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Interview with Cole Forester: Hope for Porn Addiction Part 1
Deanna
Deanna
So my question to you is what made you decide to be so open about this topic of porn addiction and kind of make it your passion and purpose?
Cole
Yeah, that's a great question. And I think personally, I think a lot of guys and girls can... it's interesting that there's a high percentage of women that do suffer from porn addiction. I will speak from experience on the male's perspective, but I felt like I was the only one that had this issue. All guys have this issue. So it's like this weird feeling of like, I'm alone, yet I justify it by the overall consumption. So just we're buying the lies this world shows about pornography. And what I noticed was really personally what it did to my perception of others. It just really changed my way of thinking. And then when I started doing research, not just on the science of science and facts are important, but also the testimonies and what other guys were experiencing, I knew that, wow, this is a common issue- a common thread that a lot of men have. And yeah, I just kind of pursued the self-journey. You know, I was really wanting to get rid of it, you know, really wanting to find the information that would change my heart, about what it. I knew it was wrong. And it just was a blessing to see how bad it really was. This is a weird way to put it, but I had to really be sick of it to want to get better. And so yeah, I guess that's what led me personally and then what led my wife and I wanting to do this was definitely just how pornography was impacting culture, not even in the mainstream, hardcore pornography world, but even just how it affected the social media, how it affected the shows, and the movies we watch. And, what it's doing to society.
Deanna
So Cole what is your definition of porn addiction and how prevalent is it?
Cole
Yeah, that's a great question. The word addiction itself would be being physically and mentally dependent on a particular substance and unable to stop taking it without occurring adverse effects, and we can hear that definition a lot to drug addiction. And so when we look at it, even the studies in science have shown the way our brain reacts when consuming pornography. It reacts very similarly to the consumption of a drug like cocaine or the areas are of our brain that light up. And there's been a lot of misinformation. In fact, the DSM five, which a lot of therapists, and counselors, and experts around the world use as their main source of addictions. And in fact, when the DSM five came out they didn't have porn addiction on there. I mean, they have a sex addiction, and all these other things, but they didn't want to specifically bring out pornography. In fact, they had an internet gaming addiction. But they don't want to call out pornography.
The complete transcript can be found at http://reviveyourmidlifemarriage.com/50
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By Deanna BryantDeanna
Deanna
So my question to you is what made you decide to be so open about this topic of porn addiction and kind of make it your passion and purpose?
Cole
Yeah, that's a great question. And I think personally, I think a lot of guys and girls can... it's interesting that there's a high percentage of women that do suffer from porn addiction. I will speak from experience on the male's perspective, but I felt like I was the only one that had this issue. All guys have this issue. So it's like this weird feeling of like, I'm alone, yet I justify it by the overall consumption. So just we're buying the lies this world shows about pornography. And what I noticed was really personally what it did to my perception of others. It just really changed my way of thinking. And then when I started doing research, not just on the science of science and facts are important, but also the testimonies and what other guys were experiencing, I knew that, wow, this is a common issue- a common thread that a lot of men have. And yeah, I just kind of pursued the self-journey. You know, I was really wanting to get rid of it, you know, really wanting to find the information that would change my heart, about what it. I knew it was wrong. And it just was a blessing to see how bad it really was. This is a weird way to put it, but I had to really be sick of it to want to get better. And so yeah, I guess that's what led me personally and then what led my wife and I wanting to do this was definitely just how pornography was impacting culture, not even in the mainstream, hardcore pornography world, but even just how it affected the social media, how it affected the shows, and the movies we watch. And, what it's doing to society.
Deanna
So Cole what is your definition of porn addiction and how prevalent is it?
Cole
Yeah, that's a great question. The word addiction itself would be being physically and mentally dependent on a particular substance and unable to stop taking it without occurring adverse effects, and we can hear that definition a lot to drug addiction. And so when we look at it, even the studies in science have shown the way our brain reacts when consuming pornography. It reacts very similarly to the consumption of a drug like cocaine or the areas are of our brain that light up. And there's been a lot of misinformation. In fact, the DSM five, which a lot of therapists, and counselors, and experts around the world use as their main source of addictions. And in fact, when the DSM five came out they didn't have porn addiction on there. I mean, they have a sex addiction, and all these other things, but they didn't want to specifically bring out pornography. In fact, they had an internet gaming addiction. But they don't want to call out pornography.
The complete transcript can be found at http://reviveyourmidlifemarriage.com/50