Intergenerational trauma is something that has plagued my family and I’m trying to change it, but it feels like a burden to bear. Growing up, having to keep secrets and not having my basic needs met has made me evaluate how that’s impacted my parenting today. I have many things to work through with many different types of therapies at my disposal, but it will take time to wade through this generational trauma. 

 

Key Takeaways: 

 

[1:22] Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

[6:36] Physical safety in the hierarchy 

[7:33] My emotional needs and trauma bonding 

[8:19] Analyzing my past self and generational trauma 

[14:13] Growing up the message was that women were less than men 

[17:36] Hyper independence and people pleasing 

[22:27] Having to keep secrets as a child was damaging

[25:00] Love and abuse in the family 

[27:09] Passing on trauma to my children: nature or nurture? 

[31:25] Giving our children what we didn’t have growing up 

[32:40] How grief impacted my parenting 

[34:57] Having issues with boundaries, hypervigilance, and intrusive thoughts 

[36:29] I’m working to heal intergenerational trauma 

[38:00] Medical side of psychology 

[38:55] EMDR and how it helped me

[40:13] Somatic healing: how the mind and body connect 

[44:09] Trauma causes growth 

[44:38] People tell me I’m too honest about my story 

[45:56] The process of wading through trauma 

 

Resources:

 

• It Didn’t Start with You

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