Today, we tackle the sensitive subject of masturbation. What does the Bible say about it? Why do Christians differ on their opinions? And how can we discern what's right for us?

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From the Bible

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. 1 Timothy 3:1–5 (not about masturbation, but a passage we discussed and worth reading in context for yourself)

“Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12

“Everything is permissible,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible,” but not everything builds up. 1 Corinthians 10:23

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. James 4:17

Resources

• Solo Masturbation? | The Forgiven Wife
• Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Orgasms Make You Squeamish? It's OK To Explore Your Body • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• Episode 76: Listener Questions (includes "Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works?")
• Episode 124: Touching Yourself, Sex Just for Fun & Erectile Problems (Answering Listener Questions) (including touching yourself during sex)
• Two Wives & Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Two Wives. Talking About Masturbation. – Intimacy in Marriage
• More Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• More Masturbation Talk. From a Couple of Wives. – Intimacy in Marriage
• Episode 151: Q&A - Sex Tips, Fantasy, Refusing Sex & Elusive Orgasm (fantasizing during sex)
• How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker (releases March 18, preorder now!)
• Episode 185: Women’s Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka
• Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy by Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka
• Joy Skarka – Creating Spaces to Set Christian Women Free from Porn and Sexual Shame
• Porn Addiction Help for Women | XXXchurch.com
• Help for Women Who Have a Sex Addiction - SAA
• SheRecovery.com | Pornography & Sexual Addiction Support for Women
• The Female Addict & Unraveled – Pure Desire Ministries
• Workshop Healing For Women - Bethesda Workshops
• L.I.F.E. Guide for Women: A Workbook for Women Seeking Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree
• No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree
• Love Sick: One Woman's Journey through Sexual Addiction by Sue William Silverman

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This week's quickie is from J Parker about celebrating Valentine's Day. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We've been talking about sexual experience for many years now, and we figured it was time to discuss why sex even matters in marriage? What's the point?

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From the Bible

God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Genesis 1:28

Adam made love to [yada] his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, “With the help of the Lord I have brought forth a man.” Genesis 4:1

May your fountain be blessed,     and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—     may her breasts satisfy you always,     may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19

[He] I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride;     I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey;     I have drunk my wine and my milk. [Friends] Eat, friends, and drink;     drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:7-9

Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25

For your Maker is your husband— the Lord Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 54:5

As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you. Isaiah 62:5

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Ephesians 5:31-32

Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready. Revelation 19:7

Resources

• Episode 171: What’s So Great About Sex?
• What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Touchstone: Sex Is Fun, Part 1 | The Forgiven Wife
• Boom-Boom Playtime: Sex Is Fun, Part 2 | The Forgiven Wife
• Supernatural Sex: Spiritual Dimension of Libido for Low-Drive Wives | OysterBed7
• Episode 147: God, Sex, and Your Marriage, with Dr. Juli Slattery
• Episode 114: Pursuing Playfulness in Sexual Intimacy
• Sex Is Like Rose-Colored Glasses | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Episode 50: Happily, with Kevin A. Thompson
• Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson
• 8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex | The Forgiven Wife
• Episode 125: Is Sex a Need?
• "Sexual Morality," Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
• Hope for Wives Podcast (with Bonny Burns)
• Our Webinars (6 available, each $10 or less!)

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

As we embark on a new year, we talk about the goal of sexual growth, how to pursue it, and what you can expect along the way.

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From the Bible

In the same way, you wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won over without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your pure and respectful behavior. 1 Peter 3:1–2

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

Resources

• Intimacy in Marriage – Julie Sibert's website
• Knowing Her Sexually podcast
• Submission Doesn’t Mean Putting Up with Sexual Misbehavior
• Episode 163: What About Sex Toys?
• How to Turn Your Marriage Around | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• How Growth Looks | The Forgiven Wife
• Strong Wives – coaching with Bonny
• What If Your Husband Responds Negatively to Your Sexual Changes? | The Forgiven Wife
• Sexual Disintegrity – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #1 | The Forgiven Wife
• Sexual Stewardship – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #2 | The Forgiven Wife
• Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3 | The Forgiven Wife
• Intimacy Mentoring with Chris Taylor
• How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• How to Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Behind Our Smiles Podcast
• Tara Buchanan's story is in J's upcoming book, The Higher Desire Wife (you can preorder now)
• Tip Me Over | The Generous Wife (Lori Byerly)
• Unexpected Benefits: 10 Years of Growth | The Forgiven Wife

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This week's quickie is from J Parker about the many ways you can give your husband oral sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

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What is "celebration sex"? You might think of it as sex on a special occasion like a birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day, or some other holiday. But we believe it can and should be a true celebration of marital intimacy, so today we tackle the what, why, and how of planning for celebration sex. 

