Inside the Law

NJ divorce and family law attorney Sharon Johnson spells out the basic process of divorce, including how unsatisfying and expensive a "day in court" can be.

In 90 seconds, learn what NJ divorce and family law attorney learned about marriage during her 20 year career.

1 Minute Clip on Divorce Attorney's Child Custody Ethics

Sharon Johnson on some clients ignoring her advice and spending $11,000 to fight over $10,000

Counseling during divorce can save money, provide better clarity on what you really want, and help achieve better outcomes. Divorce and Family Law Attorney Sharon Johnson explains why in this 2 minute clip. Listen to her entire interview in episode number 1.

3 minutes: Listen to how concerned Virginia Tech's teaching staff was about the shooter BEFORE anything ever happened.

It's crucial to trust your gut instincts. If you sense something might be "off" with someone, DON'T just ignore it. Reach out to a guidance counselor, human resources, family member, law enforcement, or other person to get a professional set of eyes on the situation.

Episode 003 of Inside the Law features the second part of our interview with former United States Secret Service agent, Jason Wells.

The first part is episode 002, which is immediately prior to this one.

Jason Wells is the author of Our Path to Safety: A U.S. Secret Service Agent's Guide to Creating Safe Communities. The book outlines how citizens, school and businesses can identify and assess threat-related behaviors

The book was inspired by the firsthand experience of a close friend in the Washington Navy Yard shooting, in September, 2013. The attacker, a 34-year-old gunman named Aaron Alexis, entered the facility in the morning and began randomly shooting, with the intent to kill as many innocent people as possible.

Jason Wells is also the President and Founder of The National Advancements for Proactive Safety (NAPS) , an educational non-profit organization committed to providing a safe community through intervention processes.

Jason wrote the foreword for Protecting the President , written by former U.S. Secret Service agent and two-time New York Times bestselling author, Dan Bongino.

Fascinating stories and insights on divorce and family law from Sharon Johnson, a practicing family law attorney 20+ years as a co-founding partner of Johnson and Johnson, a law firm in Florham Park, NJ.

In this episiode :

How Sharon, as a young law associate, reacted to a matrimonial case file with X-rated greeting cards in it that a wife had found in her husband's desk at work, along with women's underwear

The meaning behind unpaid funeral bills

Her strategy starting out to take-on the stuff that everybody else was afraid to touch

The importance of having a realistic conversation with clients and prospects about whether or not the law is aligned with where they are emotionally

The patterns in family law mediation that that repeat themselves over and over

Why it's important to let people know you understand what they're saying and to acknowledge how they feel

The spouse initiating a divorce may have already been grieving the loss of their marriage for years, while the non-initiaing spouse might be hit broadside

Fear and anxiety is probably overwhelming and sometimes paralyzing. "I think a mental health expert would help you work through that but they also can help you define your goals which makes you better at communicating."

Can you make your spouse leave the residence?

What is a "no-fault" divorce?

Don't waste money to win emotional battles! Learn what is and isn't worth spending money on in a divorce

How to react if there's domestic violence in your home, while still protecting your interests

And MUCH more...

Jason is the author of Our Path to Safety: A U.S. Secret Service Agent's Guide to Creating Safe Communities. The book outlines how citizens, school and businesses can identify and assess threat-related behaviors:

> What if there was a way to identify a threat to a school, a business or a community before it happened? What attackers who target innocent people have in common is not their psychological conditions nor their social upbringing, but rather their behavioral actions prior to their violence. These behaviors have been studied at length for years, and are now available to the public.

The book was inspired by the firsthand experience of a close friend in the Washington Navy Yard shooting, in September, 2013. The attacker, a 34-year-old gunman named Aaron Alexis, entered the facility in the morning and began randomly shooting, with the intent to kill as many innocent people as possible.

Jason Wells is also the President and Founder of the National Advancements for Proactive Safety (NAPS), an educational non-profit organization committed to providing a safe community through intervention processes.

> 09:33 “The vast, vast majority of people who have any kind of a mental health condition are not violent people”

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> 10:23 There is a mental health stigma

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> 12:35 If you’re feeling that way (red flag) about another person, chances are other people are too.

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> 13:00 People should feel empowered to DO something when something seems off. Don’t just ignore your instincts.

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> 14:00 Emergency contacts - If you notice a problem, get those family and friend contacts involved

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> 15:02 Point of Jason’s book is to teach people to observe, assess and act on potentially life-threatening situations before they result in tragic outcomes.

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> 18:42 “To not say anything or not do anything is the worst thing we can do.”

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> 19:33 Right now. we’re not teaching what to be watching for, or how to respond. We’re teaching reactive measures (lockdown drills, etc).

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> 20:00 We’re not looking for the dangers. We’re waiting for them to come to us in our schools, workplaces, etc.

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> 20:13 People are under the assumption that we cannot identify the threats before they arrive, but that’s just not the case.

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> 25:25 Key risk is a sudden major negative change in their life (job loss, divorce)

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> 26:45 (people say to themselves) “I’m overreacting. He’ll be fine.”

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> 27:56 Cliff notes for psych conditions

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> 28:21 How to teach kids to be safe around guns

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> 28:49 Jason was also a firearms instructor

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> 34:07 on active shootings being meticulously planned and rehearsed

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> 35:09 Secret Service = proactive safety, to an extreme degree

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> 37:39 Every single threat is investigated, even those on social media

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> 38:18 What the law actually says about threatening the President+ (it’s a federal crime - not protected by First Amendment rights) 18 USC 871

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> 39:16 Direct and veiled (implied) threats

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> 45:18 The underlying conditions of the assailants in Sandy Hook, Columbine, John Lennon, etc. are very similar, even though the targets are wildly different.

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> 46:27 “(All assailants) had similar behavioral conditions. They just went after different targets.”

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> 47:19 “Males tend to, typically, act out against another target. Females will act internally. They’ll internalize it and attack themselves.”

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> 48:20 Amanda Todd, victim of cyberbullying and blackmail.

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> 50:38 When Amanda’s video- a cry for help - went viral, and there was no change…

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> 51:47 - How and why Jason is so deeply affected by Amanda and others (52:00 fatherhood + Sandy Hook)

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> 52:35 On a teacher who died cradling and sheltering a child at Sandy Hook

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> 53:16 “I don’t know if I would’ve felt the same way (about Sandy Hook) before I was a father, but I just don’t want to see it happen again … I want to really, like, do something about it. And I hope other people do too. And I don’t think it would take a lot if we had more people to get involved. And get involved with more proactive intervention.”

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