Islam With Tom

Today I’m joined by Brother Syed and returning guest Brother Iskander to discuss the role and purpose of men in society.

Take the personality test at:

https://www.16personalities.com

Discover your Love Languages:

https://www.5lovelanguages.com

Books:

-44 Ways to Manhood by Taymullah Abdur-Rahman

-The Price You Pay for College by Ron Lieber

-Make Your Bed by William H. McRaven

-Intellectuals by Paul Johnson (Note: Karl Marx is the sloppy intellectual mentioned in this book as opposed to Stalin)

Podcasts:

The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-jordan-b-peterson-podcast/id1184022695?i=1000532208307

This episode contains much of the information on the impact of divorce and single-parenthood on the lives and futures of the children in the household.

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For today’s episode I am joined once again by Brother M and Brother Iskander, this time to discuss the dangers of pornography.

For the first hour we discuss the harms of pornography, both physically, mentally and spiritually. After that we discuss some practical solutions for fighting arousal and removing the desire to consume pornography.

Useful links:

Books:

William M. Struthers, Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain, (Downers Grove, Illinois: Intervarsity Press, 2009)

Mark B. Kastleman, “The Science of How Pornography Radically Alters the Brain” in the Drug of the New Millennium: The Brain Science Behind Internet Pornography Use, PowerThink Publishing 2007

Pamela Paul, Pornified, Henry Holt and Company, 2005

Websites:

http://purifyyourgaze.com/

Has helped many Muslims around the world.

The Easy Peasy Way to Quit Porn

https://easypeasymethod.org/

Fight the New Drug https://fightthenewdrug.org/

(Very active on Twitter)

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/

May have some rather unconventional and extreme opinions out there

https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimNoFap/

As above, similar warning, but more tailored for Muslims

https://artofsemenretention.com/

It preaches retaining semen to enhance the connection between husband and wife and the sex life, and only releasing it if you want a child

Videos:

Youtube: Casey Zander: Stop Jerking Off: Top 3 INSANE REASONS to NEVER Relapse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_1j-Zx94Ik (The rest of his videos on NoFap are excellent too)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvLsQrDuZP8 PORN will VIOLATE your SOUL ~ Nouman Ali Khan ~ POWERFUL reminder!!!

https://youtu.be/CH1bba0DDwg. The Dark secrets about the adult video industry

Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/coffee-with-karim/id1241193019?i=1000512060685

An episode related to pornography addiction and same sex attraction with advice from both a professional Muslim and a professional Christian therapist dealing with real cases of trauma and addiction.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4DhkRi0MvRouXajjaucmlg?si=bHMZlhkYQju1Ats7sZB0Vw&dl_branch=1

Reflections on why the opposite of addiction is connection. How porn is a drug and what damage it causes the mind, heart and body. Lessons on human struggles and sins. Why pornography addiction happens and how it can lead the sincere to Paradise!

After a regrettably familiar interaction with a brother at the masjid this week, I decided to go home and record an episode on Muslim Names. I discuss what a Muslim Name is or whether there is in fact such a thing as a Muslim (or non-muslim!) Name.

Today I’m joined by Brother Omar to discuss life in Saudi Arabia and his time in Japan.

I ask him about his experiences of Islam in various countries around the world.

A link to the Deen Intensive Program mentioned by Br. Omar:

http://www.deenintensive.com

Books on Tech Addiction:

* Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology by Adam Alter

* The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in It’s Proper Place by Andy Crouch

* Amusing Ourselves to Death by Neil Postman

* Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport

* Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal

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Today I’m joined by Brother Zulkarnain, Japan’s first full-time da’i!

We discuss his journey and methods and touch upon both the positive- and negative- impact of his efforts.

Brother Zulkarnain can be found here on Instagram:

https://instagram.com/zulkarnain_hb_didbmt_jdc?igshid=skcui8ikrdt0

Here is the link to Japan Da’wah Center on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/japan.dawah.centre/

And Facebook:

https://m.facebook.com/JapanDawahCentreMedia/

Today’s episode is on the topic of Islam and Stoicism.

I’m joined by Brother Iskander and Brother M.

To follow Bro.Iskander on YouTube, search Al-Iskander Zhao

or go to https://youtube.com/channel/UCY7-w_YCcnFh1fPwoNwBnUQ

Episode notes:

6:00 Stoicism and Women

9:30 Journey from Stoicism to Islam

19:30 Chinese Stories and Confucius

26:00 Why do we need Stoicism?

35:00 Jordan Peterson and Archetypes

43:30 Sources of Knowledge

Sources referred to in the podcast:

Instagram: dailystoic, vivekagita

Podcasts: The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast, Sacred Text Messages by Hamza Yusuf

Books:

* 48 Laws of Power: Robert Greene

* Book of Five Rings: Miyamoto Musashi

* Meditations: Marcus Aurelius

* Romance of the Three Kingdoms: Luo Guanzhong

* Water Margin: Shi Nai’an

* King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Douglas Gillette and Robert L. Moore

* There is a God : Antony Flew

Applications: Blinkist, Thinkr

A further reading list sent to me by Bro.Iskander:

Asiapac Books:

Chinese History

Water Margin

Journey through the Underworld

Ji Gong The Crazy Monk

Legend of the Laughing Buddha

Legends of the Heavenly Gods

The Eight Immortals series (- Cross The Sea) (- Miracle Workers) (- Uproar in the Celeatial Palace)

The Great Explorer Cheng Ho

Origins of Chinese Martial Arts

Origins of Shaolin Kung Fu

Origins of Chinese Culture

Origins of Chinese Festivals

Parables of Zen

Legendary Tales of Singapore

Journey to the West (many sources, not only Asiapac)

Not so relevant but I read it:

(Asiapac) Origins of Chinese Science and Technology

In this episode I talk with brothers Talib and Mustofa to discuss knowing whether we are on the right path. I give the story of my experiences with Tabligh Jammat in Japan and Pakistan and together we discuss whether we are doing enough to please Allah...

For the second part of this podcast, Brother Talib replaces Brother Zaky to share his experiences of socializing as a Muslim.Search youngmuslimclub on Instagram for details of the events described by br. Mustofa on this podcast.

Today I’m joined by brothers Zaky and Mustofa to discuss how to socialize as a Muslim.

The second part of our discussion focuses on inviting people to Islam in both Muslim and non-Muslim countries.