This week's quickie is from J Parker about The Golden Trio (hint: it's about helping women have orgasms, or better orgasms!)

Here are a couple additional resources for you:

Its Choicest Fruits | The Forgiven Wife Of Garden, Fragrance, and Fruit | The Forgiven Wife

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Tara Buchanan of the Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast joins us to talk about the impact of childhood trauma—big T and little t—on sex in marriage and how to help your husband heal.

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From the Bible

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me. Psalm 27:10

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3–4

Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. Matthew 9:35

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

Resources

• Behind Our Smiles marriage podcast
• Behind Our Smiles website
• Episode 216: When She Wants Sex More - Sex Chat for Christian Wives w/Tara's first appearance on our show!
• Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse: One Powerful Story - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
• Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives
• Strong Wives - Bonny's coaching site
• The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker
• Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health
• Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube
• Couples Recovery and FANOS Check-in - Bethesda Workshops
• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD
• Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer
• Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L. Herman MD

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From the Bible

We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9 (NLT)

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We tackle listener questions today from a wife who doesn't even want to want sex, a woman wanting to know how to prepare for her wedding night and marriage, and a wife who can't seem to get all the way there with orgasm.

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From the Bible

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

Resources

• Episode 209: Pursuing Sexual Growth
• Intimacy Mentoring - Honeycomb & Spice
• Email Chris about Intimacy Mentoring
• Episode 191: What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It?
• Build True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time by Dan Drake, Joanna Raabsmith, and Matthew Raabsmith
• The Intimacy Pyramid
• Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health
• Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube
• Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives
• Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery
• God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery
• Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships by Dr. Carol Tanksley
• Why Isn't Sex Like What You See in Movies? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Episode 146: The Spectrum of Sexual Desire - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
• Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay – ONLY $5!
• Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker
• Episode 231: Choosing a Lube (Quickie)
• Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers by Bonny Logsdon Burns
• Preparing for the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Wedding Night Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• What I Wish I'd Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Sex for the Clueless Bride - The Marriage Bed
• Sex for the Clueless Groom - The Marriage Bed
• How Menopause Impacts Your Sex Life - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Bezwecken – DHEA Oval Suppositories
• Bezwecken OstaDerm-V Crème (Vaginal Dryness & Menopausal Atrophy Vaginitis Support)
• Help For Vaginal Dryness • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (with more about DHEA)
• Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife

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This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about measuring sexual growth.

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Today, we talk about how social media influences our view of sex, both good and bad, and how to be more intentional with our engagement.

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From the Bible

You say, ‘I have the right to do anything.’ But not everything is helpful. Again you say, ‘I have the right to do anything.’ But not everything builds us up.” 1 Corinthians 10:23 (NLT)

Above all else, guard your heart,     for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23

The words of the reckless pierce like swords,   but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 12:18

"But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” Matthew 12:36–37

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:6

With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. James 3:9–10

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12

Resources

• For Christian Wives Facebook Page
• Strong Wives Facebook Page
• Strong Wives Instagram Page
• Honeycomb & Spice Facebook Page
• Hot, Holy & Humorous Facebook Page
• Hot, Holy & Humorous Instagram Page
• Do You Check Your Phone During Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Get Off Your Screen & Have Sex with Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for husbands, but we wives could learn a thing or two here as well!)
• Higher Desire Wives Community

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Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

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This week's quickie is from J Parker about choosing a lubricant for sexual intimacy. A few lube recommendations:

• Sliquid Organics Natural Water-Based Personal Lubricant | Married Dance
• Swiss Navy Premium Silicone Based Lubricant  | Amazon
• Aloe Cadabra Organic Personal Lubricant | Married Dance (water-based)
• Sliquid Naturals Silver Silicone Based Personal Lubricant | Married Dance
• Sliquid Swirl Flavored Lube (they have a lot of flavors, but this variety pack is a good starting place) | Amazon
• Jo Flavored Lube (taste a little like Jolly Ranchers) | Amazon
• Aloe Cadabra Flavored Lubes | Amazon

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We welcome back former cohost and fan favorite Gaye Christmus to talk about fostering intimacy in your marriage during the summer months—both the challenges and the opportunities.

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From the Bible

It was you who set all the boundaries of the earth; you made both summer and winter. Psalm 74:17

Resources

• The Healthy Life Toolbox - Gaye Christmus's active website
• 10 Ways to Actually Relax and Enjoy Your Summer Vacation | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• 6 Simple Ways to Slow Down this Summer | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• 7 Tips for Having Sex at the Parents' House - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 5 Ways "Hotel Sex" Can Boost Your Marriage | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• 29 Fun and Sexy Things to Do with Your Spouse this Summer | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• SEX and the BEACH • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• Portable Outdoor Blanket with Waterproof/Sandproof Bottom | Amazon
• 10 Ways to Keep Cool While Heating It Up This Summer - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• What Do Children Need This Summer (It May Not Be What You Think!) | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• Worship the Lord. Make Love with Your Spouse. – Intimacy in Marriage (Julie Sibert)
• Men think they're doing their share of housework. They're not. | The Week
• DREAMCARE Bamboo Sheets Set | Amazon
• How to Feel Sexy this Summer - and Why It's Worth the Effort! | Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
• Strong Wives - Bonny Burns's website
• Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor's website
• Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker's website
• Gaye's Lipstick: Cover Girl 325 | Amazon

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We’d love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives

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This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about decorating yourself for sex.

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On this podcast, we’re not focused on just having sex. We want wives to experience great sex. But how do we define that? Today, we’re diving into what makes for great sex in marriage and how to get there.

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From the Bible

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22–23

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3–4

I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. 1 Timothy 2:1–2 (just a comparison of the same word in Greek translated quiet, also translated sometimes as tranquil)

Resources

• Episode 195: Explaining Women’s Sexual Response
• Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (only $5 for a limited time!)
• Be His Porn Star? Here's the Problem... | Intimacy in Marriage (Bonny thought it was J, but it's from the other Julie!)
• He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That's Not Me. • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• Love (and Sex in Marriage) Is Not Self-Seeking - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (only $5 for a limited time!)
• Episode 43: Dealing with Sexual Baggage
• Dealing with Sexual Baggage | The Forgiven Wife
• Episode 177: Addressing Sexual Pain, with Debby Wade
• Episode 186: Speak Up! (Quickie)
• Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 5 Thoughts to Feel Great About Yourself and Improve Your Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• One Step Forward | The Forgiven Wife
• Healthy Marriage, Healthy Sex Life (the One-Another Series) • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• Healthy Marriages Start with Healthy People - Hot, Holy & Humorous

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If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.

Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

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