This mentality is not holding on to you - you're still holding on to it. If we truly believe Jesus when He said, I came to set the captives free, then we would say, Jesus, I want you to unlock this chain. He unlocks the chain, but we just sit there, or we say, "Jesus, you're going to take the chain off?" And He is wondering why we don't remove it ourselves.
We get really good at wearing these handcuffs. I even bedazzle them to match my outfit. Some people even continue to wear the chains because they've become their armor, and they protect them from themselves and from others. You never allow the injured places to heal.