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If you’re feeling unhappy in your workplace, every negative interaction and lack of recognition thereafter can start to flood your emotions. That growing toxicity can make you feel like a ship taking on more and more water. 

 

“Ships don't sink because of the water around them. Ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.”

 

You are not powerless. You CAN create change in your life. You just need the right tools to rid your ship of the water that’s weighing you down. 

 

Today, Blake explains how you can leverage and empower yourself in order to create change, rather than waiting or expecting someone else to do it for you. In order to move forward and release yourself from the burden and the stress of a toxic work environment, you've got to learn how to lead the leader.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn how to identify small changes you can make in the interim as you search for a healthier environment. Blake encourages you to uncover the root of your unhappiness and understand why you feel so powerless to create change. You’ll learn the concept of leading the leader, one of the most effective ways to start to shift toxic experiences in your current job as you begin to create change.  

 

What You’ll Learn:

• How your perception of being powerless is affecting how you feel at work (1:02)
• A question to ask yourself if you want to instigate change (1:57)
• What stops us from advocating for ourselves (3:18)
• What it means to lead the leader (4:43)
• Why the way we communicate our dissatisfaction matters (5:49)

 

Favorite Quotes:

1. Your environment is not you.
2. The only person that can advocate for ourselves, is us.
3. It's not just your circumstances that are making you unhappy. There are skills, habits, boundaries, or beliefs that you either need to learn or to shift to actually get you where you want to go. 
4. Understanding the emotions of your boss, the executive team, that co-worker, and yourself is a really critical key in helping you identify how you can use that awareness and that emotional intelligence to actually create change.

 

Additional Resources:

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that. 

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

 

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

If you’re a parent, then you know that some of the deepest connections you’ll ever experience are with your children. But so often, we focus on our role as correctors of behavior, when it’s the connection that should be nourished first. 

 

When we connect before correcting, whether it’s with our children, spouse, friends, or co-workers, we’re opening the door to better outcomes and better relationships. 

 

Today, Blake welcomes Jennifer Kolari, one of the nation’s leading parenting experts, sought-after international speaker, and founder of Connected Parenting. Her mission is to help more parents discover the power of connected parenting so they can raise children who are resilient, protected, & secure in their relationships, lives, & environments.

 

In this episode, Jennifer shares powerful insights and real-life examples of challenges that parents are struggling with. You’ll hear effective techniques that you can use to build a stronger connection with your child to help them become healthier, more resilient, and ultimately, more successful in their lives.

 

What You’ll Learn:

• The emotional moment that continues to inspire her work (6:35)
• Common mistakes parents make when trying to correct behaviors (13:03)
• How to reframe our fear of negative feelings (18:06)
• An example of how connection before correction builds resilience (26:04)
• Why successful people aren’t always successful parents (43:42)

 

Favorite Quotes:

• Behavior is never the problem. It's a symptom of the problem. —Jennifer
• We need to teach and train our kids to help them be successful adults, but the way you get there is through connection, not control. —Jennifer
• The most important relationship is the one between you and you. When that relationship is good, then your other relationships fall into place. —Jennifer

 

Connect with Jennifer:

 

www.ConnectedParenting.com

 

www.facebook.com/connectedparenting

 

Follow @JenniferKolari on Instagram

 

Additional Resources:

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that. 

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

 

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

Are you feeling stuck by the circumstances of your life?  

 

When you know that something needs to change or a big decision needs to be made, that stuck feeling could be an indication that you’re not in the best place to make those changes with the resources you have at that moment. 

 

Today, Blake shares the keys to getting unstuck and how a few changes can help you move towards better outcomes for your life. She reveals the dangers of having too much certainty and how the experiences of those ahead of you can help you see a wider path of possibilities. You’ll also hear why mindset plays such an important role in the framing of your decisions and how shifting your perspective can start to open up new possibilities. 

 

Letting go of control and seeking expert advice could be the key to opening possibilities you can’t see from your vantage point. 

 

Are you ready to discover better opportunities for your life and career?

 

What You’ll Learn:

• The real reason why you’re feeling stuck (0:54)
• Keys to more effective decision making (1:21)
• Why certainty can cause us to overlook different opportunities (3:16)
• How to let go of control and leave space for better outcomes (4:54)

 

Favorite Quotes:

1. We are not stuck because of our circumstances, but because of how we are thinking.
2.  If you have set in stone what that next thing needs to look like, you are absolutely going to give yourself a less optimal outcome than what you could have. 
3. Surround yourself with people who are further ahead than you because they have solutions and answers to things you don't yet know. 

