In this Episode:

Jacquie was the middle child between two brothers. As she was growing up she competed for the attention of her mother.

Jacquie also spoke about her need to be validated in her place of work.

She worked very hard and took that competitive edge to her job.  "In that competitiveness, there was also the approval seeking. Look at how I can do this, I can do this better than you."   "I had to work 10 times harder than any man just to be seen"

I resonated with her story, for many years I sought validation from others, if someone said something nice to me, my day was made.  Equally, if I was criticised, I felt bad all day.

I relied on others to feel good, I gave the power to others to make me feel bad or good. It was a never-ending vicious circle.

Ultimately Jacquie saw through her story and she started to see what was important and unimportant.

During her NLP training, she started to realise that there is a gap between who you think you are and who you actually are. There is a space between you and your thoughts, you and your identity.

She realised that she didn't have to be externally referenced. What other people thought of her had nothing to do with her, it had everything to do with them.

How often do you seek validation?

How long does it last?

Do you know that what you are seeking is looking right at you?

I invite you to listen to the end, she shares a story about an episode in a supermarket that is somewhat dreadful but equally powerful.

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