In this episode we see what it looks like to finally learn how to implement boundaries and HOLD them firm only to end up being told you're the one gaslighting the narcissist! It's nothing new in the world of our domestic abuse survivor to be told she's the problem, the bully, the abuser, but what was new was the fact that none of that triggered her PTSD, her hurts or opened a rabbit hole to fall into negative thinking. In this episode Nita realizes and accepts that to the attacker she is the bad guy because she will no longer show up as a "yes" "ok" "sure" person. Now she's choosing herself and is filling her bucket with self love each and every day so that when attacked it's very easy to simply say, "NO." No is a complete sentence that does not need explaining or justifying. When you break free of people pleasing and abuse you begin to unleash chaos around you in those who need you to show up how you always did before... Which always had you abandoning yourself in one way or another. What we're all learning is that, that woman is dead now and this beautiful, stunning, intelligent, confident woman is emerging.