Welcome back to “In Imma’s Eyes” a podcast where we journey through the weekly Torah portion and glean parenting insights along the way.  My heart is to treat G-d as the template of a perfect parent, and use this to inspire us to be a more Loving Inner Parent to ourselves, our physical children, and our spiritual children (for those of us who teach).

Parenting Experience

I am not a parenting expert, despite being in my 25th year of my own parenting journey.  I, like you, am a work in progress.  I hope to lead by example, not by expertise.  May my hindsight bring you insight, always :)

Dear Sashya, Question Time!

We have our first question from a listener today!  As a reminder, you can submit your questions via my website www.sashyaclark.com and if your question is aired, (anonymously) you will get $20 off any of my current offers.  So, Mazel Tov! Congrats and all that jazz to our first Master Question Asker.  She writes, “Ok, this all sounds great, but here is where it gets sticky for me…HOW do you get your children to LISTEN to you?  I try to teach my children all kinds of things, and as soon as I start talking, they tune out, interrupt, or just walk away.  Any suggestions?  Yes, and I think this week’s parsha may hold the keys for us :)

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Summary of the Parsha

7 days, creation, shabbat

Pinnacle of Creation:  Humans In Hashem’s tzelem and demut

Tzelem like photograph, so we are like a photo of Hashem 

Demut to resemble, in character and behavior.  According to the RAMCHAL (Moshe Chaim Luzzatto, a prominent Italian Jewish Rabbi and Kabbalist from the early 1700’s)

Adam and Eve, Cain and Abel, and Seth

Inspired by the questions Hashem asks:  Adam, Eve, Cain

Gen 3:9 “Where are you?”  Not, “What have you done????”

Gen 3:11 “Who told you that you are naked?  Did you eat…”  (Slippery question)

Gen 4:9  “Where is your brother?”  “How should I know?”

Boundaries = Love  Gen 2:16-17, and Inspired by clear communication: 

Hashem says, “if you eat it”

Hashem makes a wife for Adam

And somehow she understands “don’t even touch it or you will die.” Gen 3:3

Literal children :) 

Parenting Touchpoint:  My summary, this story could be literal, and maybe be.  It could also be aggadic, and an attempt to explain HOW humans became different from the animals.   Here are some key questions I leave us with:  What questions can I ask when my Inner Child, or my physical children are acting out that would open the door for connection and correction, rather than accusation, and artifice? Many times people just want to be heard.  How can I open the door for honest communication?  How can I partner with Hashem as a Loving Parent in resembling Hashem’s character?  What is the difference between B’tzelem Elohim and B’demut Elohim?  Who is responsible for my growth?  Who is responsible for my children’s journey?  How can I be a better partner?  Am I being as clear as I can be about my instructions and expectations, or am I adding fences without explanation and leaving the door open for doubt in Hashem’s words?

Thank you for tuning in.  If you would like to study with me, you are welcome to join my Parenting Support Group on FB, or you are welcome to learn to read the Hebrew of the weekly Parsha in my class, “Parsha with CaTellyst.”  This class is ideally for folks who have already learned to decode biblical Hebrew, and want an opportunity to strengthen their reading and work toward mastery, and fluency.

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In Imma's Eyes is a Parenting Podcast Journey. Each week we are gleaning parenting tips from the weekly Parsha. Episodes include helpful tips, thought provoking questions, in a smooth sauce of humility, humor and love.

Sashya the CaTellyst is a Wonder Well of useful and random information. She leads by example, always applying her tips to herself first. Listeners can benefit from her 24 years of parenting trials and errors and make her hindsight your insight and foresight for the future.

She has been dubbed, "The Pattern Interrupter" and offers coaching and classes to support others as they alter the trajectory of their current reality.

Sashya “The CaTellyst” travels the “road of happy destiny” with her soulmate, Ben. She is an educator, a freelance author, an entrepreneur, and a loving, guiding parent to three hobbits and a princess, her daughter-in-law, and grand pup, Dallas; all whom she adores. 

She is fascinated with Quantum Human Design and believes it is a road map to the Soul's curriculum while here on earth. She is a 6/2 Mental Projector and believes in the power of a good story to discover the magic in the mundane of life.  Narratives are powerful, and with over a decade of counseling experience coupled with her recent Certification in Quantum Human Design, she is prepared to share her unique perspective with you.

She loves to explore ALL THINGS NEW ➳ new ideas, new places, new people, new things and easily becomes delighted by observing G-d hiding among the "bushes" of circumstance.  Naturally curious, she likes to turn, turn, turn and turn again a good juicy story until the monotonous becomes miraculous.  You can learn more at www.sashyaclark.com 

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