Investigative Selfism

Investigative Selfism

By Justina PoskeviciuteEducationSelf-Improvement
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Investigative Selfism episodes

  • The Potentially Life-Saving Difference Between Guilt and Shame

    What's the difference between "I DID something bad" and "I AM bad?"


    Turns out, it's a huge one.

    "I did something bad" describes a behaviour. That's guilt.

    "I am bad" focuses on the self. That's shame.

    The price of not realising the difference between these two concepts - that we sometimes use interchangeably, right? - can be a life of misery.

    So, I ask:

    What does shame correlate with?

    What's the danger here?
    What are major shame triggers?
    And how we can work on our shame resilience?

    I talk about all this in this episode.


    Listen to it now and share it with the ones who need it.

    You can find an article with various resources that I mention in my episode here: https://wp.me/p1WQjD-DA 

    13 min
  • Momentum: What Does It Really Take to Get There?

    (How to go from seeing a boring Excel course as something exciting?)


    We all know it's not enough to say "Just take that action!" - if anything, an encouragement like this can sound rather annoying.

    ("Thanks, cool, yes, I'll do it now, since you've said it...")

    To feel that momentum, we need much more.

    So what is that exactly?

    To deconstruct this concept is a monumental task ("I need some momentum to do it..." I thought to myself!)

    There's just so much to talk about, and so many different ways to approach it.

    In my episode, I present to you one of the ways to do that.

    You can find all the references and the promised visuals here: https://wp.me/p1WQjD-D9



    17 min
  • On The Price of Inaction

    A warning: this is a painful reflection exercise.

    Another warning:  it can result in meaningful change.

    What I talk about in my episode is the price of inaction.

    It's a simple concept - that comes with that painful reflection exercise - that allows us to better imagine what the hidden cost of not taking a risk is.

    Neurolinguistic programming would say that our decisions can have one of the following drives:

    We are either (a) moving away from pain or (b) moving toward pleasure.

    If we've normalised the pain we are in right now, maybe we have to remind ourselves how painful it will be in the future, if we DON'T take any action?

    This is what I explore in my episode.


    Don't pay the price of NOT listening to my episode! Listen to it now!

    And explore similar resources at www.investigativeselfism.com

    9 min
  • Habits, Identity, Commitment

    If you've ever heard someone brag about a new healthy habit they have formed recently you probably wanted to roll your eyes (at least a bit).


    Yes yes, habits are very important.

    But they truly are, and that's why we need to talk about them.

    Habits can either serve us or reinforce our limiting beliefs.
    They can also help us establish our identity if we're willing to truly commit to pursuing our curiosity.

    In this episode, I reflect on two categories of habits.

    One, habits that we might be keeping since a long time ago, but also something that serves us.
    Two, habits we might be forming later in life: habits that come in a form of commitments and have the power to create a positive shift in our identity.

    So yes, habits are very important indeed!

    You can find the resources I refer to in this episode here: https://wp.me/p1WQjD-BH 


    12 min
  • Are You Responding Or Are You Reacting?

    You know those times when someone's driving you crazy? When your self-image of a kind and empathetic person is being tested?

    Yep, we've all had those.

    The bad news is that there's no shortcut here. To respond mindfully can be pretty damn hard sometimes.


    The good news is that it's something we can work on, and it's absolutely rewarding.

    In this episode, I present several tactics for specifically this kind of work. They're based on nonviolent communication, Buddhist psychology, and neuroscience!

    Don't waste your energy on unnecessary worry, analyses, and anger - listen to this episode now. 


    11 min
  • The Pandemic Sucks. Its Lessons Don't, Though

    "No mud, no lotus" - this might not be the prettiest Buddhist metaphor but man it is true!

    This pandemic has sucked in many ways, and there's no magical metaphor or quote to make it go away.

    What we can do, however, is to realise how much we have learned during it and because of it.

    We should definitely appreciate that new knowledge: precisely because we have gained it through such a painful experience.


    This is where you can find the resources I mention in my episode:


    - UNLOCKED IN A LOCKDOWN (a free seven-day challenge): https://wp.me/P1WQjD-p3

    - My article on loneliness and connection: https://wp.me/p1WQjD-zc 








    9 min
  • How Can We Bring Mindfulness to Work?

    The work we do on ourselves and with ourselves is extremely important. But how can we bring that mindfulness, that empathy, that deep listening, and thoughtfulness to work?

    I'd say, it's not easy. And your effort alone isn't enough. Yet there is a technique I'd like to share with you.

    It's called adopting a leader's mindset - check it out!

    Actually, don't JUST check it out: use it and see what happens!


    You can find the article I mention in my episode (on identity and action) here: https://wp.me/p1WQjD-nu 

    8 min
  • Watch Your Language! (...of action)

    This is the last episode of Watch Your Language!, a three-part series within this podcast.

    First, we have learned about the importance of talking to ourselves with compassion. Then, we acknowledged that we can choose to use empowering language instead of disempowering language. 

    Now, it's time to start using the language of action!

    "I might listen to this episode..." -- "I WILL listen to this episode, and I will have learned something new today!"

    So watch your language, everyone. 


    More articles on similar topics on www.investigativeselfism.com 

    8 min
  • Watch Your Language! (...of choice)

    "I would like to quit my job but I can't." 

    "I just can't wake up early."

    If you've ever found yourself feeling helpless and powerless, this episode is for you.

    Interestingly, there are tiny ways in which we give up that power. It's truly surprising how it happens. Can we notice these disempowering patterns in our language? Can we change them? The answer is YES!

    Why change them? Because it's never too late to reclaim that agency over our lives. How much awaits us on the other side of this action I can't even imagine. But we have to start here, with our language.


    You can find articles on similar topics at www.investigativeselfism.com 

    10 min
  • Watch Your Language! (...of self-compassion)

    Am I gonna live my whole life without having ever truly befriended myself?

    A lack of compassion towards ourselves is no joke. It’s not a pleasant way to live. Constant negative self-regulation, playing small and seeing anything that didn’t go “how it was supposed to go” as a failure serves no purpose. It's not shameful to do it but we definitely don’t need to tolerate it.

    We need to take care of our heads because the negative voices of society are already loud enough. Even if it takes time, even if it’s hard to rewire yourself, even if the fruits of this labour aren’t seen right away - isn’t it worth it?

    However compassionate or mean your self-talk is at the moment, the good news is this is something we can always improve! We can work on it. We can put that conscious effort. What we need to do is to fully accept three simple steps that this hard but rewarding work entails.

    Check out what those steps are here, in this episode. 

    And check out more resources here: www.investigativeselfism.com 


    9 min

About Investigative Selfism

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My name is Justina, welcome to Investigative Selfism. As a political commentator who talks about different forms and systems of external oppression, I'm also interested in my own personal transformation. In this platform, I share with you tools, frameworks, authors, and anything of value I have found to lead a life of authenticity - on a path of collective liberation.