What does it really look like to be a present, intentional father — especially when you didn't grow up seeing it modeled? In this deeply honest and faith-filled episode of If This Is It, host Tosin sits down with married couple Dami and Lolade Akibola to unpack what fatherhood actually requires — and why it's one of the most important callings a man can answer. If you're a young man wondering whether you're ready, this conversation might change how you think about it.Dami and Lolade have been married for 19 years and together for 21. They're raising two kids — Noah and Sophia — and they've built a family rooted in faith, intentionality, and a willingness to keep learning. But their journey didn't start with a perfect blueprint. Dami's parents divorced when he was 13, and that experience shaped his entire approach to marriage and parenting. He made a decision early: Plan A or Plan A. No backup. No exit strategy. Just commitment.

They also tackle the bigger cultural questions: Why are so many young men afraid of fatherhood? Why do some want kids but not marriage? And what does faith have to do with any of it? Dami's answer is direct — you cannot be an effective father without partnership, and you can't have lasting partnership without grounding it in Christ. The episode closes with practical advice for young men and women navigating these decisions.

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If This Is It is a podcast about going from functional to fruitful — exploring faith, relationships, personal growth, and purpose through honest, unfiltered conversations. Hosted by Tosin, each episode dives into the real questions believers are wrestling with as they navigate modern life. Whether it's marriage, fatherhood, identity, or cultivating your inner life, this show brings biblical truth to everyday realities.

When was the last time someone told you that you're doing well? Not a passing compliment—but someone who actually SAW your quiet, consistent effort and said, "I see what you're doing, and it matters"?For most of us, it's been a while. And the silence is starving us.In this episode, Tosin explores:Why affirmation is so rare (and the lies we tell ourselves)Why people can't see their own progressHow to cultivate a culture that feeds, not starvesThe difference between living FOR affirmation vs. FROM your identity in ChristChapters00:00 The Power of Affirmation02:43 Understanding the Scarcity of Affirmation05:54 The Impact of Being Seen09:04 The Role of Community in Affirmation11:58 Biblical Foundations of Affirmation14:53 Practical Steps to Cultivate Affirmation18:06 Closing Thoughts on EncouragementThe truth is simple: starving people don't thrive. Fed people do.If This Is It is a podcast for Christians who are tired of surface-level faith and ready to move from functional to fruitful living. Hosted by Tosin Assan, each episode tackles the real questions believers wrestle with but don't always hear addressed in church—questions about identity, purpose, relationships, work, and what it really means to live aligned with God's plan.If This Is It – Real life. Real faith. Real questions. From functional to fruitful.📧 Got a topic you want us to address?📱 Connect with the podcast:Instagram: @ifthisisitpodTiktok: ifthisisitpod Email: [email protected]🎙️ Listen on Spotify & Apple Podcasts

Ever wondered why some people pray and see immediate results while others wait years with seemingly no answer? In this episode, we tackle the question many believers are afraid to ask out loud.Host Tosin explores the often-misunderstood nature of faith—not as a one-time event, but as a living seed meant to grow through stages. From justification (the faith that saves) to sanctification (the faith that transforms), we break down why your faith journey might look different from someone else's, and why that's exactly how it should be.**In this episode, you'll discover:**- Why Jesus compared faith to a mustard seed, not a mountain- The difference between seed faith and mature faith- How to create the right conditions for your faith to grow- Why waiting isn't failure—it's the actual work of faith- The Cultivate, Keep, and Resist framework for growing your faith**Key Topics:**Faith stages | Spiritual growth | Patience in waiting | Active vs. passive faith | Obedience | Alignment with God | Biblical faith | Christian living | Moving from functional to fruitfulIf you've ever felt stuck in your faith journey, questioning why things aren't working the way you expected, or wondering if there's something wrong with you—this episode is for you. You're not alone, and your faith isn't broken. It might just be growing.---**Subscribe to If This Is It** for honest conversations about faith, identity, relationships, and living fruitfully in alignment with God's purpose.📧 Have questions or topics you'd like us to cover? Send us a message!#FaithJourney #ChristianPodcast #SpiritualGrowth #BiblicalFaith #IfThisIsIt #FaithThatGrows #ChristianLiving #PrayerLife

What happens when the career you worked so hard for isn't the life God called you to? In this powerful conversation, Rhoda Falaye shares her journey from nursing at Johns Hopkins to entrepreneurship, depression, and discovering her true identity in Christ.In this episode, we discuss:- The identity crisis that comes when your career doesn't work out- What it really means to cultivate your God-given identity- How to resist the "tree of knowledge of good and evil" mentality- The difference between performing for God and abiding in Christ- Practical holistic health wisdom and preventive care- Why yielding daily is the key to keeping what God gives you**If This Is It Podcast**Real life. Real faith. Real questions.Helping Christians move from functional to fruitful.📧 Have questions or topics you want us to discuss? Email us at [email protected]

You don't have to perform for God's love but if you grew up in church, you probably believe you do. In this first episode, Tosin exposes the exhausting cycle of spiritual striving and introduces a different way: living from your identity in Christ, not for it. Through personal stories and biblical truth, discover what it means to move from functional to fruitful and why that shift changes everything.

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