Are you guilty of the Sin of Self-Protection? For my whole life I was unaware that I was and often am still guilty of this sin in my relationships.  "If the core business of life is to love each other as God loves us, then a priority effort to play it safe interferes with the purpose of loving.  We were designed to love, and when we do, something good develops inside.  We feel clean, rich, whole.  Even better, we become less concerned with how we feel and more concerned with the lives of others.  But when a commitment to self-protection governs what we say, how we say it, and to whom then a nagging discomfort creeps through our soul that demands to be soothed." (Inside Out-Larry Crabb)