In this episode of Couples Talk, Naomi and Nick delve into the complex topics of triggers and trauma, exploring how these elements impact relationships. They discuss the science behind triggers, the different types of trauma, and the importance of recognizing and managing triggers within a partnership. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, they emphasize the significance of self-awareness, shared responsibility, and emotional regulation in fostering healthy relationships. The conversation culminates in practical strategies for navigating triggers and enhancing emotional safety between partners.

Takeaways

• Triggers are often rooted in past trauma.
• Understanding the science of triggers can help in relationships.
• Big T trauma refers to significant life events, while little t trauma refers to smaller, repeated experiences.
• Recognizing when you are triggered is crucial for emotional regulation.
• The window of tolerance is essential for healthy interactions.
• Shared responsibility in relationships helps manage triggers.
• Emotional safety is vital for effective communication.
• Personal experiences with triggers can illuminate patterns in relationships.
• Self-compassion is important when dealing with triggers.
• Practical steps can help manage and mitigate the impact of triggers.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Triggers and Trauma

00:38 Understanding Triggers: The Invisible Tripwires

08:34 The Science Behind Triggers and Trauma

20:51 Managing Triggers in Relationships

22:13 The Impact of Financial Stress on Relationships

27:50 Understanding Triggers and Their Origins

36:13 Recognizing Physiological Signs of Stress

39:30 Strategies for Managing Triggers

44:57 Integrating Trauma into Relationship Dynamics

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