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Warning: We cover necessary and important topics about the marriage relationship and sex. We use frank language without being crude or crass. Our approach is biblical and wholesome, but not intended for singles — especially not for children.

Difficult conversations are at the heart of successful marriages, yet many struggle with vulnerability and emotional expression. We explore practical ways to share feelings authentically and address how to reveal past mistakes you've been hiding.

• Sharing your feelings can be a difficult conversation for some. This is a skill which may require intentional practice.
• Vulnerability is the heart of intimate relationships. Revealing the fullness of yourself is the only way to be loved for who you really are.

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  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com
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  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn tackle two crucial questions from our listeners: how to make sharing feelings less intimidating (especially for non-confrontational introverts) and how to finally open up about those "skeletons in your closet" when you've never been fully vulnerable before. We explore practical approaches that transform these conversations from terrifying to transformative. As we share from our own experience, you'll discover that successful relationships simply cannot thrive without the ability to navigate challenging discussions.

1. Sharing your feelings can be a difficult conversation for some. This is a skill which may require intentional practice.
2. Vulnerability is the heart of intimate relationships. Revealing the fullness of yourself is the only way to be loved for who you really are.

Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:

• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29
  We’re a Christian-friendly, marriage-centered sex toy and marital aid store for couples that’s nudity-free. 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com
  Coconu is committed to helping people lead healthier, happier lives by offering 100% safe and organic personal care products. 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Strengthening marriages one date at a time.
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!
• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
  Modest and classy premium lingerie, model-free.
  Get 20% off and support Intimate Covenant with your purchase.
• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
  Ginger & Peach lingerie is a Christian husband and wife owned brand bringing classy, model-free lingerie to the market.
  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn tackle the concept of "organic sex" and whether truly spontaneous intimacy is even possible in a long-term marriage. The myth that good sex should just naturally happen without planning or effort has damaged many marriages and created unrealistic expectations.

• Sex is natural but not naturally perfect - it requires intentional cultivation
• Many couples believe the Hollywood myth that passionate encounters should happen effortlessly 
• The best sex flows from creating space for connection across all dimensions of intimacy
• Physical intimacy is not separate from emotional, spiritual, and intellectual connection
• Seemingly "spontaneous" encounters are actually built on intentional groundwork
• Great sex isn't about spontaneity but about co-creating an environment where intimacy flourishes
• Most of what builds great sex happens outside the bedroom through everyday connection
• When couples focus on building multi-level intimacy, sex becomes a natural byproduct

Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:

• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29
  We’re a Christian-friendly, marriage-centered sex toy and marital aid store for couples that’s nudity-free. 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com
  Coconu is committed to helping people lead healthier, happier lives by offering 100% safe and organic personal care products. 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Strengthening marriages one date at a time.
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!
• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
  Modest and classy premium lingerie, model-free.
  Get 20% off and support Intimate Covenant with your purchase.
• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
  Ginger & Peach lingerie is a Christian husband and wife owned brand bringing classy, model-free lingerie to the market.
  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share an encore episode about reassessing your expectations for your marriage and moving the trajectory of your relationship through personal investment.

1. Mature past the selfish motivations of relationship and begin to see the true fulfillment of covenant love built on self-sacrifice — in your marriage and in your relationship to God.
2. Instead of asking "What do I want FROM my marriage?", change your perspective with a new question: “What do I want FOR my marriage?” Consider what more you can offer toward your covenant?
3. Begin the assessment of your relationship with humility and self-reflection. Then, have a conversation with your spouse to determine what you can do for them and for your marriage.

 
Download our State of the Covenant resource to help you assess your marriage and start the conversations to build better intimacy in 2025.
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Marriage Retreat 2025 registration opens February 14th: intimatecovenant.com/retreat  

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• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29 
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  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
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• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
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• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
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 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
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In this "Christmas Q&A Potpourri" episode, Matt & Jenn are sharing segments from previous live Q&A sessions. We're answering the following questions:

• Should I sacrifice my desire for sexual intimacy if my spouse does not desire sex?
• What are your favorite topics of conversation for rejuvenation and reconnection?
• How do I handle my spouse being defensive when i ask them any question?
• How do I grieve unmet expectations?
• How often should we be having date nights and get-aways?
• Do you have any suggestions for making our bedroom a sacred space?

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Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:

• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29
  We’re a Christian-friendly, marriage-centered sex toy and marital aid store for couples that’s nudity-free. 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com
  Coconu is committed to helping people lead healthier, happier lives by offering 100% safe and organic personal care products. 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Strengthening marriages one date at a time.
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!
• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
  Modest and classy premium lingerie, model-free.
  Get 20% off and support Intimate Covenant with your purchase.
• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
  Ginger & Peach lingerie is a Christian husband and wife owned brand bringing classy, model-free lingerie to the market.
  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

Join us at Patreon: www.patreon.com/intimatecovenant

Consider a one-time gift: www.intimatecovenant.com/donate

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer the following listener questions:

1. What advice do you have for couples that have great sex but struggle talking about sex? We’ve tried conversation starters but the answers are always brief.
2. I’m ashamed how much value I place on my spouses physical appearance. Self-improvement is a good virtue, but how do I ensure my motives are not immoral or shallow
3. I enjoy sleeping naked. My wife hates it. How can I encourage her to try & embrace it regularly. It's a great sensual way to enjoy each other without having sex.
4. I crave physical touch (not just sexually), as a pursuer how do ask for this without coming across as needy?  Rub my back, hold my hand, hug me.  How do I ask?

Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:

• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29
  We’re a Christian-friendly, marriage-centered sex toy and marital aid store for couples that’s nudity-free. 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com
  Coconu is committed to helping people lead healthier, happier lives by offering 100% safe and organic personal care products. 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Strengthening marriages one date at a time.
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!
• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
  Modest and classy premium lingerie, model-free.
  Get 20% off and support Intimate Covenant with your purchase.
• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
  Ginger & Peach lingerie is a Christian husband and wife owned brand bringing classy, model-free lingerie to the market.
  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
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In this episode, Matt & Jenn share another set of clips from the Q&A session at our recent Annual Marriage Retreat. We cover the following questions:

• What ways can I warm my spouse up to more public displays of affection?  
• Discuss navigating, in different seasons, sexual pursuer/responder roles switching. It's not a smooth transition and can be confusing.
• What if you are the sexual AND the emotional persuer??
• I love giving my wife oral pleasure. She never reciprocates yet enjoys receiving. How do I keep from feeling resentful & help her to grow her desire for this?

Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:

• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29
  We’re a Christian-friendly, marriage-centered sex toy and marital aid store for couples that’s nudity-free. 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com
  Coconu is committed to helping people lead healthier, happier lives by offering 100% safe and organic personal care products. 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Strengthening marriages one date at a time.
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!
• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
  Modest and classy premium lingerie, model-free.
  Get 20% off and support Intimate Covenant with your purchase.
• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
  Ginger & Peach lingerie is a Christian husband and wife owned brand bringing classy, model-free lingerie to the market.
  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

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This episode is an excerpt from the live Q&A session at the 2024 Annual Marriage Retreat. We’re sharing our response to the following question: “Can you go into further detail on how the act of sex can glorify God?” We’re also sharing our responses to questions about sex toys, solo masturbation, modeling a healthy sexual relationship for your kids, and when to talk to your kids about pornography.

We also want to thank the sponsors of this year's Retreat:

• Married Dance
• Coconu
• The Dating Divas
• Honoring Intimates
• Ginger & Peach
• Ultimate Intimacy
• Show Her Off
• The Adventure Challenge
• J. Parker

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• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29
  We’re a Christian-friendly, marriage-centered sex toy and marital aid store for couples that’s nudity-free. 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — https://www.coconu.com
  Coconu is committed to helping people lead healthier, happier lives by offering 100% safe and organic personal care products. 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Strengthening marriages one date at a time.
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!
• Honoring Intimates — https://www.honoringintimates.com/?ref=INTIMATECOVENANT
  Modest and classy premium lingerie, model-free.
  Get 20% off and support Intimate Covenant with your purchase.
• Ginger & Peach — https://www.gingerandpeachlingerie.com/
  Ginger & Peach lingerie is a Christian husband and wife owned brand bringing classy, model-free lingerie to the market.
  Get 10% off your order and support Intimate Covenant with code: “INTIMATECOVENANT" 

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Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the complaint, "My spouse never initiates sex." So, whose job is it, anyway? How can I get my spouse to initiate more often?

1. Whether it’s sexual connection or any other aspect of your relationship, if you sense a lack of it in your relationship, it’s up to you to initiate what is missing.
2. If you feel like you are the only one initiating, keep striving. But, recognize — with gratitude — that your spouse may be contributing a whole lot more to your sexual and emotional relationship than what you immediately recognize.
3. Responders, you can learn to initiate in ways that are comfortable for you and this effort will speak volumes of love to your pursuer.

Also, check out our eCourses, available on our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/courses

What Does Sex Mean To My Spouse?
If you’ve been married for more than 5 minutes, you recognize that you and your spouse see sex differently. Our intention with this eCourse is to challenge you to think about your sexual relationship in ways that you might not have ever considered before. We want to facilitate deep introspection and fruitful conversations between you and your spouse to help you build intimacy and oneness.

Make Better Connections
We all suffer occasions when our attempts to connect are ignored or rejected. This course will help you make better connections in your marriage — emotionally and sexually. Learn to pursue and respond to your spouse with passionate, irresistible vulnerability

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Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

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In this episode, Matt & Jenn compare the sexual relationship to a hurricane. Sex, like a hurricane, is a powerful, God-given force. While we can’t direct the path of a hurricane, quiet the gale-force winds, or suppress the rising waters, we do have control over the effects of sex in our own marriages.

• The forces of a hurricane are mostly destructive. But the power of sexual desire can be channeled to constructive, passionate and intimate relationship.
• The damage of hurricane-driven wind and water is unavoidable, but the damage of poorly planned sex is entirely preventable.
• When confronted by unexpected storms in your sex-life, use these challenges to further demonstrate your creativity and self-sacrificial love.

Please support these companies that support Intimate Covenant:

• Married Dance — https://marrieddance.com/?aff=29 
  Shop from this link for special savings and part of your purchase will support Intimate Covenant.  
• Coconu — http://www.coconu.com 
  Your purchase helps support Intimate Covenant AND you get 15% OFF. Coupon Code: intimateconvenant
• Dating Divas — https://thedatingdivas.myshopify.com?sca_ref=6278443.H6eWDeXGfx
  Shop from this link and your part of your purchase will help support Intimate Covenant. Check out their Sexy Subscription Boxes!

 To send your comments, questions and suggestions, go to our website: www.intimatecovenant.com/podcast and click on the button: “Contact the Podcast” for an ANONYMOUS submission form. Or, send an email: [email protected]
 
Thanks for sharing, rating, reviewing and subscribing!

  
  Cherishing,
  Matt & Jenn

PS — If you have been blessed by the message of this podcast, we would deeply appreciate your support by donating to our mission of spreading God’s plan for intimate marriage and holy sexuality.

Join us at Patreon: www.patreon.com/intimatecovenant

Consider a one-time gift: www.intimatecovenant.com/donate

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