I'm With Her

Have you have ever been to the doctor and felt like they aren't believing the amount pain you are in? If so, this podcast is for you. 

Today we will be chatting to Monica from our favourite medical publication, The Femedic, about The Gender Pain Gap. We touch on how the medical world is letting women and other marginalised groups down. We talk about how various bias appears in the doctors office and what we can do to advocate better for ourselves!

Monica has provided us with some resources for you do your own research further:

Patient advocacy

Trans and GNC people-friendly clinics in the UK

Further reading on the gender pain gap

It's another weekly round up where Iz and Cal chat about all the hot topics happening in the world this week!

This week we talk about how to spot if you are being gas lit, how you might identify these traits and how you can respond to someone who is gas lighting you - remember, you are not alone and we are here to support you.

We chat about herpes, which surprisingly is more common that you think and therefore we should talk about it, as well as introducing a new feature called 60 second rant - where one of us just lets rip for a full glorious minute about whatever is most grinding our gears.

We hope you enjoy this chat as much as we did making it! x

If you want to support the show the best thing you can do is SUBSCRIBE or FOLLOW the podcast and please share it with a friend!

Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta or even Twitter for those with a strong stomach! x

This week Iz and Cal welcome the brilliantly vibrant and joyful Momma Cherri to the podcast! 

If you recognise her name that is because she shot to fame when she appeared on Ramsey's Kitchen Nightmares as the only contender that Gordon Ramsey actually liked and he couldn't get enough of her food either! But there is more to Momma Cherri than this time in the spotlight. In this episode MC tells us what life was like being brought up in Philadelphia when there was segregation between white and black people, what children means to her having fostered over 80 children over her lifetime, and she gets both Izzy and Cal in fits of giggles as she tells us stifling funny story about how she ended up in the UK. 

Here is the Black Lives Matter speech we refer to in the interview.

Plus, Momma Cherri's youtube channel where you can keep up to date with everything she has got going on. I dare you to try and get through the preview video without laughing!

Come and join us in the I'm With Her facebook group for oversharing and vibrant discussions, or follow us at either of these spaces, whichever you prefer...or both, well the hell not! :)

IWH Twitter

IWH Instagram

Thanks so much for listening! xxx

This week Cal and Izzy chatted each others faces off and had a right giggle doing it. We hope you laugh along with us as we discuss what consent looks like, having your high beams on at work and we delve deep into whether we think toxic femininity is a thing and if so how the hell do you define it...

For anyone who has 5 minutes of their life to waste and some rage to get out here is the Australian Governments $3.8 million consent explainer video which Izzy attempts to explain in this ep.

And don't forget we wrap up each episode with the the ever popular #confessthursdays where Iz and Cal let each other onto a little secret. This week it's something to do with sexism and sweat... 

Thank you again to all your wonderful listeners for the continued support of the show and of the IWH community. We learn something new every single day and feeling powerful for it! 

If you enjoy the podcast it is more vital than ever to show your support for us by clicking the FOLLOW or SUBSCRIBE buttons and if you have a few minutes to spare please do leave us a review! 

Come join in the convo at our Facebook group or follow us on Insta and now WE ARE ON TWITTER! So come and chat to us there too :) x

This weeks I’m With Who we are keeping it in house. Our very own Cal has chosen to waive her legal right to anonymity and will be talking to Izzy about her experience of sexual violence. Cal believes that she is lucky enough to be able to speak up about her experience, and bravely does so in an attempt to help others survivors. We discuss the long-term effects of trauma, the misconceptions around how rape victims react, common rape myths about victim and perpetrator, and discuss how to be a better ally for someone who might have experienced sexual violence.

If what we talk about in today's episode is triggering for you, creates distress or upset for you, we have listed a number of support networks to reach out to from anywhere in the world or how to reach Cal and Izzy directly:

UK specific:

https://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/ (UK)

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/ (UK)

https://www.rape-dvservices.org.au/ (Aus)

https://www.rainn.org/ (US)

Global links: https://www.rcne.com/links/sources-of-help-for-survivors/

Resources: https://www.victimfocus.org.uk/ (set up by an amazing survivor called Dr Jessica Taylor)

Body Keeps The Score - Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma

Help for male/ trans survivors: https://www.survivorsuk.org/

Read: Chanel Miller's victim impact statement: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/katiejmbaker/heres-the-powerful-letter-the-stanford-victim-read-to-her-ra

Cal and I want to welcome anybody who wants to reach out to us directly. You can find us in the Facebook group here: I'M WITH HER

Or just send a message to the instagram page @im.withher and we will respond.

Also, we have created an option for people to post their story, questions, thoughts anonymously, so if you have something you want to ask but are not yet ready to put your name to it, this might be a good option to consider: Anonymous Members Stories

(the way this works is that you submit a story to a google form. Izzy will receive the message and then post it to the group. As a member you are able to see the support and responses from group members without your name being attached to the story).

