Here with You, Mama

It's Not Just in Your Head- The Mental Load of Motherhood

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Hi love,

If you’ve ever sat down at the end of the day and wondered “Why am I this tired when I didn’t even get that much done?” — this episode is for you.

Today, we’re talking about the mental load of motherhood — the invisible labor that so many moms carry in their minds and bodies every single day. The remembering, the anticipating, the tracking, the managing — often for everyone in the household. And the emotional weight of it? It’s real. It's valid. And it is not in your head.

This conversation is about finally naming what you’re carrying, so you can stop questioning your exhaustion and start giving yourself the grace and support you deserve.

In this episode, we’ll explore:
  • What exactly the mental load is — and why it’s so exhausting

  • Why high-achieving moms often carry more invisible labor (without realizing it)

  • The emotional cost of “pushing through” and doing it all

  • A practical framework to make the invisible visible — and begin to share the load

  • The difference between help and offloading, and how to shift responsibility with your partner

  • What to do in the moment when overwhelm spirals — and how to respond with self-compassion instead of shame

  • Why rest is not a reward (and how to give yourself permission to take it)

    • Mama, if your mind is always “on,” if you’re holding a thousand tabs open even while you’re trying to rest — this episode will meet you right where you are. Let this be a space where you are seen, validated, and reminded that you are not alone.

    🔗 Links & Resources:
    • Learn more about the Here With You, Mama coaching program: herewithyoumama.com
    • DM me the word “Support” on Instagram @herewithyoumama if you want someone to walk this path beside you
    • Want to feel seen and supported in your motherhood experience? Join the waitlist for the coaching program here
    • Read the full blog version of this episode: Here with You, Mama Blog

      • 💛 Share this episode with a mama who:
      • Thinks she has to do it all to be a “good mom”
      • Feels tired all the time and wonders why

      • Needs a reminder that what she’s doing — and holding — is enough

        • You don’t have to carry it all alone. And you were never meant to.

        I’m so glad you’re here.

        With you, always —
        Dina

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        Here with You, MamaBy Dina Tamres