社交媒体和短视频平台（如抖音）不仅仅是一种娱乐工具，它们代表了一种文化转向，潜移默化地改变了社会的价值观和行为模式。这种影响不仅仅是让人沉迷于消磨时间，而是通过算法、流量和社交压力，重塑了社会的意识形态。

具体表现

1. 对人际关系的重塑

  Dating app 等平台使人们越来越缺乏耐心去建立和维护长期关系。人们一边抱怨“爱情已死”，一边却不愿意付出真心。

这种“快餐式”社交模式削弱了人们对深度情感的投入，导致人际关系更加表面化和功利化。

2. 对消费文化的异化

   网络平台驱动的消费行为挤压了现实生活中的互动，缩短了产业链，恶化了营商环境。消费者不得不花费更多时间筛选商品和浏览广告。互联网商业化使得广告无处不在，人们的注意力被不断分割，消费行为变得更加冲动和非理性。

3. 对文化和社会意识形态的转向

   互联网平台通过“挑战文化”（如“冰桶挑战”“瓶盖挑战”）和“打卡文化”，引导用户模仿特定行为，甚至不顾安全风险。这种行为模仿的背后，是平台通过流量和社交压力对用户行为的引导，形成了一种隐性的“大众劝说”。

更深层次的影响

- 信息消费的片面性：人们更容易被情绪化、偏激甚至低俗的内容吸引，导致网络环境极端化，这也是网络暴力的重要来源。

- 工具理性对价值理性的压制：社交媒体和短视频平台的崛起，反映了工具理性（追求效率和即时满足）对价值理性（追求意义和深度）的压制。

- 文化工业的延伸：这些平台通过标准化、娱乐化的内容生产，塑造了一种新的文化消费模式，改变了人们对世界的认知方式。

总结

社交媒体和短视频平台不仅仅是技术工具，它们通过算法、流量和社交压力，潜移默化地改变了人们的行为习惯和价值观。这种文化转向是一种隐性的“大众劝说”，它通过消费导向、行为模仿和情感绑定，重塑了社会的意识形态。

When faced with verbal bullying in work and study, we can choose to resist or ignore it.

Resisting means directly pointing out that the other person's words make you uncomfortable and demanding more objective, fair and equal communication. This approach requires you to respect your own feelings and have the courage to face conflicts. You can regard it as an opportunity to exercise your conflict-handling ability.

Ignoring is applicable when you think the current work or study task is very important. Don't let the other person's words define you, and don't doubt yourself because of any attacks. This requires you to clearly understand your own strengths and have self-confidence.

Here are some tips for dealing with verbal bullying:
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Confide: You can confide your grievances to a friend, but don't repeat them over and over again. Repeating them is equivalent to pulling out the knife that others stabbed into you and stabbing yourself again, which is a form of self-attack.
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Empathy: Try to view those who habitually use verbal violence from a higher and more merciful perspective. They usually engage in repetitive work for a long time, especially in the field of training. They are trapped by this work pattern and often output negative emotions outwardly, unable to perceive the impact of their words on others.

We can also view ourselves from a broader perspective. The current experience is just a small part of our lives. We shouldn't be trapped in the present by those who are trapped in the present. Instead, we should keep in mind that our goal is as vast as the sea of stars.

"Book Review of 'Life 3.0'

How do housewives achieve self-demotion? People need their own careers. They need to obtain a sense of identity and a sense of accomplishment from their jobs or the things they are creating. However, being a housewife means cutting off the broader sources of a sense of accomplishment. After becoming a housewife, if even for just a second, you regard gaining your family's satisfaction as the goal of life or obtain recognition from it, you will automatically be demoted to a maid. Your family members will subconsciously find fault with your "work". They will shift from being originally grateful for your efforts to judging them. They may start to compare your work with the standards they've seen from other channels. For example, at first, they thought the meals you cooked were delicious, but later on, they gradually began to think that the meals you cooked were not nutritious or healthy enough, even though they didn't have to do the cooking themselves. Or they might think that the cleaning you did wasn't clean enough. The difficulty here is that once you become a housewife, it's almost impossible for you to receive positive feedback from anywhere outside the family. Inevitably, you will put yourself in the position of a maid. And your family members will gradually regard you as a maid based on the signals conveyed by your daily behaviors, taking a clean and tidy home environment and delicious meals as the assessment indicators for you. All these changes in mentality occur subconsciously, and it's difficult for both sides to notice them. 

