A candid talk about boundaries, guilt, and the slow work of healing after traumatic brain injury. Diving into feelings of panic, the relief of eventual visits, and the surprising tension that emerged when Allan reclaimed independence — even if that meant cutting James, his long term friend, off for a year. James shares how he coped without direct access, relying on social updates and mutual friends, whilst Allan explains being overwhelmed during intensive support and recovery. The episode is a practical, emotional guide for friends and family: be patient, stay available, respect space, and remember reconnection can take time but is often possible.