the LORD.”

―Proverbs 18:22

Marriage will make or break you. Here, immigrants are encouraged to move carefully in the area of marriage and are told of the untold suffering and avoidable tragedies of those who have insisted on returning to their countries of origin to marry, after living in a different culture for many years.

There are too many horror stories about some husbands killing their wives because they brought them from their country of birth, and after sending them to school, the woman became “too powerful” for the men to control. These tragedies and many others can be avoided if a few things are taken into consideration.

It is not just the men alone who are “dumped” after their wives get here. The women who get husbands from their countries of birth have also suffered a similar fate.

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“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is

there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

― Galatians 3:28

Choosing where to fellowship is important because it gives the worshiper an opportunity to plug in and build deeper relationships with others.

Unfortunately, by default, many people gravitate towards their kind because they want comfort; this is contrary to the missional call on our lives. Instead of assimilating, many immigrants end up in clusters that are not equipped and empowered enough to maximize their presence in the country. This unfortunate situation can be avoided.

This subject cannot be handled in its totality here because there are too many facets to it, but you are being challenged to dig deeper and understand God’s call upon your life.

The issue being raised here is dear to my heart and has been one of those things I believe the Lord brought me to the United States of America to speak and to write about.

The segregation in the body of Christ is an affront to the Gospel message of Our Lord Jesus Christ.

Can somebody explain why we all mix at work, in the shopping centers, on the trains and buses, and in movie theaters, but on Sunday morning we all go our separate ways?

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If you don’t know where you are going, every road will get you nowhere. ―Henry Kissinger

By default, most immigrants feel more comfortable starting a business in their countries of origin, especially with family members. Unfortunately, these ventures fail because of many factors out of the control of both parties. Therefore, immigrants must move slowly and avoid making the costly mistakes others have made before them.

You are going to have pressure both here and from those in your country of birth to show your “love for country” by making some investments. Your friends and relatives will bring to your attention what others in the diaspora have done and are doing to “develop” the country. They will insist, and if you do not do something, people will say that you have abandoned your roots and are not showing appreciation for the hand that fed you.

They are appealing to your emotions, and most people fall for it and engage in projects without proper evaluation and planning. The result is a colossal failure.

If you must run a business in your country of origin, then do it properly. Make sure that it is a business, not a charity venture.

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“However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.”

―Winston Churchill

Many immigrants become financially viable and are required to send remittances to their countries of birth to support parents and extended families.

But this new position of power and control can create a dependency culture of “toxic charity” and become detrimental to both the giver and recipients; therefore, this is something to guard against.

You will become a millionaire soon; this position comes with power and control, and if you are not careful, it will lead to abuse.

The pressure from home for you to intervene financially is never-ending, and it can wear you out if you are not careful with how you go about it.

There is no point pretending you are now Santa Claus with a big bag full of an endless supply of money ready to meet every need, desire, and wish.

Who made you God in the lives of these people? It is not sustainable, and if you drop dead, life will continue without you.

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“We have met the enemy and he is us.”

―Pogo

“If I liked food and disliked exercise as much as a

400-pound guy, I’d be a 400-pound guy.”

― Scott Adams

"A sixty-hour workweek with a poor diet and no exercise is a recipe for a shrinking libido."

― Rayan Howes

Most immigrants did not previously have a sedentary lifestyle because of their economic condition, but they will likely become more sedentary in the US; if they do not get up and move, their health will suffer.

You did not sacrifice all and come this far for a sedentary lifestyle to rob you of your great potential and destroy the limitless possibilities this country is presenting to you.

Contrary to what most people think and say, the cost of a sedentary life is huge, and you cannot afford it.

There is no excuse that is good enough to justify why you are not taking care of the most important asset with which you have been entrusted.

Making exercise a regular part of your life is not optional; it is a must, and you must start from day one.

Exercising regularly and consistently is one of the most difficult and challenging things you will ever do.

The result of not exercising is the direct opposite of all these

benefits listed above. For example, you may be afflicted with:

Stroke

High blood pressure

Arthritis

Osteoporosis (loss of bone mass)

Depression

Low self-confidence

Loss of muscle mass

Type II diabetes

Obesity

Heart attack

Premature death

Back pain etc.

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“It is not for kings, Lemuel—

it is not for kings to drink wine,

not for rulers to crave beer,

lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,

and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.”

―Proverbs 31:4-5

Alcohol is abundantly available in the US and can easily be abused. In other parts of the world, driving under the influence (DUI) is against that law, but these laws are not strictly enforced. This chapter reminds immigrants of the dangers of DUI and admonishes them to avoid it.

Since drinking alcohol is socially accepted, it is the drug of choice for most people. Therefore, many people are addicted to alcohol and seldom seek help. If you are trapped by alcohol, help is available, and you can regain your freedom.

There are many 12-step programs and alcohol recovery groups run by churches and non-profit organizations across all the fifty states. Alcoholics Anonymous is a good resource for you if you are having trouble with alcohol; you can search and locate groups that are located within your community and other resources that will help you on your recovery journey.

We can debate all day whether it is a good idea to drink or not to drink, but will agree that people can become enslaved and their lives ruined by alcohol.

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“When you sit down to dine with a ruler, Consider

carefully what is before you, And put a knife to your throat

If you are a man of great appetite.”

―Proverbs 23:1-2

As an immigrant, maybe you are moving from lack to abundance, and there is the possibility that you are going to be tempted to overindulge in the “goodies” in the land. This chapter addresses the perils and pitfalls of the fast-food culture in the US and how the immigrant can avoid them.

Your health cannot be separated from what you eat. Therefore, what you eat can sabotage the level of success you will have in the United States of America. There is a basic mathematical calculation that many people have a lot of difficulties resolving.

Weight Gain = Calories eaten - Calories used

This formula describes what happens to a majority of the population. Under normal circumstances and everything being equal, if you take in more calories than you use, you are going to gain weight. This weight gain is from the conversion of the excess calories and storing it as fat. Your body thinks taking in extra calories is an indication that you are preparing for a period of starvation, so the body must store this excess energy for you to use when the lean times come.

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“Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies

in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”

―Franklin D. Roosevelt

One of the most effective ways to share our story with a larger audience and to pass it on to the next generation is to write a book. This chapter encourages immigrants to write so that they can enrich the cultural heritage of their new country and add their own “flavor” to existing ones.

The next logical step after taking ownership of your story is writing it down. You do not have to wait to be rich and famous to write a book. Writing a book will force you to structure, organize, and present your story in a way that it will be available to a greater audience.

The digital age and the World Wide Web have made writing and publishing a book affordable.

You do not need to be an English literature major to put your thoughts and ideas on paper and share it with the entire world.

When you are long dead and gone, the story you leave behind will continue to be read and inspire the next generations.

If you do not want to write for the general public, write the book for your children; if you have no children, write the book for your family.

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“The only person you should try to be

better than is the person you were yesterday.”

―Anonymous

Many immigrants are bombarded by questions, some motivated by the desire to learn and others purely to confirm stereotypes. That is why every immigrant must take ownership of their story if they want to present the right public perception of who they are, where they are coming from, and where they are going.

We are living in the information age, but it does not mean that everybody is informed.

Taking ownership of your story is the most liberating, enriching, and empowering thing you can do.

Each of us has our own story, and our stories are unique because our experiences are

unique; therefore, stories are powerful, inspirational, and motivational tools.

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