Why do we keep reaching for our phones, even when we know too much scrolling isn't good for us? In Part 1 of this two-part series, Lisa unpacks our relationship with social media and shares a healthier way to approach it.

Key moments from this episode:

This series is not about quitting social media. It’s about choosing how you engage with it so it builds confidence instead of draining it.

00:00 Intro

04:41 How Social Media Affects the Brain

11:03 Create Balance with Social Media

11:52 Not All Platforms Are the Same

13:53 Define Your Relationship with Each Platform (Download the PDF!)

24:45 Mindset Shift: Abundance Over Validation

30:30 Reality Check: Impact on Daily Life

32:25 Preview of Part 2

32:49 Outro

33:16 Disclaimer

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Friendships are vital to our health and happiness. When they are good, they give us energy, support, and joy. But even with those benefits, many of us still struggle to make and keep friends as adults. Between shifting life stages, busy schedules, and the awkwardness of “friend dating,” connection can feel daunting.

In this episode, Lisa explores:

Why making friends as an adult feels so daunting and how to overcome the “friend dating” stage

The circles of friendship: leaf, branch, and root people and how to know who belongs where

Simple ways to nurture your inner circle and let go of friendships that no longer serve you

Friendships need care, and this conversation shows you where to start.

00:00 Intro

03:36 How do you make friends as an adult?

11:32 Not all friendships are created equal

16:51 How to nurture your friendships

25:12 Reflection questions

26:34 A simple way to show someone you’re thinking of them

27:15 Outro

28:11 Disclaimer

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Every great movement needs its storytellers. On this Women’s Equality Day, we’re going behind the curtain with Jill Furman, Tony Award-winning producer of In the Heights, Hamilton, and now Suffs, the Broadway musical about the women who fought for the right to vote. From tough rewrites to building inclusive teams, Jill shows us how producing art can shape how we see equality, leadership, and each other.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

The behind-the-scenes journey of Suffs and its Tony wins

Why progress is messy, but still worth marching for

How Jill leads with compassion in an industry built on uncertainty

Celebrate Women’s Equality Day with Gravitas:

See Suffs on tour and experience the story inspiring audiences nationwide 

Shop our new Forward Into Light Rebel Sweatshirt designed to honor this day and suffragist Inez Milholland who fought for our right to vote

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Power and pressure can bring out your best or quietly push you into habits that damage trust, communication, and confidence. In this conversation, Lisa sits down with Sabina Nawaz, best-selling author of You’re the Boss, global executive coach, and former senior leader at Microsoft, who has spent her career helping leaders at the highest levels navigate these forces with clarity and humanity. Sabina shares proven strategies and simple tools anyone can use to lead (and be led) better.

You’ll learn:

No matter your role, walk away ready to handle pressure and lead in a way that inspires.

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00:00 Intro

01:39 Meet Sabina Nawaz

05:13 Rethinking the Leadership Playbook

09:37 Pressure, Power, and Permission

11:47 Four Myths of Leadership

12:40 Authenticity is Not Singular

17:34 Values in Action

19:26 “Yeah, But” and Confirmation Bias

23:51 Business Is Personal

26:03 Sabina's Tips on Changing How You Lead

26:45 Step One: Shut Up

28:31 Step Two: Use Numbers

31:21 Step Three: Do Nothing

35:31 The Wake-Up Call: Simple and Specific Feedback

39:25 Lisa’s Leadership Lesson

42:56 Hidden Power Dynamics

50:26 Final Thoughts

53:21 Outro

54:15 Disclaimer

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Have you ever finished one of our In Confidence episodes feeling inspired, only to face a situation that puts those ideas to the test? In this “Ask Lisa Anything” episode, Lisa answers three listener-submitted workplace dilemmas and shares the tools to navigate them with confidence.

In this episode, we tackle:

A respectful, trust-building way to challenge a higher-up’s decision

How to process and act on tough feedback without losing momentum

Practical steps to avoid the gossip trap and strengthen workplace relationships

We love hearing your questions and stories. Keep them coming so we can continue learning from each other and growing stronger together because what we share in confidence helps us grow in confidence. 

00:00 Intro

01:58 How to Challenge the Decision from Someone Higher Up

05:28 What to Do After a Bad Performance Review

13:05 Office Gossip About Someone Who Is Tough to Work With

19:14 Outro

20:03 Disclaimer

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We’re taught to chase success, but what if the real growth comes from chasing failure? In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa sits down with her best friend, Jane Park, founder of Julep and Tokki, and former director at Starbucks and leader at BCG, to talk about why she sets “failure goals” on purpose. Jane shares how reframing failure as a target instead of a setback can help you aim higher, take bigger risks, and uncover who you’re truly meant to be.

You’ll learn:

This conversation will inspire you to rethink your relationship with failure and see it as proof that you are stretching, growing, and playing bigger than before.

00:00 Intro

01:37 Meet Jane Park

08:22 Why Jane Thinks We Should Strive to Fail

12:00 What Is a Failure Goal?