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From the Bible

I belong to my beloved,     and his desire is for me. Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,     let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards     to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened,     and if the pomegranates are in bloom—     there I will give you my love. Song of Songs 7:10–12

Resources

• Doc Johnson GoodHead Spray
• Song of Songs Coupons for Him - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Song of Songs Coupons for Her - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• With 1 Simple Thing to Turn on Sexual Arousal and Intensify Orgasm • Bonny's Oysterbed7 (kegels!)
• 5 Ways "Hotel Sex" Can Improve Your Marriage
• Episode 60: Vacation Sex
• Episode 182: Pray About Your Sex Life (Quickie)
• Episode 117: Prayer and Sex

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Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

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This week's quickie is from J Parker about focusing on intimacy during the holidays. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

If you're looking for Christmas ideas for you and your sweetie, check out our 2025 Christmas gift episode!

It's our annual holiday gift guide for wives! We've got great gift ideas to enhance intimacy in every room of your house: kitchen, living room, bathroom, and bedroom. 

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From the Bible

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17

Resources

• To Romance, With Love: A Cookbook for Lovers and Those Who Want to Be
• Date Night Cookbook and Activities for Couples: Recipes and Games for a Romantic Night In
• The Date Night Cookbook
• Cooking Aprons for Couple
• Mr./Mrs. Aprons, Dish Towels, Oven Mitts, and Pot Holders Set
• Set of 3 Gold Candle Holders
• Chirstmas Green Taper Candles
• Dinnerware Dishes Set - Green, Service for 4
• Wine Glass Set of 2, Modern Stemless Golden Edge
• Sony Wireless Portable Bluetooth Speaker
• Throw Blanket
• Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw
• Twister (classic midcentury game!)
• Retro Jacks Game (perfect for two)
• To Catch a Thief Movie (smart midcentury romance)
• Crayola Take Note Dry Erase Markers or Chalkola Dry Erase Marker Chalk Pens (vintage colors)
• Post-it Heart Shape Notes OR Cute Animal Appreciation Sticky Notes
• Aqua Love Notes Shower Note Pad
• "Disco" Shower Head
• Gorilla Grip Extra Thick Kneeling Pad
• Face & Body Crayons
• Mr. Bubble Bubble Bath
• Share the Soap Assorted Half-dozen Goat Milk Bath Soaks or Bath Soak Powders
• Sex Furniture - Married Dance
• Liberator Sex Bean Bag
• Sex Loungers
• Liberator Wedge Pillow
• Song of Solomon 3:4 Wall Decal
• Sex Position Cards
• Lingerie from Honoring Intimates or Mentionables
• 60-Day Risk-Free Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator Pilot Program - Married Dance
• 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program - Married Dance
• 60-Day Risk-Free Vibrating Ring Pilot Program - Married Dance
• Brut Splash-On Original Fragrance for Men
• Prince Matchabelli Wind Song Fragrance for Women
• La Jolie Muse Sandalwood Rose Natural Soy Candle
• Vintage Peignoir Set (one size)
• Peignoir Set (plus-size)
• Feathered Slipper Heels
• Feathered Slippers Without Heels

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This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with four ways to be fully present during sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

When it comes to making time for sexual intimacy during the holiday rush, it can be wonderfully stressful or wonderfully playful or anything in between. We discuss how to navigate the busy-ness and stress of the holidays so that you can create a time of playfulness with your spouse and give you some ideas to build playfulness in your relationship and sex life.

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From the Bible

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6–7

Resources

• Season of Joy or Season of Stress? | The Forgiven Wife
• Pare Christmas Down to Four Priorities • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• Weathering the Holiday Storm | The Forgiven Wife
• The Pop-Up Christmas Tree J. Parker Owns
• Video of Pop-Up Christmas Tree Set-Up
• Purchase Your Own Easy-Peasy, Pop-Up Tree
• Pine-Scented Candle (Amazon)
• 7 Tips for Having Sex at the Parents' House - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Make Your Home Sex-Friendly for Holiday Guests - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 10 Intimate Things to Enjoy for Christmas - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Elaine Dancing (Seinfeld)
• Mentionables Lingerie (use code 4CHRISTIANWIVES for 10% off!)
• Honoring Intimates Lingerie
• Bow-Dazzle! and 10 Other Ways to Keep Your Sex Life Alive During the Holidays | The Forgiven Wife
• String Lights (Amazon)
• Hallmark Christmas Bows (Amazon)

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