Intimacy Coordinator

What's the most masculine thing about two of drag's most decorated queens? This week, Joel Kim Booster is joined by Monét X Change (Drag Race All Stars 4 winner, The Traitors) and BenDeLaCreme (Drag Race All Stars 3, The Jinkx & DeLa Holiday Show) to talk about all things masculinity—from GAY-ming and bar fights, to fatherly lessons involving studs. Plus the perils of hooking up in drag, mismatched sex drives in marriage, and the little known practicality of tennis balls in pools.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Monét X Change: @monetxchange · RuPaul's Drag Race All Star Season 4 Winner (Paramount+) · Monét Talks Podcast · Sibling Rivalry Podcast

BenDeLaCreme: @bendelacreme · The Jinkx & DeLa Holiday Show Tour · Jinkx & DeLa - How the Queens Made Christmas · RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 3 (Paramount+)

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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It’s time for another Background Check! This week, Brooks Wheelan was on Intimacy Coordinator, so we wanted to replay the classic Bad Date story he told to Joel and fellow guests Ali Kolbert and Jared Goldstein. The original description for his story was: “Brooks can overlook the scabies, but can the scabies overlook Brooks?” and that’s still all you need to know. Enjoy revisiting this Bad (question mark?) Date, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Brooks and ace stand-up (slash his girlfriend) Katherine Blanford!

Brooks Wheelan: Watch Along For The Ride on Outside TV, new special Alive In Alaska on YouTube, check out his podcast Entry Level, @brookswheelan, Brookswheelan.com for tour dates

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Joel puts comedy couple Brooks Wheelan and Katherine Blanford on the couch for live couples therapy, starting with the eggs Brooks ate, the all-caps text Katherine sent about it, and why laughing at that text was not the move.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Brooks Wheelan: Along for the Ride (Outside), coming soon · Entry Level with Brooks Wheelan

Katherine Blanford: New special coming soon · Catholic Cowgirl (YouTube) · Coastal Idiots

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Danielle Perez was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so it’s time for another Background Check! Join us as we revisit two hilarious and harrowing tales that Danielle told Joel and fellow guests Bonnie McFarlane and James Tom back in the Bad Dates era! First off, this man is simply too close and his lips have not been deemed ADA accessible, and in the second story her date goes full Shark Week. Catch up with Danielle’s tales from the trenches, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Danielle, Tien Tran, and Solomon Georgio!

Danielle Perez: @divadelux on socials, check her out in Ballard on Amazon

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Joel Kim Booster convenes a panel of (at least) double minorities — Danielle Perez, Solomon Georgio, and Tien Tran — to dig into how intersectional identities shape who we date, who we marry, and who keeps asking us to role-play. The panel trades the backhanded compliments they took as wins, sheepishly admits to dating white people, and unpacks the bedroom requests that went too far, from a breaking-and-entering fantasy to a "spicy Latina" audition. Plus: the fight that ended with Joel totaling his car, and advice for a 60-year-old listener wondering just how age-appropriate she has to be.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Danielle Perez: Overcompensating (Prime Video), Season 2 coming soon

Solomon Georgio: Survival of the Thickest (Netflix) · Shrill (Hulu)

Tien Tran: How I Met Your Father (Hulu) · Mr. Throwback (Peacock)

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel Kim Booster assembles three of the world's most famous liars — Bob the Drag Queen, Meatball, and Rheeqrheeq Chainey — to settle what's fair game to fib about in sex and dating. Then Bob hands over her phone, and the panel puts her Grindr profile on trial: photo by photo, verdict by verdict — is Bob catfishing America? Plus: the smoothest bad-date escapes), the official wiggle room for height and weight, and why Bob only filters for 6'6" and up.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Bob the Drag Queen: Now Clap! Tour on sale now

Meatball: Sloppy Seconds with Big Dipper & Meatball · Fat Slut, every third Friday at Precinct DTLA

Rheeqrheeq Chainey: The Sex Lives of College Girls (HBO Max)

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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We're kicking off a new series of bonus episodes where we revisit classic tales from our guests' past appearances, it's Background Check! Daniel Webb was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so we wanted to replay his Bad Dates segment from 2024, alongside Joel, Zoë Chao, and Olivia DeLaurentis. In this clip, Daniel tells two stories, one about what it looks like when you randomly hook up with a guy who might have just won No Nut November, and another about an encounter ruined by showtunes and a parakeet.

Daniel Webb: @thedanielwebb on socials, tickets at TheDanielWebb.com

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Joel gathers three Austin-scene comics to dig into what dating (and drinking) in that city actually looks like — from bisexual bar culture and older closeted guys in the 2000s, to accidentally hooking up with conservative dates once you can't read the room anymore. Vanessa tells the story of playing hard-to-get, and Martha explains her theory on why "nice guy energy" always throws her radar off. We get into small-town-big-city dating, red flags you miss on purpose, and how a whole city's vibe can shift under you.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Daniel Webb: Currently touring with Margaret Cho on her Legacy Tour · Solo dates thedanielwebb.com

Vanessa Gonzalez:  Special: "Mamona" out on Hulu, Album My Birthday's Tomorrow

Martha Kelly:  Baskets, Common Side Effects, Fallout, and Season 3 of Euphoria · TikTok @MarthaKellyTikTok

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel sits down with the co-hosts of the parenting podcast Good Enough. They discuss what new turn-on has emerged in their partners since becoming parents, and it goes places. The group spirals into a full circumcision debate ("uncut energy," designer dicks, and whether Gen Alpha will be the first mostly-intact generation), then each names the four things they'd actually get out on the street for — billionaires, no war, and screen-time guilt included.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Natasha Leggero: @natashaleggero · Good Enough Podcast (w/ Sabrina Jalees) · The Endless Honeymoon Podcast (w/ Moshe Kasher) · Author of The World Deserves My Children

Sabrina Jalees: @sabrinajalees · Good Enough Podcast (w/ Natasha Leggero) · The Comedy Lineup (Netflix)

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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Joel Kim Booster brings together three guests he’s almost scared to put in the same room — writer/actor Yassir Lester, writer-director Chelsea Devantez, and Drag Race All Star Season 2 Winner, Alaska Thunderfuck — to dig into how online identity messes with real-life relationships. The icebreaker is pulled straight from Chelsea’s movie Basic: name the person you hate-scroll most. The group swaps stories on jealousy-fueled Instagram deep-dives, building an entire villain out of an ex’s social media, and the specific chaos of getting deep-liked years after a breakup. Alaska shares the surreal experience of getting DMs after announcing her engagement, ranking her fiancé against her ex (“in the bedroom too”). Plus: where to draw the line between staying authentic online and protecting your partner from strangers with opinions.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Alaska: @theonlyalaska5000 · Mary Todd Lincoln in Oh Mary! · Drag Race All Stars Season 2 Winner (Paramount+) · Race Chaser Podcast

Chelsea Devantez: @chelseadevantez · Basic Short Film · Author of I Shouldn't Be Telling You This (But I'm Going To Anyway) · Glamorous Trash: A Celebrity Memoir

Yassir Lester: @yassir_lester · The Gutter (Hulu) · Black Monday (Netflix) · Substack

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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