“I’m not ready for a relationship.” Most people hear that and 

translate it as not yet. But when someone says they’re not ready and still keeps texting you, leaning on you, and acting like your partner — this episode explains what that actually means.

Because “not ready” isn’t about timing. It’s about willingness.

Some people are ready for the attention, the intimacy, the comfort — just not the responsibility. And staying after someone tells you they’re not ready doesn’t make them more willing. It just teaches them they don’t have to choose you clearly.

I talk about this honestly in the first chapter of my book, What I Meant to Say — free — including all the times  I said “I’m not ready” when what I really meant was “I don’t want to do the work.”

This isn’t advice. It’s perspective.

The link is here.