Unengaged is officially in its solo era. In this first episode of Unengaged 2.0, I’m addressing the changes, the new direction, and what you can expect every Wednesday moving forward: hot takes, red flags, pop culture chaos, sports rants, reality TV recaps, and that unhinged group chat energy you actually want.

We’re keeping it lighter, funnier, and more interactive — including a new listener segment: DM of the Week (send your dating stories, screenshots, and chaos… anonymous is always an option).

In this episode:

• The solo reset: why the show is changing and what’s next
• Why this is not a therapy podcast (and never will be)
• The internet losing its mind over the Taylor Swift texts discourse
• Seahawks rant (because… obviously)
• The Traitors recap: Lisa Rinna, Colton, alliances, and the brooch chaos

🎧 New episodes drop every Wednesday.
📩 Want to be featured in DM of the Week? Send your story/screenshots via IG DM.

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Unengaged is officially in its solo era. In this first episode of Unengaged 2.0, I’m addressing the changes, the new direction, and what you can expect every Wednesday moving forward: hot takes, red flags, pop culture chaos, sports rants, reality TV recaps, and that unhinged group chat energy you actually want.

We’re keeping it lighter, funnier, and more interactive — including a new listener segment: DM of the Week (send your dating stories, screenshots, and chaos… anonymous is always an option).

In this episode:

• The solo reset: why the show is changing and what’s next
• Why this is not a therapy podcast (and never will be)
• The internet losing its mind over the Taylor Swift texts discourse
• Seahawks rant (because… obviously)
• The Traitors recap: Lisa Rinna, Colton, alliances, and the brooch chaos

🎧 New episodes drop every Wednesday.
📩 Want to be featured in DM of the Week? Send your story/screenshots via IG DM.

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Your money story is running your life—whether you realize it or not. In this episode of The Unengaged Podcast, we break down the 4 money scripts (money avoidance, money worship, money status, money vigilance), how childhood beliefs about money quietly shape your adult choices, and why so many people aren’t “bad with money”… they’re operating from a subconscious program.

We get real about our own upbringings—mortgage industry boom/bust anxiety, growing up with lack, becoming hyper-independent, and how relationships can cap your income when fear and scarcity get projected onto your life. Then we give you practical tools: a money script rewrite exercise, the difference between assets vs liabilities, and how to spot your wealth ceiling (the self-sabotage point where you stop yourself from earning more than feels “safe”).

If January has you thinking “new year, new money,” this episode is your sign to rewire the belief system underneath your goals.

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This episode is a love letter to friendship, intention, and being surrounded by people who want to see your light shine.

Kay shares the full story of the birthday surprise she never saw coming—from a party bus packed with her closest people, to a roast she didn’t know was happening, to wineries, tears, laughter, and a mystery trip she still doesn’t know the destination of.

We talk about:

• Why surprises hit differently when you’ve always had to be in control
• The power of friends who protect your light instead of dimming it
• How birthdays change as you get older
• Letting go of settling, bad energy, and people who secretly root against you

If you’ve ever questioned your circle, needed a reminder to choose better, or wondered what it really feels like to be deeply celebrated—this episode is for you.

🎧 Share this episode with the friend who always shows up for you.

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The weird week between Christmas and New Year’s is officially here — and we’re unpacking all of it. From holiday burnout and hosting chaos to ADHD, consistency struggles, money stress, and realistic goal-setting, this episode is an honest reflection on where we are and where we’re headed.

This is our Season 1 finale, and we’re talking about meaningful gifts, practical vs sentimental love, ADHD-friendly goal systems, fitness routines, financial pressure at the end of the year, and how small daily habits actually build confidence and momentum.

✨ In this episode, we talk about:

• The awkward week between Christmas and New Year’s
• Why hosting holidays is exhausting (and who really does the work)
• Meaningful vs practical gifts — and why both matter
• ADHD, motivation, and why New Year’s resolutions don’t work for everyone
• Building consistency through daily habits instead of big goals
• Visual goal systems, calendars, and grading yourself honestly
• Fitness routines, eating habits, and holiday burnout
• End-of-year financial stress and realistic money conversations
• Elevating your business, your body, and your life in the new year
• Closing out Season 1 of The Unengaged Podcast

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Merry Christmas Ya'll! As an early Christmas Present, we are bringing back one of your fave episodes! If you're new here, you definitely don't want to miss Christina for a second time!

This week on The Unengaged Podcast, we sit down with Christina Rodriguez — RN, aesthetic injector, business owner, fiancée, and badass mama — for a raw, inspiring convo on turning burnout into a breakthrough. From grinding in the ER during COVID to launching All Things Aesthetics, Christina opens up about building her dream life on her own terms.

We dive into:
💉 What clients think they need vs. what they actually need
💪 Juggling motherhood, self-care, and running a business
💖 Why inner work matters just as much as outer glow
👧 The sweet letter from her daughter that made us all cry

• a Would You Rather showdown and real talk on partnership, healing, and hustle.

Whether you're a nurse on the edge of burnout, a mom chasing big dreams, or someone who needs a reminder that you can build the life you’ve always wanted—this one is for you.

🔗 Follow Christina: @aesthetics.rn.christina
🎧 Tap in. Refill your cup. And maybe… book that appointment.

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Why do you love the way you do — and why does it sometimes feel so hard?

In this episode of The Unengaged Podcast, Kodie and Kay break down attachment styles and love languages through a psychological lens, blending science, personal stories, therapy insights, and real-life relationship experiences.

