Wisdom, love, and understanding can be difficult to find, especially when you are too much in your mind. Here's some reasons why this may be true for you, and some ways to fix this, although this is by no means an end all be all of Solutions.
Your mind reality can trap you. If you don't know how to deal with this effectively, you will suffer, and more. This technique will help you overcome this to a large extent, if not completely. enjoy.