We address the messiness of sex—what contributes to it, what's normal (and what's not), and how to deal with the mess.

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From the Bible

Husband I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk.

Narrator Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! Song of Songs 5:1 (HCSB)

Resources

• Why Are You Leaking After Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Spiritual Fulfillment by Clifford & Joyce Penner
• Episode 101: Enjoying Sex, with Joyce Penner
• Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Sexual Intimacy & Your Period: Tips for Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Episode 202: What Women Ask Us (In Person) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (we address anal sex in this episode)
• Episode 184: The Power of a Shower (Quickie)
• Love Mop Premium Cotton After Care Towel | Amazon
• Liberator Fascinator Throw | Married Dance
• Dental Dam Cunnilingus Barrier | Married Dance
• goodwipes pH Balanced for Feminine Hygiene | Amazon
• healthy hoohoo Feminine Wipes, Individually Wrapped | Amazon
• Sliquid Splash Gentle Feminine Wash | Married Dance

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J. Parker on how to make wearing lingerie work for you (whether or not your husband cares). Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We answer listener questions about the struggle of having sexual intimacy after miscarriage, grieving the long lack of intimacy, whether a wife should self-pleasure after her husband's betrayal shut down sex, and how to maintain sexual intimacy with adult kids living at home.

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Join podcast co-host J. Parker and Brad & Kate Aldrich of Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network for a 7-day cruise starting Valentine's Day 2027! Click HERE to learn more about this opportunity to sail to better intimacy.

From the Bible

The Message Paraphrase of 1 Corinthians 7:3–6: Certainly—but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I'm not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.

Resources

• The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker
• Episode 255: When Same-Sex Arousal Enters Marriage, with Vicki Tiede
• Better Help Therapy Network
• Studying the Psalms: Lament — InspiritEncourage
• Episode 116: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (1/2) - HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal
• Episode 117: Lament As A Healing Practice After Betrayal (2/2) - HopeForWives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal
• Episode 212: What About Masturbation? - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
• Hope For Wives Podcast: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal
• The Sarah Society
• Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives
• What Will the Kids Think? | The Forgiven Wife
• Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• The Joy of Earbuds | The Forgiven Wife

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker about quality vs. frequency. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Which sex research conclusions can we trust, especially as believers? In this second of a two-part series, we discuss sex research with licensed psychologist, college professor, and certified Christian sex therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese.

Sponsor/Special Request

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From the Bible

Now the Berean Jews were of more noble character than those in Thessalonica, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true. Acts 17:11

But they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die. Revelation 12:11 (NET)

Resources

• White Stones Podcast with Dr. Jessica McCleese
• Jessica McCleese, Psy.D. | Regent University
• How to Read a Marriage Book - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Psychologists map out the pathways connecting sacred beliefs to better sex | PsyPost (just one study of several on sexual sanctification)

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with three ways to sexually surprise your husband. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

How did we come to research sex, and how reliable are the studies out there? In this first of a two-part series, we discuss sex research with licensed psychologist, college professor, and certified Christian sex therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese.

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From the Bible

The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out. Proverbs 18:15

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7

Resources

• Jessica McCleese, Psy.D. | Regent University
• The Perks and Pitfalls of Sex Research - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• National Survey of Men for For Women Only - Shaunti Feldhahn
• Correlation of Nicolas Cage movies and drowning deaths in US - TylerVigen.com

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns is for mothers of young children who feel all touched out.. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Should you talk to others about your sex life? When? Who? How? We have all hands on deck—Bonny, Chris & J—to tackle that subject.

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From the Bible

The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26

One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24

Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. Proverbs 27:9

Resources

• Episode 87: How to Talk to Friends About Sex
• Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• What Should You Share about Your Sex Life with Friends? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Sexual Clarity for Christian Women • Strong Wives

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! We'd love for you to join our inner circle by supporting us on Patreon. You can contribute to our wonderful ministry while getting some fun perks for yourself! Check it out here: https://patreon.com/ForChristianWives If you want to contribute without using Patreon, you can donate here. If you could, leave a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please also check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about the importance of being connected to your own body and how it can lead to authenticity and pleasure. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!