We explore:

• The four attachment styles (Secure, Anxious-Preoccupied, Avoidant-Dismissive, and Fearful-Avoidant)
• How attachment styles are formed in childhood and shape adult relationships
• Why you can’t change someone just by loving them
• How anxious attachment shows up as overthinking, reassurance-seeking, and emotional intensity
• The connection between attachment styles and love languages
• Why two people can share the same attachment style but love completely differently
• How physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, and gift giving regulate the nervous system
• How awareness turns attachment wounds into relationship superpowers

If you’ve ever asked yourself:

• “Why do I overthink everything?”
• “Why do I crave closeness but fear abandonment?”
• “Why does my partner love differently than I do?”
• “Am I asking for too much — or just asking in my language?”

This episode is for you.

🎧 Take the tests, listen along, and start understanding your patterns instead of repeating them.

• Official 5 Love Languages® quiz — Love Language Quiz (5lovelanguages.com)

Free 5-minute attachment style quiz — Attachment Style Quiz (AttachmentProject)

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This week, we’re closing out the year with the ultimate crossover episode:
our Spotify Wrapped, Dating Wrapped, Relationship Wrapped, and our very first Unengaged Podcast Wrapped— all in one.

Kodie breaks down her Dating Wrapped like it’s a playlist:
• # of Hinge/Bumble matches
• numbers exchanged “in the wild”
• How Many hook ups?!
• # of talking stages (all failed — 0% success rate)
• A 2.5-month slow-burn talking stage with NO launch
• The “forever situationship” taking Top Artist… and ending up blocked
• Top Genre: emotionally unavailable with potential
• Minutes spent overthinking: more than Spotify can count
• Breakthrough track: “I deserve consistency.”

Then Kay takes us into her Relationship Wrapped — the healthy love arc:
• 7 months together, 3.5 months officially
•  How many dates before the girlfriend ask?
• 5 vacations already
• 3 weddings as a couple
• The first date story
• The Morgan Wallen tribute hard launch
• The Grandview sunset “oh wait… I love you” date
• Top Genre: emotionally available romance

And finally… our Unengaged Podcast Wrapped — and your girlies won AWARDS.
We weren’t expecting Wrapped stats during our first year, but you showed TF up.
Most streamed episode: Welcome to the Shit Show
Most shared: All Things Christina
Most replayed: Becoming Her (Jet2Holiday era)

We laughed, healed, spiraled, soft-launched, blocked exes, deep-dived lyrics, and somehow… built a community that listens, shares, and shows up for us every week.

Thank you for making Unengaged part of your year.
We love you, girlies. 💋
Here’s to 2026 — the year of clarity, consistency, and more chaos we can’t wait to talk about.

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Today on The Unengaged Podcast, Kay & Kodie sit down with a very special guest — Kay’s cousin Mandy King — a divorced mom, cancer survivor, ex–big-tech executive, and woman deep in her self-discovery era.

This episode is everything: raw, funny, emotional, spiritual, relatable, and wildly validating for anyone navigating their 30s, identity shifts, career burnout, dating again, or rebuilding after life falls apart.

Mandy opens up about:
✨ Her spiritual awakening at 36 that blew her life wide open
✨ Leaving a high-paying corporate job that looked perfect on paper
✨ Surviving cancer at a young age
✨ Shadow work, ego deaths, intuition & feminine energy
✨ Dating after divorce (green flags, red flags & the wildest first dates)
✨ Ethical non-monogamy, healing your patterns & exploring identity
✨ How motherhood reframed her purpose
✨ Reclaiming her authentic voice — from corporate silence to rave culture & self-expression

Plus:
🔥 “Green Flag or Red Flag” rapid-fire
🔥 Healing Girl Edition “This or That”
🔥 Kay & Kodie’s own dating chaos
🔥 Why intentional dates matter more than titles
🔥 How to rebuild a life that’s actually aligned

If you’re a woman in your 30s (or anyone who has ever questioned your path), this episode will feel like a hug, a mirror, and a permission slip all at once.

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In this episode, Kodie and Kay get very real about what it feels like to look around in your 30s and realize everyone else’s life has followed the “traditional” timeline… while yours hasn’t.

Sparked by Kelsea Ballerini’s new EP and the songs “I Sit in Parks” and “The Revisionist,” the girls dive into shrinking families vs growing families, biological clocks, and that weird ache of wondering, “Am I behind… or is my path just different?”

We talk about being the friend who has kids and a “broken” family vs being the friend who never had the family at all, spending holidays single, and the quiet loneliness of sitting in a big house by yourself on Christmas night. We also get into alternate timelines (aka the multiverse of “what ifs”), revising your life in real time, and why there’s zero award for staying in a relationship past its expiration date.

If you’ve ever felt “behind,” questioned your choices, or stayed way too long in something that wasn’t working… this one’s for you. 🖤

Hit play if you’re ready to:

• Feel seen if you’re 28–35 and still haven’t hit the “marriage + babies” milestones
• Hear both sides: having kids young and never having a family (yet)
• Validate how brutal holidays can feel when you’re single or co-parenting
• Reflect on the “what if” timelines you replay in your head
• Learn why your gut feeling is right 1000% of the time
• Get the reminder that you don’t get a trophy for staying too long

🔔 New here? The Unengaged Podcast is two best friends, real stories, no producers, no filter. Just honest conversations about love, loss, healing, timelines, and building a life that actually feels good.

✨ Listen now and then tell us: what’s one “revision” you’re ready to make in your own life?

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