Carla and Sherry start this week off with a Love Fix question from someone whose partner gets frustrated with their lack of focus and undivided attention. They then welcome Jessica Da Silva, LMFT and Attachment Coach, who helps adults end their unhealthy dating patterns to create strong and secure relationships. Jessica talks about the four different attachment theories, and how we can learn from both the challenges and gifts that each one brings.

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Where the attachment theory came from and how it stems from the attachment bonds between caregiver and child.
• More about the four different attachment styles and ways we experience love: anxious attachment, dismissive, avoidant, and secure attachment.
• No one is 100% one way of an attachment style, but it is on a spectrum.
• Jessica discusses some soothing exercises she does to help ground different attachment styles.
• Check out Jessica's attachment coaching programs, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What does it mean when someone is a dismissive avoidant?
• How can an anxiously attached person be in a relationship with an avoidant attached one?
• Jessica talks about her own experience as a fearful avoidant, and how her current relationship made her more secure.
• Which attachment style seems to go with codependents, and which is more narcissistic?
• Why it's important for us to know what attachment style we fall more into.
• What the healing and recovery process can look like and why having a therapist or professional help you is critical.
• If we don't deal with our traumas, we can end up projecting our insecurities on other relationships in our life.
• The steps someone can use to cultivate a secure attachment style.

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