 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that. 

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

Asking for help isn’t always easy. But when you’re stuck in a job that doesn’t motivate or excite you, getting out of that rut requires looking at your skillset a bit differently and gaining a better understanding of what you’re truly looking for from a company. A fresh perspective can make all the difference. 

 

Today, Blake welcomes Sandra to the show to share her story. When Sandra first reached out, she knew she was ready for a change, but the dread of the job search had her feeling stuck and unmotivated. Sandra was able to leverage the support of Blake and her team to really understand the scope and breadth of what was possible when she equipped herself with more resources.

 

You’ll hear how Sandra’s job search went from dreadful to joyful as she learned how to confidently ask for what she wanted and needed without fear or hesitation. In a few short months, Sandra has gained confidence and invaluable skills that now make her a better, more effective communicator. Not only did she have life-changing “aha” moments, but she truly enjoyed the process— which led her to discover a few other unexpected gifts along the way. 

 

What You’ll Learn:

• How Sandra found the courage to ask for help (4:10)
• The biggest personal shift she experienced through the program (6:56)
• One lesson that helped push her to get through difficult situations (10:13)
• The secret to Sandra’s “aha” moments (22:59)
• A life lesson that Sandra has learned from her experience (26:39)

 

Favorite Quotes:

• What we think we need versus what we really need sometimes are very, very different. —Blake 
• This program has shown me that I can truly have what I need, and what I want without sacrificing what I don't want. —Sandra
• It's okay to ask additional questions, it's okay, to ask for help, and it's okay to not know something. That is something that I will definitely carry forward through the rest of my career in my life, is that I don't have to know everything. —Sandra
• I think if every woman took this program and applied what they learned, we not only would be living better lives, but I truly think we could run the world. —Sandra

 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that. 

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

Do you struggle when it comes to making important decisions about your life and career?

 

Engaging in a lengthy process of decision-making, unfortunately, is all too common. We often (mistakenly) believe that the more time we spend making a decision, the more likely we are to make a GOOD or RIGHT decision. The truth? When it comes to making decisions, only 5% of logic actually comes into play. But those who over analyze spend drastically more time seeking information trying to rationalize what they already know to be true deep down.

 

Not only is this process stressful and time-consuming, it can be downright exhausting. And the longer you take to make a decision, the more likely you are to make the wrong one. 

 

But there IS a better way. 

 

Today, Blake explains why our brains cloud our decision-making with so much emotion, and how you can clear a path that allows logic to be your guide. She shares 3 important questions you can ask yourself to speed up your decision-making process with less stress and more clarity. You’ll learn how much time actually gets wasted when we waffle through an emotion-led process and a simple method for tapping into your inner wisdom so you can start making big choices in a lot less time.

 

What You’ll Learn:

• 3 questions to ask yourself before you make a big decision (2:04)
• Why waiting to make important decisions is the wrong approach (3:20)
• How much time we spend letting fear be in the driver’s seat (4:52)
• Knowing whether you’re making decisions based on fear or based on wisdom (5:34)

 

Favorite Quotes:

1. By waiting and taking additional time, you're not able to make a better decision. Instead, what you're doing is allowing fear to drive your decision-making.
2. If we end up spending our time trying to be analytical or logical about the decisions that in our gut we already know are right, we are wasting time and allowing fear to be in the driver's seat. 
3. The longer you take to make a decision, the more likely you are to make the wrong one. Learn to trust yourself.

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that. 

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

How often do you think you’re not doing enough, in spite of feeling completely depleted? 

 

If you’re always wanting more time for the things that matter to you, then you might have a self-care deficit.  

 

Our tendency to overproduce in an attempt to prove our worthiness is getting us nowhere.

 

Today, Blake welcomes writer, podcaster, speaker, and self-care expert Suzanne Falter. After the sudden loss of her daughter, she happened upon a blueprint that changed the course of her life. Through the toughest times, she learned the greatest lessons about aligning with our values and the phenomenal healing power of self-care.

 

You’ll hear how Suzanne went from a life of busyness and over-producing to the sudden loss of everything around her, from her vibrant daughter to the roof over her head. She shares the lessons she learned through that profound period of growth and how she’s inspiring other women to shift their own perspectives about what’s important. Her 5 keys to self-care will help you lead a fuller life that focuses on better alignment so you can prioritize the things that are truly valuable in your life. 

