We will get into Romantic Dynamics® in little bites at a time, by occasional audios. These will end at the ten-minute mark each time so that you don’t have to devote too much time to get some ideas stirring. But don’t let that bother you. Just take an idea or two out of these audio segments (there are hundreds to come) and let your brain start mulling in the background on the topic of love and what it means to your life.

People have the hardest time finding love today than perhaps at any time in history. It starts with social circles and the ability to form friendships, but for both men and women, the total average number of friendships has been dwindling for decades. One has to be making a living and developing what their unique contribution to the world is going to be, but the opportunity at those is also in decline today. 

Humans are resilient, though, and when the career falters or one hits a dry spot in their love life (that is turning year by year into more of a desert), most people find themselves getting started in a new direction through education:

Until recently, we’ve still been in the dark about love.

There has never been much research in the areas surrounding how people meet, how they match with each other, or precisely what psychological development a person has to go through to find the right person for them to go the distance with in life.

Sure, there are numerous matchmaking websites for people of all backgrounds, but they are just storehouses of nearly anonymous profiles or collections of photoshopped selfies. You can’t really know a person until you spend plenty of time with them in person, but there has never been a step-by-step way to learn your way to the answers. Just trial and error as the years pass by. And there certainly has never been a reliable or practical science to finding the right love for you.

The onset of matchmaking websites was several decades ago, a few years after the birth of the internet, but if you turn to your right or left and ask someone what they think of “dating sites,” you’re not going to be met with much satisfaction.

It seems that neither random chance nor the promise of high tech has either offered us much advancement on the path to finding an enriching, secure, exciting, and promising “true love” at this point.

That’s because we have forgotten the past in all our excitement about new technologies for communication and socializing. The art, literature, drama, and music of the past were often, if not predominantly, about the human need for and preoccupation with love.

Even science and philosophy pondered love and friendship, the varieties of personality, goodness, virtue, and all the features that we want and need in other humans with whom we can spend this brief lifetime.

Romantic Dynamics® is a comprehensive model of human courtship, and this audio program is an introduction. When explored on Romantipedia.com, it becomes an education in psychology that harvests the literature, art, drama, science, and wisdom of the past. It correlates with the exploding volume of research that is going on today about human interactions in romance. 

It begins with the thrill of learning something utterly new.

We plan to build a community of people who are ravenous students of behavior, are more curious than combative, more generous than critical, and more benevolent than resentful over past failures at love. 

More than anything, we are like-minded in noticing that everything that has ever gone wrong or right in love has served us priceless lessons, whether or not we were too distracted, too hurt and in pain, or too quick and impatient to move on to the next relationship before thinking things through.

There’s nothing like seeing something you’ve learned in carefully organized, and formal education play out precisely as you were taught, out in the randomness of the social world around you.

In this sense, a promise is made to us by love.

The Promise 

Love and romance don’t have to be random at all. There are actual “working parts” and principles that don’t just blend together like the colors of an abstract painting.

The instincts of romance, the attachments, and personality, the character maturity, self-esteem, well-being, confidence, anger, anxiety, goals, friendships, dreams, and vocations that are unique to two people all have specific processes and interconnections that do work by of the logic in the psychology of love, which is human courtship.

In its steps (nine of which we lay out for you), there is rationality and strategy that do not rob us of the surprise, excitement, and magic that the experience of romance has always offered us. And we will learn these steps together, unforgettably.

Romantic art has offered us clues all along.

A picture is worth 1000 words, and it has been said. Well, the works of the masters, depicting the ancient Greek gods and goddesses, are worth a million words when it comes to love. 

One of the central stories we will begin with is that of Eris, the goddess of discord, and the drama surrounding the Trojan man, Paris, that unfolds from her actions. This will set in front of us what the first three steps of human courtship are:

Joachim_Wtewael - The Judgment of Paris (1615) - Wikimedia Commons

The story told by the Greek myth in the painting above, The Temptation of Paris, reveals three male and three female instincts in love, the beginning of laying out the first three steps of human courtship for us.

Love isn’t just storytelling, though. If we start with ancient stories, then see how they correlate with the latest research on attachment, personality, the instincts of evolutionary psychology, the symbolism of Jungian Psychology, and avoiding the narcissism taught by the founders of Self Psychology.

In pursuit of the virtues taught by the latest schools of mind science, such as that of Positive Psychology, we will arrive at something enriched not just by the art and storytelling of the past but by practical, strategic skills and training provided by the latest psychological discoveries.

Science satisfies our need for solutions from those clues 

Suppose I run an experiment, and you run the same experiment, and a million others run the same experiment, where we all come to the same conclusion. In that case, a scientific principle has been demonstrated. 

It’s repeatable (in your life and ours), reliable (no surprises, except for pleasant ones), and has causes that can be clearly understood, not to mention some degree of predictability for the future (of your romantic life.)

Romantipedia® is where art, literature, storytelling, and science come together to allow the romantic experience to be your life's most emotionally and intellectually satisfying education.

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