Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org.  This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Impact Play, Safe Words, and Pain Calibration - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 40

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Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice. We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic 20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present 28:43 - Patreon Message 32:30 - Main Topic Intro 38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education 44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation 49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed 56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum 59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From 1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself Show Links:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear  https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407  https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed  https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/  https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness  https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html  https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/  https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/ https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/ Sex Education Guidelines:  https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/ https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf  https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/ https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/  https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 64

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion 25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion 35:09 - Patreon Message 36:40 - Main Topic Intro 41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed? 54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better? 1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered  1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed 1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class Show notes: www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart   www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay  www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e  www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21  www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9  www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11  www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53  www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615  www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/ Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version:  https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns  www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

Trans Justice and Sex Ed - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 63

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before! Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance 14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance? 22:40 - Patreon Message 25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play? 29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"? 33:23 - Types of GT Play 52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT 1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips 1:23:04 - Negotiating GT Show notes:  https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/  https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days  https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know  https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

Genital Torture and Trans Bodies - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 62

Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria 20:09 - Dysphoria Tips 45:46 - Patreon Message 47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person 59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm 1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips Show notes:  https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/  https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex  https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms [NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/ [NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/  http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

Dysphoria and Sex as a Trans Person - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 61

Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw Segments: 2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE 6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT 20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs 32:26 - Patreon Message 36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries 53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing 1:05:53 - Wrap Up 1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant Show notes: [Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8  https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

Impact Play, Safe Words, and Pain Calibration - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 40

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