Joel Kim Booster brings together three guests he’s almost scared to put in the same room — writer/actor Yassir Lester, writer-director Chelsea Devantez, and Drag Race All Star Season 2 Winner, Alaska Thunderfuck — to dig into how online identity messes with real-life relationships. The icebreaker is pulled straight from Chelsea’s movie Basic: name the person you hate-scroll most. The group swaps stories on jealousy-fueled Instagram deep-dives, building an entire villain out of an ex’s social media, and the specific chaos of getting deep-liked years after a breakup. Alaska shares the surreal experience of getting DMs after announcing her engagement, ranking her fiancé against her ex (“in the bedroom too”). Plus: where to draw the line between staying authentic online and protecting your partner from strangers with opinions.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Alaska: @theonlyalaska5000 · Mary Todd Lincoln in Oh Mary! · Drag Race All Stars Season 2 Winner (Paramount+) · Race Chaser Podcast

Chelsea Devantez: @chelseadevantez · Basic Short Film · Author of I Shouldn't Be Telling You This (But I'm Going To Anyway) · Glamorous Trash: A Celebrity Memoir

Yassir Lester: @yassir_lester · The Gutter (Hulu) · Black Monday (Netflix) · Substack

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel is joined by Johnny Pemberton (Fallout, Superstore, Mermaid) and Beth Stelling (Girl Daddy) to dig into one of dating's messiest questions: can you actually stay friends with an ex? The trio trade stories on staying in touch with old flames, meeting a partner's exes, why proximity to your ex's new life changes everything, and how a well-timed voice (or a phone call from inside the house) can save a relationship.   

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Johnny Pemberton: @johnny_pemberton · Thaddeus in Fallout (Prime Video) · Mermaid (AppleTV) · Superstore (Hulu) · On Tour

Beth Stelling: @bethstelling · Netflix special If You Didn’t Want Me Then · The Landlord Special · On Tour

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Two of comedy’s most fearless clowns join Joel to talk vulnerability and silliness, on stage, and in the bedroom. Beware: cringey dating stories ahead.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island(Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Guests

Natalie Palamides — Voice of Esther on Netflix’s Haunted Hotel, Edinburgh Comedy Award Best Newcomer winner for Laid, and Total Theatre Award winner for Nate — A One Man Show, now streaming on Netflix.

Courtney Pauroso — star of Vanessa 5000 on Dropout and creator of Gutterplum.

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This week, Joel is joined by comedians Dylan Adler and Liza Treyger, plus reality dating star Harry Jowsey, fresh off his run on Netflix’s Let’s Marry Harry. They dig into what it’s actually like to date multiple people at once—how to do it without hurting anyone, and the strange etiquette of a house full of women all trying to get ready for dates on the same schedule. Harry shares stories from filming, including the small red flags that got contestants cut and what changed being the center of the show for the first time. The group also gets into resetting boundaries, jealousy, and what makes someone stand out when everyone in the room is already good-looking.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island(Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Harry Jowsey: @harryjowsey · Let’s Marry Harry (Netflix) · The Mob(Upcoming on Hulu) · Perfect Match Season 2 (Netflix)

Dylan Adler: @dylanadler_ · On Tour · Shanked (YouTube) · Roomies(Tuesday’s at The Elysian Theater)

Liza Treyger: @glittercheese · On Tour · Survival of the Thickets (Netflix) · That’s Messed Up Podcast

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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This week, Joel and guests—Langston Kerman, Roz Hernandez, and Jenny Zigrino—come in hot with the topic of first loves, and messy but real feelings they come with. They get into hooking up on the road—from offering to fly someone out just to get ghosted, to surprise homemade lube—the cities that want them the most, Big Girl Wednesday, and the many shades of polyamory.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Langston Kerman: @langstonkerman · Netflix special Bad Poetry; The Boys; podcast My Momma Told Me

Roz Hernandez: @rozhernandez · host of Ghosted! (Exactly Right); Living for the Dead (Hulu)

Jenny Zigrino: @jennyzigrino · Fifty Shades of Black; Bad Santa 2

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Comedian Steph Tolev and musician-comedian Jefferson McDonald join Joel just four days after getting engaged — and they're still mid-argument when they sit down. To help sort out what's really going on, Peter Antoniou (AGT Season 16 semifinalist, Pretty Psychic Tour) comes in to read the room, call out old patterns, and dig into what makes this relationship different from all the others. They dive into coffee runs, angry dads, wedding party drama, and a very public proposal.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Peter Antoniou: @peterantoniou · psychic comedian; America’s Got Talent; touring show Pretty Psychic

Steph Tolev: @stephtolev · Netflix special Filth Queen; Tires (Netflix)

Jefferson McDonald: @jeffersonmcdonald4real · actor, comedian & musician

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel Kim Booster opens with a theory about Gen Z’s relationship to porn and doesn’t let up from there. Margaret Cho, Zach Noe Towers, and Gregg Araki join him to talk sexual muses, the etiquette of dating someone with the wrong politics, and a real conversation Joel had at a party about reverse racial dating discrimination. Along the way: Margaret’s Percy Jackson era, Zach’s queer-Asian solidarity bit, and Gregg previewing his new erotic thriller I Want Your Sex, out in theaters this month with Olivia Wilde, Cooper Hoffman, and Charli XCX, and Margaret Cho.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Margaret Cho: @margaret_cho · Choligarchy tour; filming a new stand-up special

Zach Noe Towers: @zachnoetowers · special TWINK DEATH; podcast Good Sod

Gregg Araki: director of I Want Your Sex (in theaters July 31)

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel sits down with an all-bisexual panel — Trayvon Free, Ian Fidance, and Kat Bird — to dig into the stereotypes that follow bisexual people around (too greedy, secretly gay, just experimenting), the specific stigma bisexual men face versus bisexual women, and what it felt like to come out on their own timelines. The conversation covers dating across the gender spectrum, getting fetishized, getting razzed by other comics, and not quite fitting neatly into gay or straight spaces.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Ian Fidance: @ianimal69 · special Wild, Happy & Free; podcast Bein’ Ian with Jordan

Kat Bird: @katbirdcomedy · LA stand-up; podcast @katbirdpod; opener for Bobby Lee & Andrew Santino

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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This week Joel Kim Booster gets his two Las Culturistas sisters on the mic to talk about the pop culture you share with someone new. Joel makes it comfortable for Bowen Yang and Matt Rogers to get honest about the shows, movies, and games that double as relationship litmus tests — Fire Island as a first-date screener, decade-long TV trade, and the eternal Mad Men blind spot.

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

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Joel Kim Booster is joined by comedians Usama Siddiquee (Funny AF with Kevin Hart runner-up, Usama Bin Laughing), Rachel Wolfson (Jackass, Rachel Interrupted), and Felicia Folkes (Funny AF with Kevin Hart top-ten finalist) to unpack how their families shaped — and warped — their approach to sex, love, and dating. They swap the worst relationship advice their parents ever gave them (location-sharing paranoia, "never let your man know where you are," marry-by-23 ultimatums), debate whether waiting to sleep together actually matters, and get into how cultural upbringing colors everything from jealousy to attraction.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+), Fire Island (Hulu), Psychosexual (Netflix)

Usama Siddiquee: @usamastandsup · Kevin Hart’s Funny AF (Netflix); Inventing Anna

Rachel Wolfson: @rachelwolfson · Jackass Forever; Jackass: Best and Last (2026)

Felicia Folkes: @felfatale · stand-up comedian, writer & actor; seen on Comedy Central

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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