Jacia Kornwise is a Master Embodied Soul Coach, Transformational Experience Facilitator, and inspirational and TEDx speaker. She is the author of “The Love Ball Game - Embracing Yourself and Embodying Your Soul.” She has an impressive 31-year career dedicated to helping individuals, couples and groups transform their stuck points into resilience and embodied resourcefulness. She has led retreats, workshops, corporate and private events, and festivals, sharing her tools to embody healing. As a multiple trauma survivor and grief survivor, she shares herself from the heart, leading the way. Jacia received her BA in English Literature from the University of Michigan and a teaching certification. She received her Masters in Integral Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies and her Masters Shadow Coaching degree from the late Debbie Ford. She is a trained and certified 5 Rhythms Dance teacher by Gabrielle Roth and The Moving Center. She studied and trained in various breath-work, somatic, and mindfulness-based teachings. She runs the Satori Healing Center in Chico, California and is a Mom to her teenage son and puppy. 

Discovering one's authenticity is a profound journey, often marked by overcoming the conditioning of people-pleasing tendencies and navigating the realms of somatic healing. In this conversation with Jacia Kornwise, we explore her personal odyssey and the transformative power of reconnecting with the self, where you’ll discover:

Journey into Authenticity:

• Jacia's childhood was characterized by a deep sense of insecurity, driven by a need to please others.

• Born blind in one eye, she faced external judgments and a constant yearning to fit in, which influenced her people-pleasing behavior.

• Her authentic self, a vibrant, expressive being, was stifled by societal expectations and self-imposed limitations.

Awakening Triggers:

• The tragic loss of Jacia's brother to a drunk driver shattered her external world, prompting her to seek comfort within herself.

• Traditional forms of therapy felt inadequate, leading her to explore deeper, seeking solace and understanding within her own being.

People-Pleasing and Its Impact:

• People-pleasing becomes ingrained as a survival mechanism to feel accepted and safe in the world.

• The external rewards for mastering people-pleasing can lead to success, but a sense of emptiness prevails when the authentic self is neglected.

Listening to the Inner Voice:

• The journey to authenticity often begins with subtle signals – dreams, visions, or a persistent inner voice.

• Acknowledging and listening to this inner voice becomes pivotal in breaking free from the shackles of people-pleasing.

Dancing with the Inner Child:

• Rediscovering the essence of the inner child through shadow work is a powerful catalyst for healing.

• Embracing childhood photos and reconnecting with the unrestrained, authentic self brings profound emotional release.

Impact of People-Pleasing on Identity:

• People-pleasing erodes one's authentic identity, leading to a disconnected, performative existence.

• The process of reclaiming authenticity involves unraveling layers of conditioning and societal expectations.

Understanding Trauma:

• Trauma is not solely about major external events but is deeply rooted in the internal interpretation and meaning assigned to experiences.

• Unprocessed trauma becomes a filter through which individuals navigate their lives, impacting relationships, career choices, and self-worth.

Navigating Unprocessed Events:

• Unprocessed events, especially in areas like dating, can perpetuate patterns of victimhood and unworthiness.

• Healing involves questioning the internalized assessments of one's worth, cultivating self-love, and embracing imperfections.

The Nature of Healing:

• Healing is not a linear process and cannot be rushed. It requires patience, self-acceptance, and a commitment to exploring the depths of one's being.

• The importance of embodying the healing journey – connecting mind, heart, and body – is highlighted as a guiding principle.

Principles Guiding the Healing Journey:

• Authenticity became the beacon for Jacia as the pain of not being true to herself became a powerful motivator.

• Embracing solitude, being okay with being alone, and finding joy in activities that resonated with her authentic self were key principles.

From Understanding to Embodiment:

• Shifting from intellectual understanding to somatic embodiment was crucial in Jacia's healing journey.

• Grounding herself, feeling her feet on the earth, and finding freedom in physical expression were pivotal aspects of her transformative process.

Final Takeaway for Listeners:

• The journey to authenticity involves acknowledging and embracing all facets of oneself.

• Somatic healing, integrating mind, body, and spirit, is a profound pathway to unlocking the true self.

• Embracing imperfections and fostering self-love are fundamental in breaking free from the chains of people-pleasing and societal conditioning.

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