You might not just be attached to your partner—you might also be holding onto the life you had with them, the future you hoped for, and even the past regrets. That’s many layers of attachment. So if you find yourself doing a lot of work, it’s because there is a lot of work to do.

There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing broken here. It’s just the truth of what deep attachment looks like. And sometimes—it’s like that. And that’s okay.