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What if being great with money doesn’t guarantee you’re doing great with your spouse?

If you’re the “money person” in your marriage, you may think you’re doing everything right. But what if your spouse feels shut out of the process? It happens more than you think. Shaunti Feldhahn joins us today to talk about how you can avoid that disconnect or fix it if need be.

Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard graduate, former Wall Street analyst, social researcher, best-selling author, and a prominent public speaker. She is the co-author of Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself, written with her husband, Jeff, and has co-authored several books with him, revealing impactful truths about relationships at home and in the workplace.

Money-minded individuals often unknowingly send the message that their spouse’s financial opinions don’t matter. Even with good intentions and solid planning, failing to honor what your spouse values can damage not just your finances but your marriage.

Spouses who handle the finances might assume they’re right and the other is wrong. That unspoken belief, even if subtle, can lead one partner to feel dismissed—and that’s a dangerous place to be.

About two-thirds of spouses believe they know better than their partner how to manage finances. This is similar to how most people think they’re above-average drivers—statistically improbable, but psychologically common.

While it’s okay to have differing financial opinions, it becomes a problem when one partner consistently feels unheard or undervalued. Many “money people” may not even realize they’re doing this, but over time, it fosters resentment and undermines trust.

More than 80% of couples have differing financial values, which are often rooted in their childhood experiences, temperaments, or faith priorities.

For instance, one spouse may believe saving for college is urgent and non-negotiable. The other may feel that making memories with their children while they are young, such as taking a trip to Disney, is equally important. Neither is wrong. They're just different.

The danger lies in assuming that one value system is superior. If one spouse feels their values are constantly being overlooked, resentment can quietly grow until it spills over into other areas of the relationship.

The real danger isn’t only in the budget—it’s in the relationship.

If one person starts to feel like their opinions don’t matter, it doesn’t just affect money decisions. It becomes a marriage issue.

And this dynamic can even show up in financial advisor meetings, where professionals may unintentionally direct conversations toward the more financially-minded spouse. This reinforces the problem and risks charting a course toward relational misalignment.

In her article for Faithful Steward, Shaunti offers three practical steps to bring both voices to the table:

1. Ask Each Other a Simple Question
   
   At a neutral time—say, over morning coffee—ask:
   
   “O

In this episode, Dr. John explores the delicate balance of love and truth in Christian relationships, using the example of the “elect lady” in John’s letter. He highlights how affection and appropriate boundaries reflect Christ’s purity and how believers are called to live out grace, mercy, and peace rooted in God’s truth.

Walking in Truth and Love: It has been said that there are two kinds of people in the Christian community. There are the love people, who believe that living in love, unity, and harmony with others is of utmost importance. Then there’s the truth group of people. These Christians care deeply about the salvation of the lost and remind us that unless truth is declared, no one can be saved. Unfortunately, the love group can find it difficult to draw lines in the sand when it comes to false teachings and sin, and the truth camp often becomes harsh, judgemental, and lack in grace. Which group do you fall in to? Before you panic, there is good news! We don’t have to choose between love or truth. It is not a trade-off. Join Dr. John Neufeld in this 5-message series where he will walk through how to live a life of both Christian love and truth!

Redemption E2 — Redemption involves a transfer of possession, and in the grand story of the Bible, humanity is under the possession of sin and death. But God’s plan is to snatch us back from death and bring us to life—to redeem us. But how does this redemption actually work? In this episode, Jon and Tim look at the Torah rituals of Jubilee and Passover, discovering the life-saving redemption that God is up to in both of these rituals.

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