 

When you take the time to understand your specific needs, only then can you honor them and align your way of living with what’s uniquely important to you. 

 

What You’ll Learn:

• The loss that launched Suzanne onto a new path of self-care (4:30)
• How to shift your focus from work to quality of life (9:07)
• Why alignment is such an important part of self-care (13:17)
• The 5 basics of self-care (15:00)
• Why women are conditioned to over-produce (21:15)

 

Favorite Quotes:

1. You don't have to struggle, you don't have to suffer, you don't have to overwork. There is a great deal of self-care to the idea that we're living our values and we're working in balance. —Suzanne
2. We are born lined up with a set of desires and a set of needs and a set of things in life that just make us smile and feel great. And we forget to honor them, we forget to listen to them... Because we're so busy doing what we think we should do. —Suzanne
3. Overproduction is this idea that you have to keep doing in order to be valid, in order to be adequate, in order to be enough. And we are enough intrinsically as we are, without doing anything. —Suzanne

 

Grab your free self-care assessment tool:

www.suzannefalter.com/yourselfcare

 

Tune into the Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women podcast: https://suzannefalter.com/xbwpodcast/

 

Join Suzanne’s Facebook group of over 50k women practicing self-care:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/selfcareforextremelybusywomen/

 

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Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that. 

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

Could the things you’re prioritizing in your life actually be keeping you stuck?

 

If after a hard day at work, the first thing you think about is planning a big vacation, focusing on your upcoming home remodel, or buying a new car, then you might be trying to distract yourself from the real problem. 

 

The key to living a more fulfilled life is knowing how to prioritize what you NEED in order to create the change you want. 

 

Today, Blake shares what it looks like when your priorities are misaligned with your goals. She explains how short-term distractions can keep you from discovering what will actually bring you long-term happiness, and she reveals the most common lies you tell yourself while putting time and energy into the wrong things. 

 

You’ll hear the fundamental elements that might be keeping you from living the life you’ve always wanted. Learn whether or not your current priorities are keeping you stuck, and how you can start making better choices that will move you towards the life you want. Don’t wait until your breakdown moment to invest in a better future. 

 

The only way to get different results is to take different actions.

 

What You’ll Learn:

• The fundamental things that help or hinder us from getting what we want in life (0:42)
• Four examples of priorities that are out of sequence with the life you want (1:44)
• Knowing your ‘lead domino’; the thing that you need to fix to solve everything else (2:27)
• A common mistake that career-driven women make when it comes to family (6:19)
• Why your breakdown moment is never the right time to make a change (7:36)

 

Favorite Quotes:

1. One of the greatest lessons I've learned in the last five years since leaving corporate America is that how we think about things, understand and process our emotions, and leverage our resources fundamentally are the things that either create what we want in life or keep us from getting it. 
2. If you look closely enough, you'll likely find there are a lot of things you spent your money, time, or energy on, things that were trying to make you feel better, but ultimately weren't the real solution to the problem.
3. Until we're no longer willing to tolerate what we've been doing, we're going to continue to do it. The only way to get different results is to take different actions.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan here: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

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Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them here: https://thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes/

Are gaps in your resume holding you back from seeking something bigger and better for yourself? 

 

Whether you’re lacking a few requirements for the kind of work you’d really love to be doing or you feel like your level of formal education won’t cut it, that limited perspective isn’t going to get you what you want. 

 

Rather than sacrificing your potential success, get a different perspective. 

 

Today, Blake welcomes Sharon to the show to tell you about her experience in the program. Before The Bridge to Fulfillment®, Sharon felt trapped in her career. Although she had a ton of experience, her lack of a college degree made her believe that making a change would mean taking a pay cut, starting over, or going back to school. As the breadwinner in her family, none of those felt like viable options. We made sure they didn’t have to be. After only 7 weeks in the program, Sharon has made leaps and bounds in her confidence and career. Moving on from a role that didn’t feel in alignment with her values, she has now found work she loves building relationships as part of a team WHILE also securing a 30+% pay increase!

 

You’ll hear why Sharon finally decided to take a chance on investing in her future, and how a key piece of advice early in the program about professional and personal alignment has changed her life. You’ll begin to understand why the work you do is actually a reflection of who you are, debunking the myth that business isn’t personal. You’ll also hear about Sharon’s biggest struggles before going into the program and her impressive results.

