Welcome to Season 3!

In today's yummy voice-note-style episode I share what's been coming up for me as I step into my next evolution. I talk about the messy middle of becoming, the parts of the journey we don't always share online, and why I'm done with the performative highlight reel that is social media.

This season is about real conversations, real challenges, and creating a space where we can show up as our whole selves. Buckle up, baddie. We're doing this together!

If you're still sitting on the promise you made to yourself at the beginning of this year, and need support taking one step forward, then listen up. The Plot Twist is my once-off 45-minute 1:1 coaching session where we look at what's getting in your way, and what needs to shift so that this year actually gets to be different. Sometimes we cannot see our own blind spots, and that's precisely what this is for. The cost is R850 ($55).

Click this link to book your spot: https://calendly.com/sonjamcoaching/plottwist

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Full Moon Blessings and happy May!

This episode lands on the Full Moon in Scorpio, so if things have been feeling intense, you're not imagining it.

As we close out Season 2, I'm going a little deeper into why you may be getting on your own way, and how to move through it. Because it's definitely not lack of trying but possibly your need for approval that's keeping you in the same loop.

In this short reflection, I talk about how deeply this pattern can run, why it trips us up even when we're ready for change, and the very important role support plays in actually moving through it.

If you're still sitting on the promise you made yourself at the beginning of this year, this one's for you. And if something in this episode resonates, I want you to know that you don't have to do this alone. Drop me an email and let’s chat! Or send me a DM on social media. You get to be supported as you embrace and embody the womxn you were born to be.

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In this week's episode I really want to know how you're doing. Can you believe we’re 4 months into the year already!?

Remember that promise you made to yourself at the beginning of this year? Have you started acting on it or is it still living in your head? 

This is not about wishing things could be different but actually changing things by taking action. And it doesn't have to be huge leaps, but rather small steps in the direction of your dreams and desires. It's about following through on the promises you've made to yourself. 

I also share the simple practice that's helped me stay consistent (even on the days I don't feel like it), and how you can start showing up for yourself in a way that actually sticks.

I don't want you to wait until the end of the year to realise nothing's changed. You're going to take one step today, coz if not now, then when?

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Most of us have been at war with our bodies for years. And while the body positivity movement invites us to love our bodies as they are, that can feel like such a big leap, especially in midlife, when everything is changing in ways nobody fully warned us about.

In this episode, on this new moon day, I'm asking the question, "what if, instead of going straight to love, we started with friendship?" Befriending your body isn't about pretending to love what you see in the mirror. It's about getting curious, showing up, and choosing not to abandon yourself, one step at a time.

This conversation started inside my group coaching programme, Becoming You, where we've been exploring embodiment and what it means to be present in our bodies. Because you cannot access the wisdom your body holds while you're still at war with it. Let me know how this lands for you.

And if you know of other podcasts that talk about midlife, and getting out of your own way, then send them to me. I'd love the introduction because I want to practice what I preach and say YES to more guest spots. If not now, then when, right!?

Sending so much love! 

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I did something brave this week.

In this episode, I share what happened when I said yes to an opportunity, even though it didn't look the way I wanted it to. Even though I was scared. If you've been asking for change, this is your reminder that it won't always arrive in a comfortable package. And you won’t always feel ready. Be courageous anyway! Coz if not now, then when…?

And if you know of other podcasts that talk about midlife, and getting out of your own way, then send them to me. I'd love the introduction coz I want to practice what I preach and say yes to more guest spots.

Sending so much love! 

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Today I’m in conversation with Ingrid Irma Jones​, writer, storyteller, and ​m​y Afrikaans teacher at high school​, which makes this conversation even more special.

We dive into the identity shifts that come with midlife​,​ the roles we outgrow, the ones we lose, and the quiet question many women find themselves asking, 'who am I now?'

We speak about grief, loneliness, and the uncertainty that can come with this season​,​ and also what becomes possible when we allow ourselves to evolve.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re in-between versions of yourself, this conversation will meet you there.

You can follow Ingrid on TikTok​.

Sending so much love! 

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So many of us were taught how to be ​"good girls​". You know, don​'t be too much​, don​'t be too loud​, keep the peace​, and so on, and so on... And somewhere along the way, we learnt to abandon parts of ourselves in order to be liked, accepted, and safe.

In this episode, ​I share my own journey as a recovering good girl​, the patterns I​'m unlearning, the ways I​’ve held myself back, and what getting out of my own way looks like.

This is an invitation to notice where you might still be playing small, ​censoring yourself, or seeking approval​. And to gently begin loosening your grip on that version of you. Because the woman you’re becoming​ isn't here to be good. She’s here to be free.​

Sending so much love! 

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In part two of my conversation with GP and womxn's health specialist ⁠⁠Dr. Fumi Kokoali⁠⁠, we turn toward a conversation that I believe isn't being had enough, menopause and womxn of colour.

We speak about how menopause shows up differently, cultural expectations, silence, shame, and why this conversation matters more than ever, especially here in South Africa. Because the more we talk about it, the less alone we feel.

If you'd like to make an appointment with Dr Fumi, please reach out to ⁠The Women's Health Practice⁠.

My business turned 9 this month, and I'm celebrating by gifting a listener with 1 private coaching session. Don't forget to share your favourite episode to enter. For details on the giveaway check out these ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ posts.

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Menopause is a natural part of midlife, yet so many womxn feel confused, overwhelmed, or completely unprepared when the transition begins.

In this episode, I'm joined by GP and womxn's health specialist Dr. Fumi Kokoali for an honest conversation about what's really happening in our bodies during perimenopause and menopause.

We talk about the symptoms many womxn don't realise are connected to menopausal transition, the emotional impact of this stage of life, and some of the biggest myths and misconceptions that still exist around treatment and support.

If you've ever wondered "is this normal?" or felt like you're navigating this transition on your own, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone.

This is part 1 of a two-part conversation. In next week's episode, we explore how menopause affects womxn of colour. Be sure you're following the podcast so you don't miss it!

If you'd like to make an appointment with Dr Fumi, please reach out to The Women's Health Practice.

In closing, if you're ready to get TF out of your own way this year and embrace the womxn you're becoming, I have two invitations for you:

1. ⁠Becoming You - the next evolution⁠⁠⁠⁠, my signature group coaching programme begins on 16 March. It's a safe, supportive space for womxn in midlife who are ready to stop getting in their own way and start becoming more connected to their essence than ever before. Coz if not now, then when?

2. Birthday Month Giveaway: My business turned 9 this month, and I'm celebrating by gifting a listener with 1 private coaching session. For details on how to enter, check out the giveaway posts on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠Facebook⁠.

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In this episode I share why the podcast is now called If not now, then when?, a question that has quietly become my theme for the year and a mantra that keeps nudging me toward the life, voice, and work that's asking to come through.

This conversation is about evolution. About listening to the inner whisper that says it's time. And about getting TF out of your own way so you can step into the next version of you and embrace your becoming. If that's where you're at right now, I have two invitations for you:

1. Becoming You - the next evolution⁠⁠⁠, my signature group coaching programme begins on 16 March. It's a safe, supportive space for womxn in midlife who are ready to stop getting in their own way and start becoming more connected to their essence than ever before. Coz if not now, then when?

2. Birthday Month Giveaway: My business turned 9 this week, and I'm celebrating by gifting a listener with 1 private coaching session. For details on how to enter, check out the giveaway posts on Instagram and Facebook.

Also, come follow me on ⁠SUBSTACK⁠!