itsoKHAY

Everybody Got an Opinion… Including Me! 👀🤣

Everybody has an opinion, but baby… does everybody need to HEAR it?! 😭🤣

This week on itsoKHAY, we’re talking unsolicited advice, relationship drama, parenting differences, accountability, and learning when to simply mind your business.

Because sometimes people don’t want advice… they want an AMEN! And sometimes we’re the ones who need to check ourselves. 👀

We’re getting into the difference between giving advice and trying to control somebody’s decisions, respecting people without always agreeing with them, and realizing that every situation doesn’t require our commentary.

And when you’ve said all you can say?

“Aw. Okay.” 👁️👄👁️🤣

🎙️ Let’s talk about it…

Life is messy, but it’s okay… and so are you. 💜

Listen… the old Khay would’ve pulled up—and according to my cousin Kiara, baby, she DID! 🤣😮‍💨

In this episode, Kiara opens the vault on my pull-up days, Chris Woods brings over 20 years’ worth of receipts, and I get honest about the difference between growing and pretending nothing bothers me.

We’re talking about knowing your worth, choosing your battles, walking away without feeling like somebody got over on you, and realizing you don’t have to compete for a place in anybody’s life.

Now don’t get me wrong—the old Khay ain’t dead, baby. She just doesn’t get to make all the decisions anymore. 🤣

Press play for real stories, raw truth, plenty of laughter and a reminder that growth doesn’t mean you’ve lost your fire—it means you’ve learned when it’s worth using.

🎙️ Real talk. Bigger perspective. Same Kchloe.

Follow itsoKHAY, share the episode and tell me: What situation would the old you have handled completely differently? 👀

Season 2, Episode 1: I Had a Plan… Life Did Too 😮‍💨

GIRLLLLL… where do I even begin?! 🤣

I had a whole plan for my summer. Finish my devotional, get my businesses moving, prepare for Season Two, and come back like I never left.

But baby… LIFE had other plans!

Four kids, two and a half weeks at work together, unexpected detours, grief, relationships, and a whole lot of moments that reminded me I am NOT in control of everything. 😮‍💨

In this season premiere, we’re catching up on what life has looked like behind the scenes. From motherhood and mental exhaustion to learning when to rest, releasing what no longer serves me, and figuring out what Kchloe actually wants outside of everybody else’s expectations.

Because sometimes the plan changes, not because you’ve failed, but because life is teaching you something along the way.

Season Two is here, and we’re having real conversations about the messy, funny, uncomfortable, and beautiful parts of becoming.

Real. Relatable. Still Rooted.

Welcome back to itsoKHAY. 💜

Life is messy, but it’s okay… and so are you.

And your chaos? Baby, it’s still allowed to be beautiful. ✨

Season Two is here🤎

Life kept life-ing, plans changed, and somewhere in the middle of all the chaos… I changed too.

Before we get into everything we need to catch up on, I asked some of the people closest to me to tell me how they see Khay—the growth, the mess, the heart, and everything in between. And whew… hearing myself through the people who know me hit a little different.

This season, we’re going deeper. More stories. More honesty. More laughter. More of the conversations we usually have behind closed doors.

Real. Relatable. Still Rooted.

Whew… I’m back, y’all. And we got some catching up to do🎙️

Season Two of itsoKHAY begins October 8.

Life is messy… but that’s okay. And so are you🤎

🎙️ Episode 8: itsoKHAY to Be Becoming

Season one finale. 🤍

In this episode, Khay reflects on the heartbreak, healing, motherhood, rebuilding, emotional growth, and life changes that shaped not only this season… but the woman she’s becoming.

This conversation is for anybody who has ever felt behind, lost, emotionally exhausted, or ashamed of still being a work in progress.

Because healing isn’t always pretty.
 Sometimes becoming looks like crying, rebuilding, forgiving slowly, starting over, and still choosing to keep going anyway.

From grieving old versions of yourself… to learning how to give yourself grace while you grow… this episode is a reminder that you do not have to have everything figured out to be worthy of peace, growth, or purpose.

Maybe you’re not behind.
 Maybe you’re not broken.

Maybe…

you’re becoming. 🤍

✨ Real talk. Real healing. Real Khay.

#itsoKHAY #SeasonOneFinale #Becoming

Starting over sounds inspiring… until you actually gotta do it.

In this episode, Khay gets real about heartbreak, betrayal, public mistakes, emotional exhaustion, and what it means to rebuild your life after seasons that almost broke you.

This isn’t a conversation about pretending to be perfect. It’s about accountability, healing, motherhood, emotional growth, and learning how to move differently when life changes you.

From rebuilding confidence… to learning that every feeling doesn’t deserve a reaction… this episode is for anybody trying to find themselves again after disappointment, pain, or emotional burnout.

Because sometimes starting over isn’t failure…
 sometimes it’s the first sign that your life is finally changing.

✨ Real talk. Real growth. Real Khay.

#itsoKHAY #HealingOutLoud #GrowthSeason

Giving yourself space…sounds good in theory until you’re the one actually living it.

In this episode of itsoKHAY, I’m talking about what it really looks like to step back and give yourself space when life feels unclear, emotions are high, and you’re trying not to make decisions from hurt, pressure, or confusion.

This conversation is personal for me.

As a mother, a business owner, and someone still learning in real time… I’ve had to realize that not every feeling deserves a reaction, and not every moment requires an immediate answer.

Sometimes space isn’t about giving up…sometimes it’s about protecting your peace, your future, and the people connected to you.

This episode is for anybody trying to slow down long enough to hear themselves again.🤍

Trusting yourself again…

Yeah… this one right here?
 It’s not easy.

In this episode of itsoKHAY, I’m being real about what it feels like to try to trust yourself again after you’ve ignored your own voice, second guessed your feelings, and questioned your decisions.

This isn’t a “I got it all figured out” episode…

This is a “I’m still learning” episode.

Because the truth is…
 when you’ve spent so much time talking yourself out of what you felt, it’s hard to know what to trust anymore.

And if I’m being honest?

I stopped trusting me…
 and I’m learning how to find my way back.

This episode is for anybody who feels out of place, unsure, or disconnected from themselves right now.

You’re not off track.

You’re just learning yourself again…
 with everything you’ve been through.

🤍

Waiting…

Yeah… this part right here?
 This the part nobody likes.

In this episode of itsoKHAY, I’m talking about what it really feels like to be in a waiting season — when you know you can’t go back, but you’re also not ready to move forward.

That in-between space where everything feels quiet…
 where you start questioning yourself…
 and where it’s tempting to either go back to what’s familiar or rush into something new just to fill the void.

But hear me good na…

Just because it’s quiet doesn’t mean nothing is happening.

Sometimes God will sit you in a place where nothing seems to be moving — not to punish you, but to protect you. To keep you from going backwards… and from moving too fast.

This episode is for the ones learning how to sit still…
 trust the process…
 and grow in the waiting.

Because you’re not stuck…

You’re being prepared.

🤍

Outgrowing people isn’t always loud.

Sometimes there’s no argument… no fallout… no clear ending.

Just distance… and the quiet realization that you’re not the same person anymore.

In this episode, Khay gets real about what it looks like to outgrow relationships, friendships, and environments that once felt like home. From questioning yourself to being labeled as the one who “changed,” this conversation is a reminder that growth isn’t betrayal—it’s evolution.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, disconnected, or guilty for choosing peace over familiarity… this one is for you.

Because everybody can’t go with you…

and that doesn’t make you wrong.

It just means you’re growing.