['Here is a podcast that discusses the topic of certain problems that parents and children have in Muslim families and their potential solutions. Below is a transcript of the podcast.\xa0(Go to the end of this post to listen to the\xa0podcast.)
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\nIn today’s podcast, we will address a question that was posed by one of IqraSense readers and subscribers. Her first name is Fouzia and she is about nineteen years old, living in the US, and complains about getting into constant arguments and shouting matches with her parents and that she feels that her parents don’t understand her and she – as she put it – “she doesn’t know what to do to get through to them.”
\nBefore, we start on this topic, please note that if you have any comments about this podcast talk or if you have your own questions, please send them to [email protected]. Depending on the questions, we will try to get to them. Also, please don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast (called as IqraSense Islamic Podcast) on iTunes and also subscribe via Email on the IqraSense.com blog.
\nGetting back to the issue and the question, unfortunately, this is a typical problem in a lot of Muslim households and may be more so in those who are living in western societies. But as the online world has opened up cultures and societies to each other and as people are watching videos and shows from pretty much all over, I believe the problem is more universal and not just confined to any specific countries or societies.
\nNow a couple of decades ago or may be going back farther in time, we would have said at that time that the problem is not as bad in Muslim households because of the Islamic upbringing that the children would get from their parents and relatives. But the sad part is that because of the opening up of the world, the problem has crept in Muslim households as well.
\nIn any case, getting back to Fouzia’s problem and her question, there are three things that need attention and reminders. Like most such problems in life, there is usually no silver bullet types of answers. One needs to a do a number of things, follow certain best practices and advice, and be patient and results would then show up gradually. So, even in this case, I will cover three points and no matter how basic they may seem to you, it’s important to focus on all three points and then we will take it from there.
\nRespect Your Parents
\nThe very first advice I will give to Fouzia and others who are having similar issues is to start respecting your parents. Now, this may seem out of place for the problem that we are trying to solve but this is an absolutely essential step if you hope to make any inroads with your communications with your parents. In fact, I will go further and say that if you are having issues with anyone and not just your parents or loved ones, you need to start showing respect to the other person. Once the other party feels that respect, they will become more open to what you have to say and your message can then start flowing to the other side – in their minds – where it can get processed. You see, just because we shout loudly doesn’t mean that our message will make it to the other side. In fact, communicating with someone while you are shouting and supposedly disrespecting has the exact opposite effect.
\nSo, getting back to our issue that for anyone having such issues, you need to take a step back and first respect the other person and in this case, respect your parents. And, respecting parents shouldn’t be very hard. Islam, through the teachings of Quran and Prophet Muhammad – pbuh’s – \n\t\tIqraSense.com\n\t\tfull\n\t\tfalse\n\t\t14:20\n16397\t\n\t\n\t\tRamadan 2018 – A Ramadan Message for Muslims\n\t\thttps://www.iqrasense.com/podcast/ramadan-2018-a-ramadan-message-for-muslims.html?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=ramadan-2018-a-ramadan-message-for-muslims\n\t\tThu, 10 May 2018 20:59:35 +0000\n\t\thttps://www.iqrasense.com/?p=16114\n\t\thttps://www.iqrasense.com/podcast/ramadan-2018-a-ramadan-message-for-muslims.html#respond\n\t\thttps://www.iqrasense.com/podcast/ramadan-2018-a-ramadan-message-for-muslims.html/feed\n\t\t0\n\t\t\n']
