In this episode I chat with Valentin (Awake and Sexy on Instagram,) an Internal Family Systems-trained Intimacy Coach & Guide. 
In this conversation we talk about Valentin’s own struggles with anxiety and intimacy and how they led him to delve into several mindfulness techniques and to leave his corporate job to start Awake and Sexy. We talk about Neo-tantra, MDMA therapy, and briefly touch on Internal Family Systems. Valentin also gives us great advice on how to communicate desires. Lastly, we discuss ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ dynamics.


Connect with Valentin:
Awake and Sexy Instagram
awakeandsexy.com
Book: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
Sex with Emily Yes, No, Maybe List: Find New Ways to Play
Book: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy



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22. Intimacy, Mental Health and Communicating Desires with Valentin (Awake and Sexy)

Non-monogamy is not for everyone, but maybe you are curious about it. Could it be right for you? How do non-monogamous couples deal with jealousy? I was curious myself, and the more I asked, the more I became surprised by this unexplored topic. In Polycurious I have casual and intimate conversations with non-monogamous couples, sex and relationship experts, friends, and even people who tried polyamory and realized it wasn’t for them. This podcast is for the polycurious, whether you have explored non-monogamy or not.

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In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the New York Times Bestseller More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself.


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46. More Than A Mother with Molly Roden Winter

Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh (Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner. 


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45. Poly and Pregnant with Sarah Stroh from Monogamish

In the second part of my conversation with Melissa and Jay, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relationship to their children, and the unexpected outcomes that followed.


Resources mentioned in this episode:
Carol & David's Episode: Unlearning Monogamy
⁠Esther Perel's Questions to Build Adaptability⁠


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44. Opening Up After Two Decades Together with Melissa and Jay (Part 2)

Melissa and Jay decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding community.


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43. Opening Up After Two Decades Together with Melissa & Jay (Part 1)

Abbey and Liam are the voices behind Evolving Love Project, a platform that explores non-monogamy and conscious relationships through Abbey’s writing, their podcast, and conversation evenings and retreats in Australia.
In our conversation they tell us how being non-monogamous has helped them reconnect with their independence and return to their family life feeling refreshed. They also reveal how their sexual relationship changed after having their son and what they did to bring back the spice and reconnect. Lastly, we speak of their experience coming out as non-monogamous parents in Australian television.


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evolvingloveproject.com
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Book: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
Jessica Fern's Books


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22. Intimacy, Mental Health and Communicating Desires with Valentin (Awake and Sexy)

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