 

When you’re clear on who you are & the value you bring to the table, then you can confidently communicate how and why your experience is more important than your lack of a degree. 

 

What You’ll Learn:

• A key piece of advice when you’re looking for professional change (5:14)
• Why Sharon finally decided to take the leap and ask for help (13:05)
• The results that Sharon has gained from the program (17:24)
• Why what you do for work is more personal than you think (20:01)
• Sharon’s biggest struggles that the program has helped her overcome (27:05)
• The results after only 7 weeks in, and her impressive salary boost (28:27)

 

Favorite Quotes:

1. “I firmly believe that the universe will never close a door without opening a window. As soon as I leaned in and I trusted, that is exactly what happened.” —Sharon
2. “At the end of the day, the time you invest in yourself and your career is tiny compared to the opportunities you can put in front of yourself if you just do the work.” —Sharon

 

Additional Resources:

 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that.

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

Do you wake up in the morning with a deeply unsettled feeling that there's something more you should be doing? As you’re headed into work for the day, do you have the urge to turn the car around, but feel stuck by the fear of what might happen if you tried to change things?

 

Today, Blake explains why so many people who aren’t happy in their lives tend to choose the certainty of misery over the misery of uncertainty. This type of inaction leads people to stay in situations where they’re unfulfilled rather than choosing to create the change they so desperately need. 

 

You’ll hear why people choose the certainty of misery, and what it is that makes us so uncomfortable with the unknown to begin with. She shares real-life examples of what it looks like to choose misery, and how finally letting go of your attachment to certainty allows you to open up to new opportunities for guidance. 

 

It’s time to let go of the certainty of your misery and get the resources you need to create the change you want & need! 

 

What You’ll Learn:

• Why we’re uncomfortable with uncertainty (1:53)
• How to know if you’re choosing the certainty of misery (3:17)
• What it means when you can’t solve a problem in 48 hours (4:47)
• The myth of a black and white approach to change (9:33)
• Identifying where you are on the path to change (13:22)

 

Favorite Quote:

1. We as humans are so uncomfortable with the things that we don't know that we will literally stay in circumstances or situations that we know are making us miserable, that we know won't get us where we want to go for fear of what that unknown actually might be.
2. Until we begin to [question whether what our brain is telling us is true or not], we're always going to be trapped in this cycle of believing that it's safer to be miserable than it is to actually create change in our lives.

 

Additional Resources:

 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is. 

We can help you do just that.

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

 

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes

Do you find yourself constantly going back and forth on how you feel about your job? One day you can’t leave the office fast enough, and others, you wonder if maybe things really aren’t that bad? Not only are these constantly changing beliefs creating stress in your life, but they are also keeping you stuck.    Today, Blake shares why this emotional, yo-yo frame of mind is one of the most common mistakes women make in their careers and in their lives. She shares the evolutionary reasons why we do this to ourselves, and most importantly, how you can stop doing the back-and-forth and make a decision based on your core strengths and values. 

 

You’ll hear the process one client went through in order to finally shift her perspective and change her life for the better. You’ll also learn how to uncover your fulfillment framework and overcome the fear that’s keeping you stuck so that you can see what you’re capable of and seek out what you deserve. Blake also shares a daily practice that’ll help you kick start the gears of change in your life.  

 

Are you ready to make decisions from a place of wisdom and opportunity rather than out of frustration and fear?

 

What You’ll Learn:

• Why we prefer certainty over the unknown (1:21)
• How to know if you’re with the wrong company (7:04)
• The importance of uncovering your fulfillment framework (10:50)
• A daily practice to initiate change in your life (13:42)
• How fear tricks you into accepting your circumstances (14:31)

 

Favorite Quote:

 

The thing [about your workplace] you keep telling yourself you can get over…you actually won't ever be able to get over because it will never fundamentally align with what you truly believe. —Blake

Additional Resources:

 

Rather than hoping the grass will be greener, identify what the RIGHT next step is.

We can help you do just that.

 

Get clarity on where you are on your journey to career fulfillment, where you’re headed, optional paths to get there, and the right next step to take.

 

Start your complimentary, Personalized Career Fulfillment Plan by going to www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/plan

 

Want free resources to set your job search up for success? You can get them by going to: http://www.thebridgetofulfillment.com/mistakes