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Ever had the gut-punch realization: “Wait… I’m the problem?” This week, Kodie and Kaleigh get real about being the red flag in your own love story—and what happens when self-sabotage, trust issues, and old heartbreaks follow you into something new.

From dating after toxic relationships to learning how to stop holding new partners to old wounds, we unpack why we sometimes destroy something good before it even starts. You’ll hear raw confessions, laugh-out-loud analogies, and the kind of brutally honest friendship advice that feels like a therapy session with wine.

💡 In this episode:

• Signs you might be the red flag (and how to own it)
• Breaking patterns of self-sabotage in dating and relationships
• Why healing is never “done” — and how to love without bracing for heartbreak
• Relearning how to date after being single too long
• How past trauma shapes the way you trust, attach, and commit

If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I the problem?” — hit play. This one’s for the self-aware, the overthinkers, and anyone trying to build a healthy love story after the messy chapters.

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