The issues that tear long-term couples apart are anything but fun and sexy, and so few people want to talk about them when they're excitedly making plans for how they'll announce their engagement on Instagram (let's get that sunset just right!). But it pays to anticipate challenges before you make a commitment-- whether marriage, living together, having a child, or otherwise getting on the "relationship escalator." Today we go through 18 specific and often surprising problems that commonly wreck marriages, and we give you ways to think them through before letting your relationship suffer the same fate. Know a couple who might be getting engaged, or taking the step to move in together? We promise it's not passive-aggressive to send them this episode-- it will make for a stronger marriage, not break one up.

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