What do you do when your deepest secrets are weaponized against you? Healing from sexual trauma often begins the moment we decide to bring our hidden stories into the light, refusing to let shame dictate our future.

In this moving episode, James Boucher shares his journey from a life of secrecy and censorship to one of radical authenticity. After being secretly recorded and blackmailed, James made the courageous decision to "blast" the narrative by going public, eventually finding a sense of community and relief he never thought possible after years of childhood trauma and addiction.

James discusses the unique challenges men face when addressing sexual abuse and why it took five years in therapy before he could even mention his childhood experiences out loud. He highlights how shifting from secrecy to speech is a vital component of the healing process.

When faced with a secret recording and the threat of exposure, James opted for transparency over fear. By sharing his story on his own terms via TikTok and YouTube, he effectively neutralized the power the other person held over him.

With ten years of sobriety, James reflects on how quitting drinking was the catalyst for starting the deep "work" in therapy. He explains how progress is often incremental, taking a full decade to transform into the person he is today.

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• 00:00 – The Unexpected Answer in Life's Difficult Moments
• 01:01 – A Lifetime of "Censoring" the Self
• 01:35 – The Silent Impact of Childhood Trauma
• 01:55 – The Secret Recording That Changed Everything
• 02:15 – Why Going Public was the Only Choice
• 03:34 – Turning a Negative into a Public Benefit
• 05:08 – The "Two Separate Lives" Phenomenon
• 07:34 – A Surprise Community in Puerto Vallarta
• 09:28 – The Physical Weight of Being Seen
• 11:12 – Living Free from Small-Town Expectations
• 13:00 – Why Telling the Story Once Changes the Dynamic
• 15:32 – The "No More Skeletons" Content Strategy
• 17:49 – Reaching the Ten-Year Sobriety Milestone
• 19:37 – The Six-Year-Old in the Bedroom Exercise
• 22:20 – The Work Event Compliment That Triggered a Breakdown
• 24:32 – The Invisible Struggle in the Background