Deanna Bryant  
There was this statement that I saw you say you've been asked this question. Why do  women who love their husbands, not want to have sex with them? What is your take on why you can love your husband and not want to have sex? Is it tied to all of these other things you're talking about? 

Yes. Really heavily tied to the what I said before about men needing sex to be connected synonymous with the word love, you know, so the guy is going to be thinking. If she loved me, she'd want to have sex with me. Women can have can be totally love of their husband. Like one of my clients just the other day, she said, Oh, I love my husband, we have a great time together. I wouldn't want to ever divorce him. I just wish he didn't have a penis. Oh, my gosh. I totally get it. Like, it's so like, Oh, it's the penis. If we could just like not ever have to go to bed, then we would have a great time. And, and she will she reminded me of that the other day, because she's currently going through my erotic massage mastery course. And it's changing everything. But she said to me the other day, Remember when I said that? Now she no longer feels like, Oh, I'm you know, not adverse to him having a penis anymore? Because now she knows what to do with it. Yeah, women can happily love a guy and not ever want to have sex with them. It happens all the time for women. And and it seems to be the lesser of two evils to be like, Oh, ho hum about the whole sex thing, then having obligatory sex. Obligatory sex is  the greater of the two evils. So. Yeah, women can easily take that route, but  it doesn't serve them in the long run by avoiding sex, because what's actually going to happen is those guys, a lot of the times they will look outside of the marriage, and then you got a whole different problem with the cheating thing. So yeah,  it is not a fix to a relationship to just avoid having sex, you can make it really enjoyable. 

 I know people are like, well, there's no excuse for stepping out of the marriage. No, there's no excuse. But if the relationship is flailing in their sex life, like you say, it  is indicative of what's going on in the relationship. Then, if you're not connected, I think it's a prime opportunity for either a man or a woman to look outside for a way to connect. And it happens all the time.

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