How much time do you spend inside someone else's head? This came up more than once in coaching conversations yesterday but I think we all do it sometimes. We make up stories about what other people are thinking and try to interpret the looks on their faces. Sometimes we even do it when we received a message from someone. I did it this morning in a conversation about a chair (listen to the live to here more). It was amusing when I thought about what I had done afterwards. But it isn't always amusing is it? It can sometimes feel awful and it can even make us behave in a particular way towards that person. Maybe we even end up in a place of defensiveness or avoidance. 

What is helpful here is to understand a couple of truths. Firstly that the off feeling you have whilst making up those stories is coming from your thinking not the other person's behaviour. Secondly, you are not able to read people and any story you have about the contents of their heads is coming from you not them. When those truths are really seen, all our interactions (even with those tricky people) can transform and generally we can feel a whole lot better. If you would like to see through your stories about other people, please drop me a message.

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