17:37 No Regrets, Only Learnings

19:51 Why Jane Adopted This Philosophy

22:47 Jane’s Failure of Character Story and What She Learned from It

32:53 How to Process Shame and Embarrassment

34:56 Shame Buddies, Holding Space, and Recognizing Toxic Positivity

39:07 Quick Questions: Ritual to Stay Grounded, Rewards for Failing, Normalizing Failure in the Workplace, Jane’s Professional Failure Rate

48:39 Why Great Risk-Taking Means Being an Expert in Failure

53:16 Try This Failure Goal This Week

55:10 Outro

56:25 Disclaimer

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Only 12% of people feel confident speaking in front of others, which means the rest of us are winging it, sweating through it, or avoiding it altogether. Are you part of the 88% who don’t feel ready for the spotlight? Let’s change that.

In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa shares the rituals, strategies, and mindset shifts that helped her go from a shy immigrant kid to a confident keynote speaker.

What you'll get from this episode:

Public speaking isn’t just for performers. It’s for all of us. And with the right tools, you can get better at it.

00:00 Intro

04:06 What to Expect: 3 Tips for Public Speaking

04:26 Tip 1: Embrace Your Body

13:10 Tip 2: Practice Storytelling

15:24 Tip 3: Energize and Enthuse

20:19 Use Season 1, Episode 1 as a Practice Too

l21:35 Outro

22:05 Disclaimer

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This week on In Confidence, Lisa sits down with Dr. Grace Kao, IBM Professor of Sociology at Yale University and K-pop expert, to explore why Korean idol groups have taken the world by storm and what their global rise reveals about identity, belonging, and the forces that shape confidence. 

This episode unpacks:

The rigorous training system that gives idols unshakable confidence

How fandom creates deep belonging and challenges stereotypes

Why K-pop may be shifting how the world sees Asian identity

Stay with us because this isn’t just about K-pop. It’s about the power of being seen.

*This episode contains discussion of mental health, suicide, and body image. If those topics are sensitive for you, please take care in choosing how and when to listen.

Listen to Dr. Grace Kao's YouTube Playlists:

10-Song Intro to K-Pop

40 Song Intro to K-Pop

00:00 Intro

02:01 Meet Professor Dr. Grace Kao

10:48 How Grace Got Into K-pop

13:07 Lisa’s Story: Reclaiming Identity Through K-pop

16:41 What Makes K-pop Fandom Different

21:50 How Fandom Shapes Identity and Belonging

27:14 How East Asian Men Are Viewed in Media and Dating

31:49 Why K-pop Crossed Over While Other Asian Music Hasn’t

37:33 Biases, Archetypes, and the “Someone for Everyone” Formula

40:52 Idol Romance Rules, Western Collabs, and K-pop’s Film Takeover

45:16 Unrealistic Beauty Standards in K-pop

48:31 Confidence Through Preparation: The Idol Training System

50:08 Mental Health Pressures in the Industry

53:13 The Global Rise of Asian Desirability

56:08 Quick-Fire Round: Music Videos, Bias Picks, and Billboard Highlights

01:01:44 Outro

01:03:32 Disclaimer

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Think your coworkers are difficult or you just can’t seem to work well together? With Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z all sharing the same workplace, it’s no wonder that collaboration can feel harder than it should. In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa breaks down the values, habits, and communication styles that shape each generation and how to use that insight to build stronger team dynamics at work.

You’ll learn:

Whether you’re managing, mentoring, or just trying to be understood, this episode offers insight for every generation at the table.

00:00 Intro

01:59 What to Expect: 4 Generations in the Workplace

06:19 Generation Overview: Strengths & Challenges

11:07 How to Build Trust Across Generations

12:09 What Each Generation Teaches Us and What Triggers Them

19:00 Resolving Cross-Generational Conflict

30:35 Final Takeaways

31:51 Outro

32:15 Disclaimer

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Career pivots can feel overwhelming, but moments of uncertainty are often turning points. Whether you're stuck in a role that no longer fits, scared to take the leap, or navigating a change you didn’t choose, these crossroads offer a chance to grow in new and meaningful ways.

In this episode of In Confidence, Nikkia Reveillac—former professional dancer turned corporate leader at Netflix and Twitter, now entrepreneur and speaker—joins Lisa to reflect on the mindset, courage, and strategy behind her major career pivots. Each transition has helped her begin breaking free from her cage, and now she’s sharing the insights that have guided her along the way.

Highlights from this episode:

How to grieve a career shift without getting stuck in the past

Why taking a pause can lead to better decisions about what’s next

A bold approach to pivoting industries: a talk on resumes and how to stand out from the rest

Your next chapter may feel uncertain, but it could also be the best one yet. So break from your cage.

00:00 Introduction

06:35 Meet Nikkia Reveillac

19:50 The Pivot Conversation Begins

20:27 First Pivot: From Need to Opportunity

26:26 Grieving Dance and Finding Abundance

31:40 Getting Fired From Twitter

39:34 When Feedback Reflects Culture

49:20 Laid Off Without Severance: What Now?

55:11 How to Pivot: Skills, Experimentation, Outreach

1:00:28 Staying Open to What's Next

1:05:06 Hire for Potential, Not Pedigree

1:06:43 Calming the Inner Critic

1:10:48 Breaking Out of the Cage

1:16:41 Sweet Exhaustion: Knowing the Work Still Fits

1:21:25 What’s Next for Nikkia

1:22:11 Outro

1:23:16 Disclaimer

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