In the context of an intimate relationship, when we discern that the behavior of our partner exhibits manipulative tendencies, we are often inclined to question the nature of such manipulation - whether it is a conscious and calculated act or an inadvertent occurrence. There is a common propensity to rationalize or defend the other person by presuming the latter. However, a more incisive analysis reveals that, irrespective of the intention behind the manipulation, the consequences and implications are equally deleterious.In the case of deliberate manipulation, it signals certain underlying character deficiencies. Primarily, it denotes a lack of self-assurance and a frail internal sense of self-worth. Such an individual operates under the fallacy that the retention of those in their proximity can only be achieved through manipulative stratagems, thereby neglecting the fundamental tenet of reciprocity in human interactions - that giving is essential for receiving. It is not inconceivable that their purported affection for the other person is, in fact, a guise for their enjoyment of the power dynamic that manipulation affords them. Individuals of this ilk are statistically more likely to engage in infidelity in the subsequent course of the relationship.Conversely, if the manipulation is unintentional, it is symptomatic of a profound deficit in empathetic capacity. These individuals are incapable of discerning the ramifications of their actions on others. Their utterances are often spontaneous and unfiltered, bereft of any consideration for the potential harm they may inflict on those in their social sphere. Regrettably, the paucity of empathy in such cases is a trait that is notoriously resistant to modification in later stages of life.

In an intimate relationship, there are some deliberate manipulation tactics. For example:

1. Verbally claiming to attach importance to you but refusing to communicate with you in depth. This is to cause cognitive dissonance in you. Unconsciously, you will increase your emotional investment in this relationship. Eventually, these emotions will transform into affection, leading you to fall in love with someone who originally did not meet your requirements.
2. Maintaining overly close contact with other people of the opposite sex and insisting that they are just ordinary friends, and deliberately praising other women in front of you. This is to make you unconsciously enter into competition with others and feel that you can never securely possess this person no matter what.
3. Since you completely lack a sense of security, you are forced to verify your partner's love from some very trivial matters. For example, you start to demand an instant reply to messages and other things that you didn't originally care about. Therefore, if we find ourselves in a relationship asking our partner to do these trivial things, please pause for a moment and think about why. Why do we need him to reply to messages instantly? Are we trying to confirm our own value? If you don't realize this, these small demands of ours will eventually become the handle by which the other person blames you, accusing you of being a control freak who demands him to do many small things that he cannot do.
4. Because these manipulation means are very concealed and only target you, when you quarrel with the other person over these small things, the other person immediately accuses you of being selfish and petty. You have been in a state of extreme lack of security and self-doubt for a long time, resulting in an extremely unstable mental state.

The strange development of e-commerce in China.

为什么人们在面对有着明显缺点的伴侣时，理智上已经清晰认知这段关系无法长久，甚至认同分手是正确选择，但内心深处却依然饱受痛苦煎熬？这些痛苦的来源是什么？为什么彷佛我们的大脑根本不受控制，一遍一遍地回忆对方？

真相是：大脑在失恋时可能存在的 “欺骗” 现象，即利用对对方的情感回忆作为逃避现实挑战（如学习、晋升等重要且困难事务）的手段，看似沉浸在对某人的爱中，实则是回避更具难度的成长任务所带来的压力与不安，类似的大脑动态有：忍受贫穷的苦对大部分人来说很容易，甚至人们会通过一些理论来美化自己吃的苦，这种任务对于大脑来说非常熟悉，甚至是小菜一碟。但是，如果要求这个人通过学习或者迎接挑战来改变现状，会得到他们的排斥，因为大脑存在这种这种趋易避难的本能倾向。

I. The Origin of Women's Territorial Consciousness
In the matriarchal society, women held a dominant position and the family centered around the mother. This ancient family power structure pattern enabled women to develop a natural territorial consciousness. Home became an extension of their spiritual world, and only when the home furnishings, tools and so on were all chosen by themselves would they gain a sense of satisfaction with the home.

II. The Root Causes of the Contradictions between Mothers-in-law and Daughters-in-law
Both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law consider themselves to be the hostesses of the family. It is easy for the two sides to have contradictions regarding living habits, values, communication methods, resource allocation and economic issues. The contradictions mainly stem from their feeling that their own boundaries have been violated. They have a natural hostility towards each other and find it very difficult to put themselves in the other's shoes, because putting oneself in the other's shoes means giving up power.

III. The Influence of Giving up Power

1. Sacrifice and Trade-off: Giving up power means having to make sacrifices, and when making sacrifices, one has to consider whether it is worthwhile and what rewards can be obtained.
2. Psychological Imbalance and Consequences: Psychologically giving up power is likely to lead to psychological imbalance, which is not conducive to the long-term stability of the family. It will give rise to feelings of grievance, make one's own value unrecognized, and then trigger a trust crisis, plunging the relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law into a vicious cycle. Moreover, this state of losing power often lasts for a long time, leaving many women in a cycle where they are unable to seize power, yet reluctant to lose power, and can only keep complaining.