Today, on this Tuesday, remember to be extraordinary in the normal, ordinary things you do.

Never take it for granted — the consistency and the pressure you embrace, the business as usual, the everyday normal you.

There's nothing normal about what you do. The superhero your kids see depends on your consistency, your normal.

It's just a normal Tuesday. But with Dad, normal is never just normal.

Happy Tuesday!

You got this Dad.

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It's the language we speak, not just with our mouths, but the language of discovery, which is the language of love. 

Gary Chapman calls it "love language." Really good book. T

he core of it: how we give and receive love is unique to each of us. Love isn't just a feeling,  it's a skill, specifically the skill of learning someone else's language and choosing to speak it.

How can we speak it if we never discover it?

As dads, may we forever stay in discovery — never losing our curiosity, always looking for a better way to lead, care for, and love our families.

Discovery goes a long way. You've got this, Dad.

Take the long way.

I'm just here to be Dad.

*Happy Monday.*

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Red tie, white shirt, black pants. Children's choir singing that morning. 

"I'm running for my life, I'm running for my life…"

The smell of wooden pews, hair grease, cologne, and even a little liquor from the night before, depending on who said, "What's up, little man?" 

The crackers and baby wine cups sat in a back room, anticipating their big moment like an artist waiting in the green room before a show. T

he soul food waited in someone's kitchen, a kitchen where women with disproportionate arms cooked some of the most amazing food you've ever tasted.

Church…

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HAPPY SATURDAY!

No. 

The most avoided word. 

Terrifying to some, soul-crushing and emotionally hostage-holding for others. 

The word "no" can feel like a gun to your head with nowhere to run.

Yet no is more like a winning ticket, a ticket to the show, starring everything you need to do better, scene by scene, bit by bit, line by line.

When you get to see everything you need to do better, it's an opportunity to grow.

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Flashback Friday: The Tahoe, the Dream, and the Small Things That Mean Everything

High school. Two teenagers madly in love, dreaming about the future. We talked about everything: who we'd become, how wonderful our family would be one day. We even dreamed down to the car we'd drive.

One thing we knew for certain: we did not want a minivan. Maybe it was working in childcare for so long. Maybe we just had a thing against them. Either way, we were adamant about it, even as kids ourselves.

What we were fascinated with was a black Chevy Tahoe…

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All the world's a stage, and the main character is the brave, vulnerable, depressed, hurt, distressed... you.

There's a whole industry built off vulnerability, the dependence of men expressing their weakness, expressing everything that's holding them back. 

There's an app for that. A book for that. An influencer, a conference, a place for your sorrow.

I'm not knocking the depth and impact of mental health, and I'm not minimizing anyone's life story. But as a Dad: it's the life story we are *creating* that must outweigh the one we've lived, breathed, bled, sweat, cried, suffered. 

We have to focus on writing this next story, he one where you're just here to be Dad. And that's a life about everything, or nothing at all.

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These are the moments our children will remember. The moments our spouse will remember. Moments you can't capture on a cell phone, can't quite contextualize in a social media post. T

They're so sacred, they write themselves over and over again, never letting you forget the moment in the middle.

As we move through the middle of the week, however your week is going, however your schedule looks, may you find it. 

May you fight for it. May you make sure that you, Dad, are always right there in that moment, right in the middle, making time the most blissful thing your children and your significant other will ever remember. 

Life is so much fuller when the moments in the middle are taken care of.

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No one claps for Tuesday. 

There's no countdown-to-Friday excitement, no first-day-of-the-week adrenaline. 

Just the quiet discipline of showing up again a little better, a little stronger, a little more efficient than yesterday.

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This might be the Monday you don’t expect: the battle you didn’t anticipate, the coffee spilled, the kids running late, the wife in your ear, the boss, the business, the workout that didn’t quite work out 

The Monday you didn’t expect

But what is expected is the response of a calm, cool, collected Dad ready and willing 

To Rejoice 

On this Monday 

Dad finds a way 

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I call her "Joy Like Water," the light of every room, the jokester, the dramatic one, always in the scene. But the goal box doesn't care about your personality. I

t asks for composure. Decision-making under fire. The willingness to put your body between danger and the people depending on you. And somehow, she does it without losing an ounce of her joy.

"The Show Stoppa" is a Saturday morning reflection on the position nobody claps for and the parallel every parent recognizes: life doesn't wait for you to be ready; it just keeps coming fast, and the ones who make it through are the ones who can hold onto their joy anyway. Rooted in the truth that the joy of the Lord is your strength, this is a love letter to daughters who guard the goal, and to every dad in the stands learning something bigger than the score.

She's not just playing goalie. She's practicing for life.

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