I never understood this in primary school but I gave it a go anyway and that lead me to codependency, self abandonment and unhelpful attachments🥴 when I looked at this phrase through the loving gaze I now have for myself I realised that if I just flip it, its fine! Others still get love, care and respect but not before I receive them from myself! How do we expect to give something we ourselves are not familiar with? I could not teach something I had not learnt? This new rule of thumb has laid stable footing for more relationships that are healthy, full of of love and aligned with me and us at core.