G'day g'day g'day fine people and thanks for coming back this week for another bi-weekly round up of everything that's on our minds.

In this episode we’ll be talking about how we can't believe we still have to remind people that rape jokes are NOT funny, how to clap back at everyday sexism, we take a look into why the tests for UTI's might be letting us down (no, the pain is not all in my head Dr) and finally we are deep diving into a pool of cervical mucus and how wonderful it is. HA if you are grossed out now then gird your loins! (yes that is a Devil Wear Prada reference, love you Stanley Tucci!). 

And as always we will be delving you with another segment for #confessthursdays where both Cal and Izzy bear their uncomfortable truths to the world and rid themselves of shame...well, that's the plan anyway! Cal and I had so much fun making this episode so we really hope you enjoy it as much as we did making it.

Thank you for your ongoing support we really do get excited over ever single pair of ears that listens. If you do want to support the show please hit the "follow" or "subscribe" button.

If you have an opinion on something we have discussed in this episode, come into the facebook group to let us know - I'm With Her

Or follow us on instagram for a good looking place to talk about uncomfortable truths - @im.withher

Love you, byyyeeeeeeeeeeeee xxx

Our first ever guest and she's a cracker! The stunningly articulate and kind Josie who has the most infectious laugh talks to us about her experience of existing in this world as a fat woman. We walk about the body positivity movement and how it is letting down fat people, what we can do to participate in body neutrality and avoid all the toxic self love stuff along the way.

Here are the many recommendations straight from Josie herself for anyone who is struggling with their own body acceptance:

Rachel Wiley poem: https://youtube.com/watch?v=tRFOTqTicvY&feature=share

Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World That Wants to Shrink You https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0008293872/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_WV2SQ333F0691ZJPPVPW

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1479886750/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_MKBPVAYEC2AFC0B3H6TQ

The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1523090995/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_H064S6N03ZJMG051XW4M

The F*ck It Diet: The Ultimate Anti-Diet Bible https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/000833983X/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_WXPM5KQBW8A38EJYGC9D

Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls: A Handbook for Unapologetic Living https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1580055826/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_fabc_EN44J13YA1XZNW3RRABW

Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B003UBAWZY/ref=cm_sw_r_fm_apa_glt_K7Y1SJ3X82J7VSWV4628

Imani Barbarin - https://crutchesandspice.com/

Have a great week queens! xxx

Welcome backkkkkk, it's our second weekly roundup and this time we discuss the treatment of women in the immediate moments before and after birth, we have a mini debate on where we stand on friend-zoning and we relay our members advice and support for keeping sex spicy in long-term relationships. Plus...its #confessthursday and both Calie and Izzy have got a corker for you!

Thank you to all of you for coming back and listening again, it's your love and support over the past couple of weeks that encouraged us to come back again and do more so THANK YOU we love every single one of you.

If you do like the podcast and want to support us click FOLLOW or SUBSCRIBE on whatever platform you listen to and give us a little rating if you can? All 5 * ratings give you immediate good vibes and you are guaranteed to have a perfect day (disclaimer: you are not guaranteed to have a perfect day) but we would really appreciate it so we can reach more listeners which helps other womxn around the world feeling less alone x

You can continue the discussion in the group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2031947693618389/ 

Or come and look at some sexy sassy instagram posts here: https://www.instagram.com/im.withher/

Welcome backkkkkk, it's our second weekly roundup and this time we discuss the treatment of women in the immediate moments before and after birth, we have a mini debate on where we stand on friend-zoning and we relay our members advice and support for keeping sex spicy in long-term relationships. Plus...its #confessthursday and both Calie and Izzy have got a corker for you!

Thank you to all of you for coming back and listening again, it's your love and support over the past couple of weeks that encouraged us to come back again and do more so THANK YOU we love every single one of you.

If you do like the podcast and want to support us click FOLLOW or SUBSCRIBE on whatever platform you listen to and give us a little rating if you can? All 5 * ratings give you immediate good vibes and you are guaranteed to have a perfect day (disclaimer: you are not guaranteed to have a perfect day) but we would really appreciate it so we can reach more listeners which helps other womxn around the world feeling less alone x

You can continue the discussion in the group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2031947693618389/ 

Or come and look at some sexy sassy instagram posts here: https://www.instagram.com/im.withher/

What better way to start our I'm With Who episodes than to chat to our very own, Izzy Watts, founder of I'm With Her!

In this chat Calie asks Iz about her experience on birth control, mental health struggles and what motivated her to create the I'm With Her community.

Thank you for tuning in, we hope this conversation helps others feel less alone in their experiences and promotes healthy conversations of informed consent!

If you have an experience that you would like to share with us, come and find us in the FB group, we would love to hear from you:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2031947693618389/

Instagram @im.withher